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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: ladyinred on 29 July 2016, 12:01:55 pm
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Do you get this creepy feeling when he says first few words?
Once I ignored it and accepted a booking, I got attacked...
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Yes I do get that feeling. I will listen carefully and make my excuses.
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Yes, all the time!
I just ask them to call back once I ve checked my diary and block them.
Gut instinct: always.
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Your gut feeling is the only thing you really have to rely on. If something doesn't feel right don't second guess yourself. It only takes one "Oh it'll be fine" and you might wind up dead in the worst case scenario.
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I get that feeling too. Can never take bookings by text because l need to follow my gut instinct all the time.
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yes, there are some typical things that I guess we all know, that are a instant gtf off my phone scenario, only sometimes I am over cautious and probably miss out on some lovely clients, if I ignore my instincts, they turn out to be a no show or a complete tosser
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Gut instinct and women's intuition are our number one tools in this business so use them at all times. Any trouble I've ever experienced in all these years working have happened because I haven't been entirely on the ball that day.
Don't learn the hard way like me and other unfortunate ladies never ignore that little niggle it could save your life.
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Have a look for a book called The Gift of Fear - it explains how our intuition works and helps you learn to listen to it better.
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Have a look for a book called The Gift of Fear - it explains how our intuition works and helps you learn to listen to it better.
oooh Im going to buy this
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Do you get this creepy feeling when he says first few words?
Once I ignored it and accepted a booking, I got attacked...
Sorry to hear you got attacked! Luckily I've never been physically attacked whilst escorting (fingers crossed) although a few times on the verge of sexual abuse! Yes I can tell a lot by a voice, and if I sense anything I don't like the sound of I'm suddenly fully booked.
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Have a look for a book called The Gift of Fear - it explains how our intuition works and helps you learn to listen to it better.
I am a big reader (and a big believer in your GUT reaction) this I will download tonight on my Kindle thanks for that !!
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I ignored my gut feeling yesterday and the guy was a complete arrogant tosser, I'm so angry with myself. Never again will I ignore my feelings, he made me feel ashamed of myself for doing this job and he knew exactly what he was doing. Not sure he warrants a warning but I've been very upset over it.
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I ignored my gut feeling yesterday and the guy was a complete arrogant tosser, I'm so angry with myself. Never again will I ignore my feelings, he made me feel ashamed of myself for doing this job and he knew exactly what he was doing. Not sure he warrants a warning but I've been very upset over it.
Don't beat yourself up too much. We all have off days where we ignore our gut and then can have an unpleasant experience. Its happened to me a few times. If you feel he warrants a warning ie. that other ladies could benefit from knowing about him by all means put one up.
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Some I know I don't want to see based on the first thing they say (or sound like) but sometimes I'm not sure so I have learned how to string out the conversation a bit before commiting to being available to make sure.
So if they just say are available at 3pm rather than saying yes immediately, say How long are you looking for? or ask them if they have anything in mind for your session and then if they sound creepy and you don't want to do it then can say something like Oh I've just checked my diary totally forgot I had something on at 2.30 and I won't be free today.
I have sometimes used my 'instinct' wrongly as in decided immediately I didn't like him and have said I wasn't available and then they have carried on to sound lovely and polite and have had to backtrack and say Oh actually I am free!
I think you need more than one line to go on unless they are totally rude immediately.
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Don't beat yourself up too much. We all have off days where we ignore our gut and then can have an unpleasant experience. Its happened to me a few times. If you feel he warrants a warning ie. that other ladies could benefit from knowing about him by all means put one up.
Thanks for your reply, I'll lick my wounds and be back Monday with some respectful clients to restore my faith! I might put up a warning, he was a nasty bit of work but very subtle about it.
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I ignored my gut feeling yesterday and the guy was a complete arrogant tosser, I'm so angry with myself. Never again will I ignore my feelings, he made me feel ashamed of myself for doing this job and he knew exactly what he was doing. Not sure he warrants a warning but I've been very upset over it.
I'm sorry you've been left to feel like that, it's not nice and I think we've all done it. On the few occasions I've ignored my gut feeling and decided to give the benefit of the doubt, it's only served to prove that my initial instincts were right. Do something nice for you this weekend, I hope you feel better soon. Xx
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I'm sorry you've been left to feel like that, it's not nice and I think we've all done it. On the few occasions I've ignored my gut feeling and decided to give the benefit of the doubt, it's only served to prove that my initial instincts were right. Do something nice for you this weekend, I hope you feel better soon. Xx
Thanks, it means a lot when other girls respond,x
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Big hugs, Nia. So sorry you went through that, you didnt deserve it and he is human trash.
Yes, I get this too. I often can't put my finger on it, they sound normal but I just have this feeling I shouldn't see them. I often think it's just me being silly but then I remind myself that I don't feel like that with every punter.
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I ignored my gut feeling yesterday and the guy was a complete arrogant tosser, I'm so angry with myself. Never again will I ignore my feelings, he made me feel ashamed of myself for doing this job and he knew exactly what he was doing. Not sure he warrants a warning but I've been very upset over it.
Sometimes they can seem perfectly lovely on the phone then be a total wanker in person. I've had the same a couple of times you just take what you can and learn to read the signs. Can't say I've been in a situation so bad I felt it deserved a warning but have had some bad clients none were horrible over the phone but when I look back there were certain signs there that they had some power issues.
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Sometimes they can seem perfectly lovely on the phone then be a total wanker in person. I've had the same a couple of times you just take what you can and learn to read the signs. Can't say I've been in a situation so bad I felt it deserved a warning but have had some bad clients none were horrible over the phone but when I look back there were certain signs there that they had some power issues.
Yep, sometimes there are no signs at all. In fact my worst clients have always seemed really nice on the phone lol. Some of them just slip through the net!