Do I offer in calls??
My business is not so much a business as a very occasional hobby!, Now I may be being really stupid but I expected (hoped desperately) for more than an out call that made me ?120.00 but ended up taking me 4 hours as I got lost etc and a 'quicky' for ?40.00 in 4 days. True I am getting more emails now, but not many! I have been promised positive feed back from the two blokes I saw, but hey, we shall see...

Anyway, back to my point, I dont really have the luxury of time, so I decided to offer in-calls and see if I got more interest, it's worked, my emails have doubled, but still no def bookings, apart from the quicky.
I was positive I would NEVER have anyone to my home, but I've already broken that rule and had a guy here earlier.

I have a neighbour from hell across the road who would just love to make my life a living misery, and all she seems to do is sit outside her home and watch me, god knows why, i'm really not that interesting!!! I do have a back entrance (no pun intended lol) but then my next door neighbour could see them, and she knows I'd never go near a white bloke from personal choice! I cant afford 6' fencing at the moment.

I've read other peoples posts and seen all the risks associated with having strange men to my home, so WHY am I even considering doing it??? Oh yeah, because its almost christmas and my baby deserves nice things, and It would be good to pay the phone bill, and have heating this winter I guess.

The area I'm in, I believe I will make the most money from giving taxi drivers a quicky in thier lunch break!
But hell I'm not proud and moneys money, the only problem is I cant afford to rent somewhere to 'service' them, I feel like I'm in a complete catch 22 situation, damned if i do, damned if I dont.

I really dont know which way to turn, Please someone, give me the benefit of your advice....

OH and of course theres the fact that its completely against my tenancy....(BUGGER!)

Hi,
I offer incalls. It's not so bad. The perk is your in your home and once the guy leaves you can bath and tidy and straighten things out and all the time in your dressing gown! You don't even have to fix your hair up in a hurry so you can leave and look tidy while going home! Ha. yeah, I have issues with my hair as you can tell....
I did question it at the start, it's my home, it's my bedroom, I sleep in there and read books in there and such. It does not really have any mental impact on me at all though. It's business. I look at it like that. The one guy (I know, one, how pathetic) I have had here, he was great, it didn't feel at all wrong or strange after. You change your bed, you squirt some perfume about to cover the lingering smell of his aftershave, you get back in and you sleep. It was not an issue. The only thing is having to tidy up before hand as I have 3 kids back and fore here, they can be messy! It all got shoved into the study room and the door closed on it to hide it all!

Directly next door to me is a woman that takes pleasure in upsetting me and my family greatly, over anything and everything.
With her in mind I decided that the odd incall during the day is okay, nobody can guess what I am doing here, they simply can not. The guy could be a computer engineer or here to give a quote on some decorating or even simply a friend Molly, we know what we are doing so maybe it's because we know we think of it. I don't think my neighbours would believe I am about to get naked and do a jig around my bedroom with the guy that just knocked on my door!
Every man that comes to see you does not have to be your boyfriend you know so white or black, what does it matter and if you are questioned make something up. Your having huge problems with a computer virus, the guy is charging you a stupid amount of cash to fix it and it's still not done! You know, anything really from he is an old mate from school to your thinking of having work done and he was there for a quote. Why, did he park in your spot. I'm sorry about that? Normally when a person is asked why they want to know, they back off anyhow. I would.

Also as winter is coming, it's now dark by 8pm and nobody is about really so it's easier to have an incall during the evening time under cover of the moon! When I get the call to say he is an hour out or whatever, I make a point of asking him to park directly outside my house, I leave space for him by moving my car along a bit and if I can't then leaving it on another street.  I have made a point of asking that they do not park outside the house next door as the lady there believes she owns that part of the road and will knock on all doors to find out who the car belongs to and get it moved along.
I think there is a balance you can achieve between incall and outcall. Once you have accepted it mentally you can separate home space from business space in your mind.

I wouldn't sneak them around the back though. That's by nature, well, sneaky. It looks as if something is going on. Get them in the front door and always have a reason for it in mind should you be questioned, the more normal you act, the less likely you'll raise any eyebrows I guess.
Your doing far better than I am Molly, you have seen more guys than I have. Good luck.
Jo

Hi thanks for your replies, they do help,

I decided to go with the In-calls and yep my business greatly increased, had to turn blokes away today!!! However I think I've just had my first time waster and am a bit worried as to why he'd pretend to be on my street just to get my house number!!! and then not turn up, I'm hoping he's just a tosser and not a psycho!!!

I have decided I have to stop being nice, I NEED to get into my work personna more. The problem is I chat too bloody much!!! I saw someone earlier and managed to give away my real name! and then my sons name by not removing his name from the door.

I have made rules to stay safe and I will just have to STICK to them, they are there for my safety after all!!!!

In future, NO-ONE gets my house number until I see them park where I tell them to

Mollxxxxx

Hi thanks for your replies, they do help,

I decided to go with the In-calls and yep my business greatly increased, had to turn blokes away today!!! However I think I've just had my first time waster and am a bit worried as to why he'd pretend to be on my street just to get my house number!!! and then not turn up, I'm hoping he's just a tosser and not a psycho!!!

