Author Topic: Lost the motivation to escort. (Read 2619 times)

xTightYoungTeen · « **on:** 06 September 2014, 04:29:34 pm »

Hiya!
I feel as though the past few months I've rapidly lost the motivation to escort, I really don't know why!
I get phone calls & honestly don't want to answer them, then I get emails for a definite booking and I just don't have the motivation to go.
It's like I don't enjoy it anymore, or the excitement has gone.
I used to love it and the thrill of not knowing who I'm meeting and all that really excited me and made me really enjoy it I was working 3/4 days a week.
Now I can't even be bothered to accept one booking a week.
I'm not sure if it's got worse since starting direct camming either.
The last few bookings I've literally forced myself to go, put on a brave face got through it and literally counted the minutes til the booking was over.

Has anyone else ever felt like this? If you have what did you do about it? I hope this feeling goes because I genuinely enjoy escorting and want to have the fun feeling back again!
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amylondon · « **Reply #1 on:** 06 September 2014, 04:53:19 pm »

Hey I totally understand you.I ve been escorting for 2-3 years and the last few months I started feeling like this too..I gave myself a target(money-wise) and it gives me a bit of motivation tbh...I know I ll stop next summer but in the meantime I tell myself how much I have to make each week to feel comfortable and proud of myself...I take it day by day, week by week, and I know next summer I ll be ready to move on and have money on the side and feel comfortable about stoping escorting...
do you give yourself a target?
do you know what you want to do next?
or maybe take a bit of time off if you can and try to figure out what you really want to do?
I hope you ll feel better soon..good luck

Lady_Lust_XXX · « **Reply #2 on:** 06 September 2014, 05:02:17 pm »

I think many workers feel the same at some point or another. It's the length of time it lasts for that makes the difference. If it only lasts for a day or a week that's not to bad. Any longer and it's a different thing.

If it is your main way of earning you have to find an alternative way of earning until you get your mojo back ..... If indeed it comes back. Sometimes it doesn't and you just have to work round that too.

It all depends on how much you rely on your escort money. We usually know in ourselves if it is a blip or something stronger, if it's stronger then more thinking has to be done.

I gave up escorting last year when I got side effects of meds and didn't want to take the chance of taking a dizzy turn while with a client and I had to rethink my life. I could have gone back to escorting but decided to call it a day as I was enjoying life without it and not having to put up with the downside.

I am older but I don't think it has anything to do with age. It may just be a Give Time Time or it could be I've had enough, but only you can decide. How long have you not been escorting for? Could you survive with jot going back to it? The choice is yours and yours alone. If you have to go and sign on for a few months do that, there is no shame in taking time out or stopping. Take care. X

xTightYoungTeen · « **Reply #3 on:** 06 September 2014, 05:33:55 pm »

Thanks you two, knowing it's not normal makes me feel better!
I haven't escorted for around 6 weeks so not long!
But I have a potential booking tomorrow.

I do enjoy it and I do think it's just a blip I have been feeling down in general for a whole so that could be part of the problem.
I think once I get myself back into routine I should be okay, I'll try setting myself a target as I'm quite competitive and if I set myself a target I know I'll try harder to reach that target so that's a good I idea!

Thanks both of you xx

Innocent-whore · « **Reply #4 on:** 06 September 2014, 05:54:16 pm »

Even though I just do it part time, I have felt the same way recently and I simply refused to take on any bookings for the last week, even though they were longer, good bookings with clients I have seen before and liked. I just did not feel like it and if you can afford to take time off, it's definitely the best thing to do. Find other things to do; it's helped loads going out and completely taking my mind off of it. I even refused to answer any emails because I do not feel like it.

Like you, I very much enjoy the excitement of meeting new people and whenever I feel like I really don't want to be doing it, I don't.

saturnspirit · « **Reply #5 on:** 06 September 2014, 06:25:55 pm »

I think this job can be mentally as well as physically draining sometimes.

Best thing to do, book a holiday, put a note on your profile/ website saying your on holiday until such and such date and won't be answering any emails/ phone calls until back.

Don't answer any escort related phone calls or emails until you are back from your holiday.

This normally recharges the batteries. I have to do this every couple of months as I tour alot and get burn out. I personally find after a complete break for a few weeks with no answering emails or phone calls it chills me out, then when I'm ready to come back into escorting I'm rearing to go!

Try this and see how you get on. If after a break you still feel the same, then you may want to consider that escorting just isn't for you anymore and look at another career path.

Fabulassie · « **Reply #6 on:** 06 September 2014, 07:38:09 pm »

Quote from: xCoco on 06 September 2014, 05:33:55 pm

Thanks you two, knowing it's not normal makes me feel better!
I haven't escorted for around 6 weeks so not long!
But I have a potential booking tomorrow.

I do enjoy it and I do think it's just a blip I have been feeling down in general for a whole so that could be part of the problem.
I think once I get myself back into routine I should be okay, I'll try setting myself a target as I'm quite competitive and if I set myself a target I know I'll try harder to reach that target so that's a good I idea!

Thanks both of you xx

You may just be depressed. This sort of feeling - lack of motivation, dreading going to work - isn't specific to escorting.

What are you doing for yourself in terms of health and emotional happiness? Are you getting plenty of exercise? Eating well? Doing things you enjoy with people you care about?

sourgrapes · « **Reply #7 on:** 06 September 2014, 07:57:55 pm »

I feel like that a lot, and it's really frustrating because of all the money I can't really afford to lose. But, I often think that not wanting to do it is sane and authentic, and actually enjoying escorting (or trying to convince myself that I do) is not normal. After all, pretending to like being used by men who don't give a toss about us is all screwed up. All this job has to offer is money, and sometimes even that doesn't motivate me.

