Author Topic: Do you find since you been a escort you have more trust issues with men? (Read 10606 times)

TheLittleMatchGirl · « **Reply #15 on:** 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm »

totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

TheLittleMatchGirl · « **Reply #16 on:** 09 April 2013, 08:12:43 pm »

i could never believe a man loved me if he was ok for me to do this job either

Sia_Edi · « **Reply #17 on:** 10 April 2013, 12:19:14 am »

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:12:43 pm

i could never believe a man loved me if he was ok for me to do this job either

So why do it then if you will have to lie about a part of you to someone who you supposedly love? I think you are too hard on yourself. This is a job like any other. How people in it treat you is very much related to how you see yourself. Respect yourself and what you do. There is no shame in selling sex. I know it seems crazy to say that but isn't judging people for their decisions a worse quality?

Kimmy · « **Reply #18 on:** 10 April 2013, 01:53:47 pm »

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:12:43 pm

i could never believe a man loved me if he was ok for me to do this job either

I've heard this from numerous ladies and I agree with the above poster, I think their self esteem needs working on. I know my boyfriend loves me, just because your an escort doesn't mean a guy can't love you. The amount of escorts I've met who lie to boyfriends about their job, what is the point?not only are you not going to find a guy who accepts you for who you are this way, your relationship is also always going to be one big lie, which is a joke imo and totally unfair on the guy in question.

Every wg I met who was convinced a boyfriend couldn't love her whilst a wg had serious self esteem issues and usually issues with men in their personal lives, such as being left for other women whilst pregnant.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #19 on:** 10 April 2013, 02:36:16 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 01:53:47 pm

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:12:43 pm
i could never believe a man loved me if he was ok for me to do this job either

I've heard this from numerous ladies and I agree with the above poster, I think their self esteem needs working on. I know my boyfriend loves me, just because your an escort doesn't mean a guy can't love you. The amount of escorts I've met who lie to boyfriends about their job, what is the point?not only are you not going to find a guy who accepts you for who you are this way, your relationship is also always going to be one big lie, which is a joke imo and totally unfair on the guy in question.

Every wg I met who was convinced a boyfriend couldn't love her whilst a wg had serious self esteem issues and usually issues with men in their personal lives, such as being left for other women whilst pregnant.

If I was not escorting the least place to look in the escorting world. In my opinion a man loves me getting screwed by lots of cock.

See how much of a joke that sounds. So it's more of the excitement buzz than any thing in my experience. A loving man doesn't want to share, whether it's for her work or not. Deep down many are just keeping all their emotions inside like men do. It is all about seeing love in their eyes and actions tells me the score without them confirming. I felt that it was wrong for me to escort and date at the beginning. Even came close to quitting because before this I was so faithful.

It was them who cheated and lied. Now realised that doing this without a man who sidetracks me from business hence in my mind most of the time like loved up. That am better off giving all my energy to numerous, who treat me far better than any man even my recent date did. Many men use this for a thrill nothing more or less. Also giving 100% focus for a successful business.

So the conclusion is to be happy throughout escorting by not letting it have a negative impact on us if so.

Nobody Interesting · « **Reply #20 on:** 10 April 2013, 03:26:25 pm »

This thread has been bugging me.

Without a shadow of doubt, I can say that my current partner has more love and respect for me, than any man ever did prior. That is simply as there are good men out there who understand, when they get their head round it all, that it is a job. It is only because he cares about me so much that he fought hard to get his head around it. He is also potentially risking HIS career over it. His is not a thrill seeker, in fact he has little interest in all now.

There are ladies on this forum who have been in long term relationships and some who have been married years. Some from before they started, some whilst.

So yes, some of you may feel that no man who was with you would give a damn, but really it depends on who you pick. Be picky. Bloody picky.

Kimmy · « **Reply #21 on:** 10 April 2013, 05:50:33 pm »

Exactly. I know my boyfriend loves me because he is with me whilst I do it. I know he doesn't like it but accepts its necessary at the moment. He could easily have slept with me all those months when we met then fucked me off, but he didn't he not only committed but introduced me to his family, who also are aware of my escorting. He is chilled out and sure of himself enough to see past it.

