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Emily_J

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Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« on: 27 January 2020, 10:34:11 am »
I started escorting back in September. At first, it was exciting, I've never had this kind of money before, and it couldn't have been introduced to me at a better time. I'd jacked in my job to start teaching yoga full time and was scraping together just enough money to pay the bills with little to none left over for anything else. I say bills but Id actually moved in with a family member so I was paying them to stay here.

I had to start lying about why I now have enough money to live and do normal things (I never flash the cash). Yoga is a good cover. I was doing private 1:1 yoga classes at peoples houses before this anyway. I do a lot of touring in London and have quite a few regulars there but I feel so lonely some times when I stay there for a few days. Even when I'm home. Maybe because I feel like I cant tell people about this side of my life.
I used to strip now and again when I was in Australia so I experienced it a little then but it was different as I had my girls and we were always there for each other and some of them became my best friends.

Does anyone else experience anything like this?

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #1 on: 27 January 2020, 11:17:11 am »
Yes I miss having work colleagues someone to moan to when I’m having a bad day or just chat about work.

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #2 on: 27 January 2020, 12:03:38 pm »
Absolutely. I’m finding it a bit of a challenge especially on days I feel like things aren’t going well and I need someone to rant to!

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #3 on: 27 January 2020, 12:30:56 pm »
Not at all. I’m an extreme introvert so it’s enough to be on the “social” mode for the time of bookings, any more of that would be draining. Like a spider only socialising to mate  ;D ;D

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #4 on: 27 January 2020, 02:30:33 pm »
It used to be very isolating for me but luckily I have found a local fellow escort for regular offload chinwags and support.

However this did not really get going until a year ago after 6 crippling years of no local fellow escort for the moral support.

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #5 on: 27 January 2020, 02:53:36 pm »
I'm terribly lonely & this can be a very isolating job. It's also made me extremely suspicious of absolutely everyone & everything, which I hate, but time & again I've been proven right.

BF who knew what I was doing & promised on the Bible (I actually made him) he'd never throw the job in my face? Did.

BFF of 10 years whom I had a falling out with? Outed me on FB.

I just will not trust anyone anymore, & I hate that☹️.

There's been a few other things with other ppl, but those 2 stand out. I'm so, so lonely but I don't dare trust anyone, & it's simply exhausting keeping up the double life if you DON'T tell them.
I journal A LOT & that helps enormously. I'd love to have some sort of hobby that I could do with regularity, but it's hard when I'm on the road literally 3 weeks out of 4.

I absolutely miss being in a call center (what I did for years) & that socialization. I can't do both unfortunately, it'd just be too hard on me.
An American on a British site, still learning the slang😉

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #6 on: 27 January 2020, 03:20:10 pm »
I’m literally sat in my hotel room now thinking how I’d love to have someone nearby to pop and see or call up.
Sometimes when I see other WG’s on AW announce they’re in a hotel that could be the same as mine, I almost wanna message them to ask and be like “hey! Give me a shout in between clients, I’ll come knocking for a coffee and chat!”

I am very low maintenance, genuinely caring & don’t want any drama, I just wanna earn my money and that’s that, but I learnt a few times over that not all other ladies can be trusted to be your friend in this line of work either.

Emily_J

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #7 on: 27 January 2020, 04:52:21 pm »
I'm quite introverted and being with clients exhausts me too but I miss having friends to have a good gossip with or miss being able to talk honestly about my life with the friends I do have. I was actually super lucky when I started out on AW as it was a friend working on there that introduced me to it so I had her for a while but she has just had a baby now so shes stepped back from work for a while and is obviously a little preoccupied now.

There should be like a business networking group but for escorts where we can laugh about funny situations, support each other thought the bad ones and share tips... I guess that's what this forum is for though.

I only joined this site yesterday and I'm loving reading through all the posts!

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #8 on: 27 January 2020, 08:21:58 pm »
miss being able to talk honestly about my life with the friends I do have.

This is the hardest aspect for me -the lack of transparency with family. I can't share with them anecdotes about work, and they can't relate to my experiences.
Other than that, I don't feel lonely as I chat a lot with clients during bookings and also on webcam.
I only have one male friend who knows what I do. But he doesn't understand the female perspective of escorting, he just thinks it's amusing.


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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #9 on: 28 January 2020, 04:40:32 am »
There is a therapist who can do sessions on skype who is escort friendly.  Her details are on this site somewhere.  I am not sure.

Apparently she is based in Derbyshire.

I used to wonder if she would be able to help me but I never got round to booking.  Luckily I don't feel the need any longer.

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #10 on: 28 January 2020, 11:35:06 am »

I am very low maintenance, genuinely caring & don’t want any drama, I just wanna earn my money and that’s that, but I learnt a few times over that not all other ladies can be trusted to be your friend in this line of work either.

Unfortunately,  you are correct. I have a small network of ladies I can chat with but they are colleagues. We help each other with letting off steam, touring issues and the like. I've met a couple of them on the circuit.

As for good friends, I've been stung before, more than once. I have one lady I am very friendly with and we chat most days.

I too, just want to go out to work, earn money and come back to my little country retreat.

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #11 on: 28 January 2020, 02:48:22 pm »
Thankfully I have one friend that I have made in the industry, that I can call on if I have any questions or have had any issues. Occasionally we meet for a coffee and chat which is nice.

I also have three friends that know what I do outside the industry so it's nice to be able to chat and share stuff with them.

It would be nice if there were some socials that could be arranged more locally to share experiences with other SWs.

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #12 on: 28 January 2020, 07:25:52 pm »
I did and became limited part-time, escorting on it's own wasn't satisfying me.  I set myself a new rule to observe if escorting consumes me to get busier in my personal life. 

I would advise you to do what it takes to bring yourself joy.

It looks like no way out, but it can and does happen after you make the change. I spent a year in therapy back then.



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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #13 on: 28 January 2020, 09:38:13 pm »

I too, just want to go out to work, earn money and come back to my little country retreat.

Ditto, ditto, ditto!

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Re: Does anyone else get lonely in this industry?
« Reply #14 on: 10 February 2020, 03:10:16 pm »
Yes it gets lonely. Me and my GF were eating brekkie on tour in a foreign country and another SW sat 2 tables away. We recognised her from her profile. Each day we sat breakfast and dinner politely ignoring. We daren't say hi, for fear of intruding!
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