Hi everyone,
I have been escorting over a year now and 10 months ago I met my boyfriend..thing is he doesn't know anything about my 'secret life'!I don't want to give this up as I was doing it before I met him but although I've cut down my clients I still get paranoid!Anybody else in the same situation?

I knew a woman who's husband didn't know for years!

I don't understand how this is possible but I am so uncomfortable deceiving people long-term that I struggle even with acquaintances. I don't mean this as a moral judgement. I just personally find the emotional stress too great to be able to do it very well.

I suppose the worst bit is worrying about being found out. I hope you find a way to deal with this that works for you. xxx

Well, I first started working in this line of business when things got a bit difficult with my boyfriend (at the time), and I had to move out. Soon after that, we split up, but to this day he has no idea... And I prefer to keep it that way. Ultimately, it's up to you, but I'd advise against telling anyone, unless you trust them absolutely, 100%...

Boyfriend found out and was the worst thing ever. He turned into a total nut job and threatened to kill me in the end one way or another. I still owe him ?450 that I am paying back to him then he is out of my life.

I think if anything just choose your partner wisely. And keep it from him at all costs or just don't have a boyfriend.

Or get yourself a girlfriend instead

On that note, I just had him ask me to give him sex stories to pay him off.... 

Putting everything else aside, they are all pretty bog standard and nothing really happens differently in each appointment to get him off enough



^^^^^ This is why you shouldn't have a bf (who turns into an ex) while doing this kind of work ^^^^^

I met someone while doing this job and he changed my whole life. we both fell completely in love with one another and i cut back my clients and was just earning enough to get by. In the end he found out and their was a big show down. In the end he tried to cope with bening with me and me doing the job but he just could not cope with it. He then gave me the ultimatum to either pick him or do the job. I picked him and ended up having a break from escorting. However the money ended up luring me back and i'm back doing it. Me and him are still together and he dosnt know what i'm doing and i hope to god he never does. If i was to go back and change things though I would have told him a month or so into the relationship. As we never really had a conventional start to a relationship (e.g. we met and just fell for one another straight away and became a couple after a few days) it was so hard to tell him.

I met someone while doing this job and he changed my whole life. we both fell completely in love with one another and i cut back my clients and was just earning enough to get by. In the end he found out and their was a big show down. In the end he tried to cope with bening with me and me doing the job but he just could not cope with it. He then gave me the ultimatum to either pick him or do the job. I picked him and ended up having a break from escorting. However the money ended up luring me back and i'm back doing it. Me and him are still together and he dosnt know what i'm doing and i hope to god he never does. If i was to go back and change things though I would have told him a month or so into the relationship. As we never really had a conventional start to a relationship (e.g. we met and just fell for one another straight away and became a couple after a few days) it was so hard to tell him.

This was the ultimatum I was given.

You need to be soooo on your toes with this one If you are still with him!!!

I had a partner for 3 years that didn't know.  It was one of the worst, loneliest, darkest times in my entire life and I think it messes you up in ways you can't predict or prepare for.  I really really feel for you too.  It's incredibly stressful and a lot of pressure on you if you don't have an 'exit plan' as I didn't.  It was just like stumbling along in the dark and feeling for your way out and not really facing what you're putting yourself through.  I had trouble sleeping, eating, I was convinced I had it all under control and it's only when you are out of the situation itself that you can see how much it messed up you.  I'd cry for no reason, pick fights with him, find reasons to leave him and pushed him away.  I'd inadvertently punish myself as a way of dealing with the guilt and the shame and the anxiety of him finding him.  He would of unleashed hell! I mean it was a real mess and I hope to God that I don't meet anyone until I leave this industry for good.  I'd like to think that I'd walk away and not put myself through that roller coaster ever again, but when it comes to the opposite sex and I don't mean to sound naive but you just don't know do you   

The only advice I can give you, is to start planning.  Have an exit strategy in place if you see a future with him.  There's a possibility that the strain on your and your well being is only going to get worse and it's a very lonely, painful and exhausting place to be.  The pressure to get out is immense but it's something you can manage!  Just keep a cool head sweetie and don't forget you've always got us and this forum for support.  Seriously, good luck.

C xx