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Author Topic: Do you kiss clients? Is it possible to offer GFE excluding kissing?  (Read 10472 times)

Jill

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Sophie, thanks. I will refuse doing dfk.
Kissing an escort is clinical and a bit stupid itself, in my opinion.
They know well there is no passion.....

I do not agree it is stupid to kiss an escort. To many people including myself kissing is part of the sexual act and a good snog can awaken things which may not have awoken before.

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As with many aspects of escorting work, that's a highly subjective opinion - I love snogging the face off some of my clients!
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I no longer offer DFK or even closed mouth kissing and I am so much happier in this job now. Don't ever be afraid to only offer the services that you want to and feel comfortable offering just because you think you will lose business, because punters who want your current services will book you now and if you change your service list then new punters that want what you will offer in the future will come out of the woodwork and replace that 'lost business'.

You will even attract new punters who once thought you were 'dirty' or something because you offer OWO for example suddenly thinking you are 'clean' because they see it disappear from your profile and vice-versa, that's right ladies guys don't count all that bare cock you've sucked in the past as long as you haven't done it too recently LOL. So in your case someone who doesn't want the GFE will book you because they want a quick, hard shag with no strings attached, it's all about the kind of punter you want to attract, a sweet guy who wants to 'make love' and will grow attached to a prostitute over time or the guy who just wants to empty his balls as quick as possible and then fuck off, either is fine and advertise accordingly for the kind you require.

Oh and I've lost no business since I decided to offer all services covered and implemented my no kissing rule, regulars stayed and accepted my rules and newbies accept what my advertising states if they don't I don't see them, end of. I'm in a LTR and I only want to kiss/suck bare my husband that doesn't make me a bad whore, it just means my priorities of the job have now changed. Don't feel guilty OP re-work your approach so everything about your job is how you want it to be, you'll be much happier and last longer in the industry.
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newbieNW

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Excellent point, TB.

I have heard that every escort has "something special", only to be shared with her husband / BF (e.g. usually kissing).  I have known punters who only want OW and absolutely no kissing.  I sussed out that he was trying to "save it" for his future wife or GF (or simply worried about catching something / he has some health concern etc.).  Not every single punter would want the same thing.  Some get horrified by A-levels whilst others like it.

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I just ticked this off my profile and I updated it accordingly.  :)

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We all have things we don't want to offer. When I first started I thought I would hate the kissing because it's always been highly personal for me, but it turns out I don't mind it.

You will still get business, I've seen plenty of guys who prefer not to kiss and although I don't really enjoy this, they seem to  :)

Jill

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I offer kissing and happily do it but with every new man I ask if they like to kiss. It gives them the option to say oh yes! or otherwise. When I ask I can usually tell if they are dead keen by their facial expression and eyes and those who love kissing will let me know soon enough and off we go with it.
What I do not do is assume all new guys want to dfk or even kiss at all.


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I personally wouldnt offer GFE if i didnt kiss (what Girlfriend doesnt kiss their lover?) but I totally get why people save it. I dont agrree on that comment about
"Kissing an escort is clinical and a bit stupid itself, in my opinion" at all. We all know theres more to an escort then spreading her legs, esspecially as some clients like the fantasy and to have an hour when they are just taken care of in different ways. I think sometimes we can get very blunt about our jobs, but not everyone wants to be so mechanical during a booking!! If i didnt keep other things for my fella , id probably keep kissing but I honestly dont think i'd ever offer GFE without it x
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I personally wouldnt offer GFE if i didnt kiss (what Girlfriend doesnt kiss their lover?) but I totally get why people save it. I dont agrree on that comment about
"Kissing an escort is clinical and a bit stupid itself, in my opinion" at all. We all know theres more to an escort then spreading her legs, esspecially as some clients like the fantasy and to have an hour when they are just taken care of in different ways. I think sometimes we can get very blunt about our jobs, but not everyone wants to be so mechanical during a booking!! If i didnt keep other things for my fella , id probably keep kissing but I honestly dont think i'd ever offer GFE without it x

I think this is a good answer. A lot of escorts will look at everything from their own point of view and in many ways I can see why. Egos inflate, clients become commodities they want to do the least for the most money they can. They don't feel anything for a client and it is just a service for a transaction but for the client they are paying for a fantasy and not all of them just want to turn up and stick it in then leave in 10 minutes as much as some girls will wish that is the case!