The_Lynx · « **Reply #8 on:** 06 September 2014, 08:03:08 pm »

Quote from: sourgrapes on 06 September 2014, 07:57:55 pm

I feel like that a lot, and it's really frustrating because of all the money I can't really afford to lose. But, I often think that not wanting to do it is sane and authentic, and actually enjoying escorting (or trying to convince myself that I do) is not normal. After all, pretending to like being used by men who don't give a toss about us is all screwed up. All this job has to offer is money, and sometimes even that doesn't motivate me.

That honestly depends on your attitude towards sex, really. I can't say I ever feel "used" personally.

Quote from: Fabulassie on 06 September 2014, 07:38:09 pm

You may just be depressed. This sort of feeling - lack of motivation, dreading going to work - isn't specific to escorting.

What are you doing for yourself in terms of health and emotional happiness? Are you getting plenty of exercise? Eating well? Doing things you enjoy with people you care about?

Inclined to agree with this. Even if it's not an actual depression, those kind of slouches happen regardless of the line of work.

sammy s · « **Reply #9 on:** 06 September 2014, 10:41:06 pm »

I feel your pain and felt like this for a long time. I did escorting 8 years and really started to hate it due to the fact it's such an unreliable job with no guarantees that you'll get bookings from week to week. Some months I would make a fortune and other months I would be living off credit cards and savings to survive.
Also the fact that no one at all knows that I do it was putting a real spanner in the works as I was constantly having to tell big lies to family & friends (and even a boyfriend at one point which ate me up with guilt).
On days that I didn't have bookings I would lie on the sofa feeling extremely stressed about money and becoming very depressed. On days that I had lots of bookings I would feel paranoid and seriously lacking in motivation to do them because I would keep thinking my family would find out or the neighbours would realise. It all got too much so I took a normal full time job which is dull but I've made good friends and it gets me out of the house and I have a set routine. The depression has vanished because I know I'll always have money for rent, bills, food, savings & spending money guaranteed every month (even if it does require working 37 hours a week).
I now only escort once or twice each week, and I always look forward to it and don't have to worry about people finding out as much. I use the money for treats such as holidays, clothes or extra savings for a mortgage/new car

Fabulassie · « **Reply #10 on:** 06 September 2014, 10:46:34 pm »

Quote from: The_Lynx on 06 September 2014, 08:03:08 pm

Quote from: Fabulassie on 06 September 2014, 07:38:09 pm
You may just be depressed. This sort of feeling - lack of motivation, dreading going to work - isn't specific to escorting.

What are you doing for yourself in terms of health and emotional happiness? Are you getting plenty of exercise? Eating well? Doing things you enjoy with people you care about?

Inclined to agree with this. Even if it's not an actual depression, those kind of slouches happen regardless of the line of work.

Yes. I go through these periods (in life generally, not just when I've been an escort). What works for me are several things.

1. Exercise. I once battled off bipolar (induced by severe lack of sunlight in Scotland) by getting active. I started running and hill walking. It made a huge difference in my mood. Currently, I am doing a lot of working out at the gym and getting in a good hill walk once a week. Fresh air and daylight are incredibly valuable.

2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - well, from books. This is a way of dealing with negative thoughts that bring our mood down.

3. Mindfulness meditation. I actually haven't done this as much as I should. But it does help and it goes along with the CBT.

4. Diet. Cutting out sugar (which I did gradually) and focusing on healthy eating with less alcohol seems to help me a lot.

I still get into bad moods but they pass relatively quickly. When I'm having a crap day because someone or something has gotten to me, I can take that day off. I'm better by the next day or so.

If you're physically tired, or emotionally stressed elsewhere in your life, it can be very hard to summon the energy to give a shit about John Q. Punter and his penis.

xTightYoungTeen · « **Reply #11 on:** 07 September 2014, 04:27:10 am »

Quote from: Fabulassie on 06 September 2014, 07:38:09 pm

Quote from: xCoco on 06 September 2014, 05:33:55 pm
Thanks you two, knowing it's not normal makes me feel better!
I haven't escorted for around 6 weeks so not long!
But I have a potential booking tomorrow.

I do enjoy it and I do think it's just a blip I have been feeling down in general for a whole so that could be part of the problem.
I think once I get myself back into routine I should be okay, I'll try setting myself a target as I'm quite competitive and if I set myself a target I know I'll try harder to reach that target so that's a good I idea!

Thanks both of you xx

You may just be depressed. This sort of feeling - lack of motivation, dreading going to work - isn't specific to escorting.

What are you doing for yourself in terms of health and emotional happiness? Are you getting plenty of exercise? Eating well? Doing things you enjoy with people you care about?

I think I may be depressed yeah.
I've had it before and it's the exact same feeling no motivation to do anything, eating rubbish and not getting out.
I think I'm going to take a week off maybe go shopping go out with a few girlfriends and see if that helps, I swan in and out of this kind of depression phase a few times a year it's like a feeling of dullness and disappointment within myself, but it subsides after a while.
I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one who has ever had this feeling!
Thanks for all the replies. X

StawberryFields · « **Reply #12 on:** 08 September 2014, 06:51:19 pm »

It's funny, I've found that recently just because business has picked up! Before, when I hardly had anyone trying to book me, I'd jump at each chance. Now, I get about 30-40 requests a day (mostly timewasters, I'm sure, but it is pretty constant and overwhelming) and I just want to hide under the duvet and tell them all to go away!

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Candy · « **Reply #13 on:** 09 September 2014, 05:17:18 pm »

I just bought myself a pill, herbal, that conteinsts ingriediants to put you in good mood. It's not work related but I felt I really needed thou.

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