Honestly I worked with a wg for months who would always say men will never love a wg, each man she was seeing shed bullshit them about her job, and what she didn't realise was it was the type of man she repeatedly went for that was the problem, not the fact she was a wg (which she lied about anyway yet still didn't find a man to love her). Be honest with yourself and others about who you are, be proud of it and the rest will follow.

Kimmy · « **Reply #22 on:** 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm »

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm

totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

Nobody Interesting · « **Reply #23 on:** 10 April 2013, 07:21:09 pm »

Thanks Kimmy, you said what I was attempting to.

My BF had to seriously think first "This is daunting. I literally feel that I need to work out whether I want 'us' long term, before we even start. This is a biggie." Took the best part of a week for him to work it all out and HE delayed getting jiggy for nearly two months as he wanted to make sure he had made the right choice, as much as he could.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #24 on:** 10 April 2013, 09:31:00 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm
totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

That made me laugh with that hypocritical talk oh my days.

Kimmy · « **Reply #25 on:** 10 April 2013, 10:11:23 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 09:31:00 pm

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm
Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm
totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

That made me laugh with that hypocritical talk oh my days.

How is it hypocritical? Forgive me if I misunderstood but whilst escorting I am working, I don't go out to clubs pulling guys or do anything else that constitutes cheating as if I did I'd be doing it for my own personal pleasure and not to earn a living. Any sexual activity done for personal pleasure and not to earn money would be cheating to me. As I am upfront about my escorting I'd expect a boyfriend to be upfront if he wanted to have sex elsewhere.

I find it odd when some wgs see escorting as being the same as having casual one night stands or 'normal' sex in the civvie world. It isn't, when I'm escorting I have a different persona to what I have in my real life, escorting is a job to me and I don't and never have seen it as real, normal sex. I have no interest in sex with clients other than the financial benefits of it and there's no chance of me running off with one of them or even meeting one without payment. My boyfriend knows this and knows the difference to me between him and clients (which couldn't be bigger).

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #26 on:** 10 April 2013, 10:15:50 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 10:11:23 pm

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 09:31:00 pm
Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm
Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm
totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

That made me laugh with that hypocritical talk oh my days.

How is it hypocritical? Forgive me if I misunderstood but whilst escorting I am working, I don't go out to clubs pulling guys or do anything else that constitutes cheating as if I did I'd be doing it for my own personal pleasure and not to earn a living. Any sexual activity done for personal pleasure and not to earn money would be cheating to me. As I am upfront about my escorting I'd expect a boyfriend to be upfront if he wanted to have sex elsewhere.

I find it odd when some wgs see escorting as being the same as having casual one night stands or 'normal' sex in the civvie world. It isn't, when I'm escorting I have a different persona to what I have in my real life, escorting is a job to me and I don't and never have seen it as real, normal sex. I have no interest in sex with clients other than the financial benefits of it and there's no chance of me running off with one of them or even meeting one without payment. My boyfriend knows this and knows the difference to me between him and clients (which couldn't be bigger), and thank god for that as it seems some wgs arnt even aware of the difference!

A definition of a hypocrite... Is disputing what the other party couldn't do but the hypocrite is doing just that. Regardless with money or without.

Kimmy · « **Reply #27 on:** 10 April 2013, 10:33:32 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 10:15:50 pm

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 10:11:23 pm
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 09:31:00 pm
Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm
Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm
totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

That made me laugh with that hypocritical talk oh my days.

How is it hypocritical? Forgive me if I misunderstood but whilst escorting I am working, I don't go out to clubs pulling guys or do anything else that constitutes cheating as if I did I'd be doing it for my own personal pleasure and not to earn a living. Any sexual activity done for personal pleasure and not to earn money would be cheating to me. As I am upfront about my escorting I'd expect a boyfriend to be upfront if he wanted to have sex elsewhere.

