Author Topic: Do you find since you been a escort you have more trust issues with men? (Read 10603 times)

saturnspirit · « **on:** 06 April 2013, 09:04:25 pm »

Hi Girls

I have had a two long relationships 5 yrs & 2 yrs, but since being an escort for last 2 years I am just not bothered about dating any guys or remotely interested in having a fling or one night stand.

I just don't think I will ever trust them. I have heard all the excuses like they tell their wives like "I'm going to the bank love", "going to Tesco" etc when they are actually visiting me.

I know all men don't see escorts and we just never see those guys, but it makes me wonder in today's society that you are going to have to accept some sort of open relationship, where a man will pay for sex or hook up with someone for a one night stand on a dating site.

I have been feeling really broody lately and instead of going on dates and looking for a partner I have been researching sperm donation and bringing a child up on my own instead of having a man involved! Even looking at pricing at private clinics.

Do you think this job gives you trusts issues, or shows you how naive you have been all these years!

Kimmy · « **Reply #1 on:** 06 April 2013, 09:58:30 pm »

The key is finding the right men. Doing this job makes you forget most men don't see prostitutes. We're only dealing with the ones that do. Get yourself a man who is skint like me. He couldn't even afford a ?40 punt.

I have a weekly regular who only started this hobby after his wife of 30 years passed away. I've had others who are divorced etc who said they'd never done it whilst in a relationship. I've had single guys who have said they wouldn't dare punt whilst with someone. This should be taken as a pinch of salt but I believe it to be true, not every man will selfishly and mercilessly cheat on their partners.

I'm planning starting a family in the next few years with my boyfriend and I couldn't trust him more. As I said it's about finding the right men, don't base your thoughts on men on clients. Xxx

The Bachelor · « **Reply #2 on:** 07 April 2013, 08:51:27 am »

Quote from: Kimmy on 06 April 2013, 09:58:30 pm

The key is finding the right men. Doing this job makes you forget most men don't see prostitutes. We're only dealing with the ones that do. Get yourself a man who is skint like me. He couldn't even afford a ?40 punt.

I have a weekly regular who only started this hobby after his wife of 30 years passed away. I've had others who are divorced etc who said they'd never done it whilst in a relationship. I've had single guys who have said they wouldn't dare punt whilst with someone. This should be taken as a pinch of salt but I believe it to be true, not every man will selfishly and mercilessly cheat on their partners.

I'm planning starting a family in the next few years with my boyfriend and I couldn't trust him more. As I said it's about finding the right men, don't base your thoughts on men on clients. Xxx

I agree 100%. If all men were punting around on the side, escorts would find relationships where everybody seen it as perfectly normal and acceptable instead of all the drama BS and explaining and apologizing, yadda yadda yadda. Most men who hire escorts have 'issues'. Not necessarily 'bad' issues, just issues. Get to know them, the crazy comes out! Many bury themselves in work to hide their imperfections. (Of course, most men are crazy, take it from a man)

Nearly every man I've met that is in a relationship and hires me, does not have sex with their partner anymore. Usually it has to do with 1 or both of the couples stopped taking care of their image after awhile and stopped finding one another sexual attractive, but the love is still there. So...look good for your men, give regular sex and you won't have to worry about them hiring escorts! lol.

On a more serious note, there are couples out there that are together for no other reason but for kids, money, or because they've been together so long, they don't know any other way of life. It's rarely sex holding people together for 10-20-40 years. Why do you think these America politicians go hire escorts and have affairs and the wife STILL stands by his side? She got tired of sex daily/weekly for the past 30 years, she's glad he hired someone else to do it! They aren't having sex anyway, why would she be mad?

strawberry · « **Reply #3 on:** 07 April 2013, 11:33:50 am »

This hasn't happened to me as such. I am however aware that some clients tell small fibs about their lives, in order to build their fantasy or protect their own discretion. It doesn't make me mistrust men in general.

There have however been occasions say just after I'd had a crime commited against me when I would walk down the street and wonder "is it you?or you?" at men who answered the vague description of the culprit. Luckily this passed in a few weeks.

If I've had a series of contact from lads of a certain age(generally late teens, early 20s) of the 'can't be arsed' 'lol'ing about with the world owes me something special attitude' kind then I have a bit less tolerance for groups of similar males I encounter outside of my 'working' life, I think this is only natural and I've always had a slight intolerance of anyone with that 'attitude' in general anyway.

Away from this in my outside life trust is built over time, by experience with that person - just as it is with clients and will continue to do so.

MsDee · « **Reply #4 on:** 07 April 2013, 11:44:19 am »

No not at all, I have never trusted men in my private life, I have a tendency to date liars and cheaters hence why I prefer to stay single.

woofy86 · « **Reply #5 on:** 07 April 2013, 12:43:34 pm »

Being male and having a lot female friends + male. I knew long ago about how a lot of guys cheat, go home act like angels with their mates backing them up when needed, I have always tried to warn female friends about men's cheating ways, but they don't want to believe me and think it's a gay thing. So if someone is to dumb to believe, I just sit back and watch now lol

For me, I think it some of it has to do with nature, men with high testosterone levels are more likely to cheat (bad boys) cause they are always horny, opposed to guys with low levels who tend to be the sweet guys. Tho, I can see this is an eye opener for any lady working in this business. Tho, out there, are the 10% of men who can can control themselves and are a full package. So don't give up hope.