I have decided I have to stop being nice, I NEED to get into my work personna more. The problem is I chat too bloody much!!! I saw someone earlier and managed to give away my real name! and then my sons name by not removing his name from the door.

I have made rules to stay safe and I will just have to STICK to them, they are there for my safety after all!!!!

In future, NO-ONE gets my house number until I see them park where I tell them to

Mollxxxxx

That's one of the pitfalls of working from home. You get all sorts of people you're not sure about coming to you or pretending to be. It's a weird phenomenon, men collecting addresses. They say they're near you and ask for your door number, then don't turn up. Don't give anybody your door number until they can describe the road/area they're in; a pub on the corner, a pink house, something that stands out. Then you know they're nearby. If they can't then you don't.

I wouldn't work from home. I personally wouldn't want my clients interacting with any part of family, especially if I haven't seen them before. I pay to rent a room in Central London. If an opportunity like that opens up for you, it might be something you should consider.
I've heard tales of blokes turning up at all hours of the night, banging on the door and screaming escort's working names up at the window, pissed as a fart, asking if they're working tonight. Some blokes don't even have to be pissed, just plain ignorant. I know an escort who'd retired a year or so previously, and twice two different ex-clients just turned up, knocking at her door, asking her if she was still working. She no longer had her website, nothing to indicate that she was still working. She'd thrown her phone away when she gave up. So obviously these guys the next best thing to was to just turn up at her door-step unannounced and uninvited. She was livid to say the least. I happen to be there when it happened the 2nd time and she was shaking like a leaf. It's a good thing her husband knew what she did but if any other member of her family was there she wouldn't have known what to do.

If you're going to take incalls, lay ground rules, not only for your clients, but yourself. Keep your doors shut, get padlocks if you have to. Keep anything out of eyesight or reach that might have your name and address; letters, bills, etc. Tell customers firmly but gently when they come where and what's off limits. It also helps separate your real persona from your working life. If your computer's in your bedroom, shut it down or put it in hibernate. Another escort told me that's how a client found out her real name. He snooped around in her living room and went on to her computer uninvited.
The problem is, because you've allowed them into your home, some get the idea that they can "make themselves at home".

Apologies if it all sounds a little bit scary, but you'll find as time goes on that you really need to be on your guard with your clients. Especially the curious ones.

I chat away with my clients, I feel no need to have separate personas for work and home, and I think it's only fair to assume that they're not thinking about it that much, just talking like they would to anyone else.

If you want to keep things separate, I wonder if inventing a new background would be easier than saying you don't want to talk about it. You could base it on a (down to earth) character from a book or tv to make it easier.

I agree with you, I didn't mean to say that there aren't guys like that out there. It's just that if you're concerned about clients getting details of your personal life you're likely to feel uncomfortable with any questions relating to it and wonder what they're trying to get from you. I wanted to make the point that in most cases they're not doing anything inappropriate, they just don't realise that your boundaries are different from those of most people they meet.

Brandy and Anika Mae - interesting comments.

You see with me I just feel that my child is so not a part of this world I work in - this is Alexandra escort and I am not her mum here so it feels so so uncomfortable to make reference to her to clients.

I know, for sure, that the old gentleman is not asking for any weird reason.  I genuinely think he just wants to get to know me and I feel that with a lot of my clients but like Brandy says, there are some who seem intent of trying to find out my real name.  I dont think it is for any suspicious reason, I think it is just curiosity and perhaps this feeling that I have let my guard down so they have the upper hand, who knows?

I can easily talk about anything and dont have trouble conversing - my problem though is that when in the company of a nice old chap I let my guard down and hence divulged to him that I have a daughter.  He now enquires after her well being in a sweet way but then in the next sentence he might make some reference to my being an escort or what he would like us to do in the next booking  so it just dont feel right.

He is not part of my world where I am her mum - so I have decided that in future I will keep my mouth shut. 

It's not the fear that he will use the information against me - it is just a personal feeling that for me work and in particular my child are very very separate.  I hope that makes sense. 

I am not saying in any way that I wont talk about myself to clients but talking about my child is just something that does not feel right so I will know in future. 

Alexandra xx

Hi everyone,

Sorry I haven't replied before, i sort of got a little involved with things!
I'm glad i decided to take in-calls even though it does mean working from home as i would have only had one customer otherwise, instead of one each day. I'm looking forward to the day I get two, or three or....in a day lol. I even have my first regulaur YAY!!

talking about getting personal, I'm finding it so hard to not talk, I even manage it when my mouths full LOL. Its such a part of me, of my personality, I do it without thinking, I just spout personal information!!!

What do you guys do when you see a client out and about??

I've already stupidly told one bloke where I go out and he sent me a text today saying he'd probably see me there! To be fair he did say 'oh i drink at ...' and I just said, oooh me too!! However it was bloody stupid of me! He really wants to see me again, which is great, as long as hes paying for my time! I have no desire to spend time with him if not.

Also, does anyone apart from me feel a real reluctance to 'give it away' to anyone, no matter how much you fancy them?? I dont have a boyfriend at the mo, and dont think its likely I'll have one again, I can't see many men enjoying my line of work. However I'm pretty sure they'd definately tell me where to go if I started charging 

Mollyxxxxxx