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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: kinkyboots on 25 June 2014, 09:31:05 pm
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Hi Ladies,
I'm a GFE escort but i do specify on my profile that i'm happy to offer mild BDSM upon request. I've got an hours appointment tomorrow evening with a submissive who hasn't given much detail in regards to what he wants. I asked him if he had anything in particular in mind but all he said was that he was very submissive and i can do whatever i want to him, and make him my slave.
Does anybody have any suggestions as to what things i could do to him to fill up the hour? I've taken bookings from subs before but they always specify what kind of submission/humiliation they want beforehand and he's given me nothing to go on. I don't want to disappoint :P
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Well as I guess you'll know, the usual tie&tease, dirty talk spanking comes To mind. But I felt compelled to respond as the title caught me as this is what I can't bear to hear from clients! I'm a very shy girl at heart, and I fully respect any client whose disconcerted / shy regarding the situation, but I've had a few that literally lie there, completely unresponsive, no talking/moving/it's an effort to decipher if they're breathing/alive! Lol,but it's no joke, and I completely understand you're predicament...anyway that ramble was of no use but just wanted to let you know you're not alone !
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It's frustrating isn't it! So much pressure is applied unintentionally. I was thinking of tying him up then realized i don't have anything to tie him up with. I've been looking through the draws for something suitable but so far, zilch. Any idea what i could improvise with? I momentarily considered my dressing gown cord but fortunately for his fantasy i've talked myself out of that one, it's pink and fluffy. Lol.
I should probably invest in some metal cuffs but don't think i'll have time to go into town tomorrow as i've got loads on, i'm getting more and more sub requests and i feel somewhat ill equip compared to the pro dommes who have proper equipment for them.
Your rant wasn't useless, it's reassuring to know other people feel stumped too when they get asked this. :)
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you can use hold ups or nickers, I did that few times :)
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I'm a very shy girl at heart, and I fully respect any client whose disconcerted / shy regarding the situation, but I've had a few that literally lie there, completely unresponsive, no talking/moving/it's an effort to decipher if they're breathing/alive!
I hate these clients, especially when I'm giving them head! I'm like make a fucking noise so I know that you like what I'm doing and don't want something else, everyone is different!
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you can use hold ups or nickers, I did that few times :)
Thanks ;D I have plenty of them. That hadn't crossed my mind but come to think of it, that work really well. Being tied up with my worn stockings is definitely more erotic than a pink dressing gown cord ha ha.
I'm a very shy girl at heart, and I fully respect any client whose disconcerted / shy regarding the situation, but I've had a few that literally lie there, completely unresponsive, no talking/moving/it's an effort to decipher if they're breathing/alive!
I hate these clients, especially when I'm giving them head! I'm like make a fucking noise so I know that you like what I'm doing and don't want something else, everyone is different!
Me too! I had somebody like that come and see me the other week, i was convinced i'd given him a shit service until he left a glowing review and returned. The un-readables are just that sometimes x
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My clients love being tied, blindfolded and gagged with my stockings, I usually keep a few cheap pairs for that. Don't buy cheap metal cuffs as some of them look like the ones you can buy for children to play with in toy shops.
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The stockings/hold ups as ties is a really good idea, can't believe i hadn't thought of that before contemplating a bloody dressing gown cord lol. Thank you ladies
Don't buy cheap metal cuffs as some of them look like the ones you can buy for children to play with in toy shops.
I'll be sure to shop around for a decent pair when i do, I know exactly what you mean about the cheap ones so i don't intend to get any of those :)
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If a sub says "do what you want" with regards to a real time booking, they are at risk of me using them as a footstool while I have an afternoon nap in my chair!!!
As a "submissive" they should be more than happy with that, and if NOT, they need to be more specific! ;D
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you could get him to worship you by kissing your feet or any where else for that matter.. ice cubes on a hot day are a good. spank him with household objects like a wooden spoon pegs are good if a sub can take it.
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I usually tell these types, be careful what you wish for, and then proceed to tell them I'm very sadistic and 2 of my favourite games are ball busting and needle play (which is true. I love these games and any opportunity to get to play them is a big bonus in my book), during the initial conversation. This usually prompts them into telling me that they are happy to go with this or that they aren't looking for something so extreme.
If you use stockings to tie them up, have a pair of rounded edge scissors to hand, as they can sometimes be difficult to untie. It may not be of use to you now, but for future bookins why not invest in an undermattress restraint system. They cost from around ?20 and are great for tie and tease. Bondara do quite a few.
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If a sub says "do what you want" with regards to a real time booking, they are at risk of me using them as a footstool while I have an afternoon nap in my chair!!!
As a "submissive" they should be more than happy with that, and if NOT, they need to be more specific! ;D
Lol i like that, come to think of it i am pretty sleepy today *yawns* :P
you could get him to worship you by kissing your feet or any where else for that matter.. ice cubes on a hot day are a good. spank him with household objects like a wooden spoon pegs are good if a sub can take it.
Another good one, i happen to have some in the kitchen already so i might pop them in the bedroom before he arrives.
I usually tell these types, be careful what you wish for, and then proceed to tell them I'm very sadistic and 2 of my favourite games are ball busting and needle play (which is true. I love these games and any opportunity to get to play them is a big bonus in my book), during the initial conversation. This usually prompts them into telling me that they are happy to go with this or that they aren't looking for something so extreme.
I've been curious about needle play for a while after seeing somebody mention it on here, could've been you actually :) What do you do other than the obvious? I mean, where do you put the needles and how many do you use?
RE the under the bed ties, i've book marked some on the internet after they were mentioned on here as they look really good.
Thank you for your help ladies, much appreciated
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Fruit is useful - make them bite an apple and hold it, and then punish them if they drop it. And it's cheap :D.
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Another good idea that i hadn't thought of before, thanks Amy
I've actually got some apples in the house so no doubt i'll be trying that later on.
There was me thinking i'd be stuck for things to do without proper bondage equipment. I'm glad i decided to post on here instead of rushing into town to spend a fortune on crops & paddles ;D
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Update:
The booking went swimmingly, so much so that he's rebooked a longer session next week! I took on board the advice i got here and my gentleman visitor had a great time :) Thanks again ladies.
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Great ideas on this thread. :) I have all the stuff but I'm taking notes regardless...
Re needle play - you need to be careful with it, I'd really recommend seeing if you can find someone in your area who knows how it works and getting in touch with them so they can show you in person. The number of needles varies, some people only want a few, others can take dozens arranged in intricate patterns.
Needle play isn't something you can casually wander into though, you need sterile needles and a sharps bin for disposal, something to clean the skin with beforehand, gloves to protect against blood-borne diseases (theoretically you could skip these if you have no open wounds on your hands, but I personally would always be paranoid with a client), and swabs/dressings to care for the wound after you're done. Needles don't bleed much when they're in but they do when they're taken out. You can also get different sizes of needles that have different effects - scalpels are more my style so I don't know much about the specifics of needle play, but they're both in the general bloodplay category so all the same hygiene rules apply. I actually wrote a long safety primer on scalpels once that would be easily applied to needles, if you PM me I'll send it over - but I'd still recommend meeting with someone in your area who's been doing it a while and can walk you through the process.