Sia_Edi · « **Reply #6 on:** 07 April 2013, 02:13:50 pm »

I just want to ask a general question about this topic...

Why do this job, if you ultimately have a problem with men who buy sex?

I ask because it is a fact of life that these things occur. Also, I ask it because it could seem like you ultimately do not approve of what you are doing by providing services to men.

Personally, I don't have a problem with men who buy sex, if I did I would not be a sex worker and would not feel so strongly about our right to do this job. As far as trusting them goes, each one earns my trust on merit. If they break it, I show them the door. Simple as.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #7 on:** 07 April 2013, 04:25:08 pm »

Quote from: saturnspirit on 06 April 2013, 09:04:25 pm

Hi Girls

I have had a two long relationships 5 yrs & 2 yrs, but since being an escort for last 2 years I am just not bothered about dating any guys or remotely interested in having a fling or one night stand.

I just don't think I will ever trust them. I have heard all the excuses like they tell their wives like "I'm going to the bank love", "going to Tesco" etc when they are actually visiting me.

I know all men don't see escorts and we just never see those guys, but it makes me wonder in today's society that you are going to have to accept some sort of open relationship, where a man will pay for sex or hook up with someone for a one night stand on a dating site.

I have been feeling really broody lately and instead of going on dates and looking for a partner I have been researching sperm donation and bringing a child up on my own instead of having a man involved! Even looking at pricing at private clinics.

Do you think this job gives you trusts issues, or shows you how naive you have been all these years!

Doing this has opened my eyes.

jasmine123 · « **Reply #8 on:** 07 April 2013, 06:20:15 pm »

Sia_edi I agree with you. The point is if your loyal to someone they should be with you.

Also its true it opened up my eyes.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #9 on:** 07 April 2013, 08:04:28 pm »

Quote from: Fluffy Bunny on 07 April 2013, 11:44:19 am

No not at all, I have never trusted men in my private life, I have a tendency to date liars and cheaters hence why I prefer to stay single.

Like wise.

Dani · « **Reply #10 on:** 07 April 2013, 10:41:58 pm »

Not at all. I joined this line of work in my 30s so I already knew that a large majority of men will cheat given the chance.
Its just one of those things.
being an escort sort of relies onn that fact. If they didnt cheat we would all be short of work so I for one dont care if they do.

It hasnt changed how I feel about men as years and years ago I worked in a pretty much men only industry so worked with a fairly large group of men and every single one of them visited brothels when we would have a night out so my view were already quite skewed towards men anyway

lucyjuicy · « **Reply #11 on:** 08 April 2013, 02:54:25 pm »

Quote from: Sia_Edi on 07 April 2013, 02:13:50 pm

I just want to ask a general question about this topic...

Why do this job, if you ultimately have a problem with men who buy sex?

I ask because it is a fact of life that these things occur. Also, I ask it because it could seem like you ultimately do not approve of what you are doing by providing services to men.

Personally, I don't have a problem with men who buy sex, if I did I would not be a sex worker and would not feel so strongly about our right to do this job. As far as trusting them goes, each one earns my trust on merit. If they break it, I show them the door. Simple as.

This exactly. We all have rules we want our partners to conform to, but not paying for sex does seem a strange one to apply to the partner of someone who sells it. I remember a friend of mine when the second "Wayne Rooney Hooker Scandal" hit the papers saying that if she was Coleen she would be livid with Mr Rooney. I called my friend out on it (after all she is a prossie too) and she pointed out the bit of the story that would have made her mad. I can't remember the exact wording but it was something like " Rooney paid ?1,200 to spend 3 hours with the ?80 per hour call girl" and my friend said if she was Coleen she would have been really pissed off that he'd spent ?960 over the odds

Must say I'd have agreed with her on that basis

Kimmy · « **Reply #12 on:** 08 April 2013, 10:00:28 pm »

Really? With his bank balance I'd find it sickening if he didn't pay more than her 80 per hour rate, can't believe she was charging that as a young decent looking English girl! Shows he's actually quite a nice guy if he paid her so much more, wish he'd book me!!

Xxx

lucyjuicy · « **Reply #13 on:** 09 April 2013, 03:02:23 pm »

Quote from: Kimmy on 08 April 2013, 10:00:28 pm

Really? With his bank balance I'd find it sickening if he didn't pay more than her 80 per hour rate, can't believe she was charging that as a young decent looking English girl! Shows he's actually quite a nice guy if he paid her so much more, wish he'd book me!!

Xxx

From the Escort point of view for sure its good he paid over the odds (wonder if he pays more than list price for everything, cars, tips, food) if you were his partner however.......

foxydeelight · « **Reply #14 on:** 09 April 2013, 05:29:01 pm »

Quote from: Dani on 07 April 2013, 10:41:58 pm

Not at all. I joined this line of work in my 30s so I already knew that a large majority of men will cheat given the chance.
Its just one of those things.
being an escort sort of relies onn that fact. If they didnt cheat we would all be short of work so I for one dont care if they do.

It hasnt changed how I feel about men as years and years ago I worked in a pretty much men only industry so worked with a fairly large group of men and every single one of them visited brothels when we would have a night out so my view were already quite skewed towards men anyway

I like mens company , i like havin a chat and spending time with them but relationships... Nah.... Wouldnt ever do it again.... An honest transaction all the better in my book regardless of how the men live their lives... Xx

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