I find it odd when some wgs see escorting as being the same as having casual one night stands or 'normal' sex in the civvie world. It isn't, when I'm escorting I have a different persona to what I have in my real life, escorting is a job to me and I don't and never have seen it as real, normal sex. I have no interest in sex with clients other than the financial benefits of it and there's no chance of me running off with one of them or even meeting one without payment. My boyfriend knows this and knows the difference to me between him and clients (which couldn't be bigger), and thank god for that as it seems some wgs arnt even aware of the difference!

A definition of a hypocrite... Is disputing what the other party couldn't do but the hypocrite is doing just that. Regardless with money or without.

Where did I say I'd tell someone what to do? I wouldn't, I'd expect them to be honest like I am. I have my requirements in a man one is for him to be honest. If he wanted to have sex with other women fine but I wouldn't want lying to, because I'm not a liar myself.

And yes the money makes a difference as it's the motive for having sex. Let other girls get on with their relationships and you carry on believing its not possible/hypocritical/whatever. Your post further up kind of gives the impression you have similar hang ups about the situation as the wg I used to work with.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #28 on:** 10 April 2013, 10:41:50 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 10:33:32 pm

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 10:15:50 pm
Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 10:11:23 pm
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 10 April 2013, 09:31:00 pm
Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm
Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 09 April 2013, 08:09:36 pm
totally disagree with the Wayne Rooney thing. me selling sex is not for my personal pleasure, paying for sex is for personal pleasure.
so no, because i am a prostitute would not be a green light for a partner to pay for sex...

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Obviously as an escort you'd be over the moon if Wayne Rooney visited and paid well over your going rate. I would anyway.

That made me laugh with that hypocritical talk oh my days.

How is it hypocritical? Forgive me if I misunderstood but whilst escorting I am working, I don't go out to clubs pulling guys or do anything else that constitutes cheating as if I did I'd be doing it for my own personal pleasure and not to earn a living. Any sexual activity done for personal pleasure and not to earn money would be cheating to me. As I am upfront about my escorting I'd expect a boyfriend to be upfront if he wanted to have sex elsewhere.

I find it odd when some wgs see escorting as being the same as having casual one night stands or 'normal' sex in the civvie world. It isn't, when I'm escorting I have a different persona to what I have in my real life, escorting is a job to me and I don't and never have seen it as real, normal sex. I have no interest in sex with clients other than the financial benefits of it and there's no chance of me running off with one of them or even meeting one without payment. My boyfriend knows this and knows the difference to me between him and clients (which couldn't be bigger), and thank god for that as it seems some wgs arnt even aware of the difference!

A definition of a hypocrite... Is disputing what the other party couldn't do but the hypocrite is doing just that. Regardless with money or without.

Where did I say I'd tell someone what to do? I wouldn't, I'd expect them to be honest like I am. I have my requirements in a man one is for him to be honest. If he wanted to have sex with other women fine but I wouldn't want lying to, because I'm not a liar myself.

And yes the money makes a difference as it's the motive for having sex. Let other girls get on with their relationships and you carry on believing its not possible/hypocritical/whatever. Your post further up kind of gives the impression you have similar hang ups about the situation as the wg I used to work with.

I just see and if you don't like it not my problem.

Nobody Interesting · « **Reply #29 on:** 10 April 2013, 11:00:56 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 10 April 2013, 06:02:11 pm

Me neither and wouldn't accept my boyfriend cheating. If he thought he could cheat just because I escort he'd be the sort of twat I avoid on the dating front in the first place.

Same here. I feel I am completely loyal to my BF whilst doing this line of work. He understands that I would never cheat on him and that it is simply a job. I also know damn well that even having an emotional non-platonic relationship outside of work would see me ditched immediately.

Oddly, yet not surprisingly so...he states as someone who has previously been cheated on, that he feels more secure that I would not cheat, due to the line of work I do.

Also, I have less concern than I ever have about the possibility of a BF cheating. The sheer consideration he has out in to the situation has shown me exactly what he is made of.

I do not feel I am hypocritical for expecting as much loyalty in my personal life, as I give. Because it is personal, there is no cross over.

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