I think treating clients as individuals is good and not turning yourself into a sex battery farm is good for clients feeling they got a good service and for your own health. Seriously you might as well lock yourself in a cage bent over with a hole in it and just let guys come in all day. Some clients like kisses some want to be cuddled, some want just to get laid. Many do want that fantasy of feeling like they actually have a girl who gives a crap about them for an hour or so.

"I don't kiss on the lips it's too personal" still sounds too clich? too lol.

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I personally wouldnt offer GFE if i didnt kiss (what Girlfriend doesnt kiss their lover?) but I totally get why people save it. I dont agrree on that comment about
"Kissing an escort is clinical and a bit stupid itself, in my opinion" at all. We all know theres more to an escort then spreading her legs, esspecially as some clients like the fantasy and to have an hour when they are just taken care of in different ways. I think sometimes we can get very blunt about our jobs, but not everyone wants to be so mechanical during a booking!! If i didnt keep other things for my fella , id probably keep kissing but I honestly dont think i'd ever offer GFE without it x

I think this is a good answer. A lot of escorts will look at everything from their own point of view and in many ways I can see why. Egos inflate, clients become commodities they want to do the least for the most money they can. They don't feel anything for a client and it is just a service for a transaction but for the client they are paying for a fantasy and not all of them just want to turn up and stick it in then leave in 10 minutes as much as some girls will wish that is the case!

I think treating clients as individuals is good and not turning yourself into a sex battery farm is good for clients feeling they got a good service and for your own health. Seriously you might as well lock yourself in a cage bent over with a hole in it and just let guys come in all day. Some clients like kisses some want to be cuddled, some want just to get laid. Many do want that fantasy of feeling like they actually have a girl who gives a crap about them for an hour or so.

"I don't kiss on the lips it's too personal" still sounds too clich? too lol.

Very true, i find it hard to have 'passion' without a bit of kissing. I mean, everyone can make their own minds up about things but every time i hear no kissing I just think of a very hollywood view of an escort (ie, pretty woman) x
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I  kiss a client that's not got stubble or breath doesn't stink.
I have noticed it get's most guys harder quicker, and as a result they usually cum quicker as well.
I have been told I'm a good kisser, and think this is one of the reasons that I have fairly busy days whilst I'm at work.

Miss Bentley

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At the risk of voicing an unpopular opinion... Why do you need to advertise GFE or PSE. I don't do owo and go back and forward on kissing or not but I haven't advertised as either for quite some time and have found that taking GFE off your ads makes ZERO difference to the volume of clients. It might be different for different girls but I would think about whether GFE really contributes anything at all to your advertising. I know some who offer a more extensive list of services list it as a way of discouraging those who want PSE but I have found that advertising as safe, vanilla and conservative works well for me and allows me not to offer services I'm not comfortable with and play up the things I am comfortable with (safe sex, massage, conversation)

I will however say that taking kissing off the table completely will lose you a percentage of clients you would otherwise book but if you're feeling grossed out by it it might well be worth it. The only way to find out is to try it, you can always change back if it doesn't work

newbieNW

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Do what you feel comfortable. 

It does occur to me however that the mouths of the punters you may be kissing may have gone down on hundreds of girls.  I am honestly not entirely sure about the health risk associated with it..  It amazes me that punters conveniently forget the fact that we had OW or OWO 30 minutes before he had DFK with the same mouth.  Sorry for sounding so gross.  :-X :-[  I have heard that mothers who are wgs would not kiss her baby's face in case of possible transmission of some unknown virus.  I would say that is very sensible.  Wisdom, almost or it is love of Mother. 

Green Carnation

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I don't offer kissing (or owo) and I am doing perfectly fine. I don't advertise as GFE or PSE nor any other 'experience'. Sometimes guys just require a plain, safe and no fuss service, and I am here happy to give it to them. Another time they will choose somebody with a long list of likes, and that's fine  too. I have a long list of returning clients, so they must like something about my service.

I am not really saving kissing or owo for a boyfriend, as I don't have one. I don't do kissing for my own comfort, as when I did do kissing, I was unfcomfortable with kissing people with bad teeth and bad breath. Unfortunately you can't weed that on the phone and then it gets too awkward to explain why you won't be kissing them. Since I'd stopped I am so so happy and comfortable, I think it must show in my attitude and that's why they come back.

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I hardly ever get requests to kiss, but fine with it, although not keen on facial hair, hate stumble and if someone has had bad breath it is a no