Hi everyone,

Today I did something I've never done before, which is shortening a booking (my own decision this time).

It was a late booking with a guy I've seen once before (lovely guy, young, polite), however I feel that the intercourse was a bit more "hardcore" than last time (a bit "too much" for my taste : guy lasting very long, a bit brutal movements). After he finished, I just didn't feel I had the courage to do it another time (as the client wished) so I said that I would prefer if we shorten the booking into 30min instead of 1h (of course I gave him the difference back so he just paid for the 30min fee).

I feel a bit bad as the client was obviously very disappointed but I didn't want the second round to be bad and force myself.

Have you ever done so ? How do you deal with this ? Do you think I did right or was it unprofessional from my side ?

I have never had to shortened a booking, and in the circumstances, you did absolutely the right thing because your comfort is paramount. However, the thing I question is if the client was brutal in his movements and the sex too hardcore for you, why didn’t you ask him to slow down and be more gentle?

Sorry Ana, I don’t mean to turn this around to you but I am just a little perplexed why you did not say anything. I think your inability to speak-up is part of the issue here. Clients are not mind readers - you have to say something if they behave in a way you don’t like or do something you do not enjoy during your time together. At the very least, I would have told this client why I had cut short his time.

Being professional isn’t about remaining mute and enduring something you do not like. Being professional is about communicating clearly to your clients and ensuring they respect your boundaries. Despite your insistence he’s a lovely polite guy, I beg to differ. I would not see him again as I suspect he will try to push for a more hardcore session again, that is unless you tell him.

It's happened twice before when they have been unbearable and very rough so i gave back money on a longer booking one was a 2hr and gave him a hour back and one was a 4hr and gave him 2hrs back.

If they are rough or just horrible and it is causing you a problem to put up with them then as long as they get the extra time booked i don't see a problem.

I have seen loads over the years and i hate not earning what i been booked for but in my situation i could not be in there company anymore.

Your situation does not seem as bad as mine but as he was going for it too much that can cause sore problems or cuts so if he was the perfect client you would not want to cut it short.

It's sex and unlike any other job so don't feel bad by saying i cannot go again and refunding the rest. We don't go in this job to get ripped to shreds down below by someone who has watched too many porn movies.

Yes English Green, I agree, my situation didn't seem as bad as mine but as you mentioned, at the end of the day it's sex and I think that feeling comfortable with what you're doing is key.

To be honest, I don't think what I've done was that bad/unprofessional especially since I gave some money back + I explained everything in a nice and polite way (but obviously in these kind of circumstances, guys' egos are always triggered  )

Yes I have a few times

Mostly when they haven’t read my profile and expect me to do services I don’t offer.. what I do now is I only see new clients for 30 mins.. if we get on I will do a hour with them next time..

This way works fine for me and I found it much easier.. it’s awkward when you can’t bare to do the full hour with someone.. so only offering 30 mins for a first meet is a win win I find.

Personally I'd question your definition of "lovely guy" and "polite". From what I read on your post he seems like a boundary pusher. If I had to repeatedly tell a customer not to do something (or not to take photos of me) and he kept insisting I find it disrespectful (not polite), so thats a client I probably wouldnt be seeing again

Of course he took it personally, they do because some think their money buys them the right to treat you however they so wish and it is not for you to tell them no. Tbh, this man should the grateful you refunded his money.

If a client started asking me about taking pictures or being rough with me, I would probably end the session there and then. I would not give him a refund either, but then that’s just me - if someone pays for x time and ends up behaving in a way I would need to end the session early, they are the one who loses out, not me.

Yes i have kicked people out too for going too far with no refund but then if it's a incall you open yourself up to blackmail and threats of violence which has happened to me too. It's not always easy getting a scum bag out of your place without possibly outing yourself.

I've never shortened a booking, although I have had quite a few where I wished it would be over sooner. When I find myself in this situation, I suggest to do something else that is still fun but doesn't push my boundaries. Taking control of the situation makes it more bearable. If the client is still pushing for something I wouldn't do, I try to keep my temper and explain I don't offer certain services, but I can do this instead, would he like it etc. etc. I don't want to come across as unprofessional although I totally understand how in some situations you'd rather get it over with instead of negotiating.