I'm so sad to hear all the negative experiences on this thread. I 100% agree it is totally a personal choice if you are willing to see disabled clients or not.
My mother was a wheelchair user my whole life and I'm an ex carer and social worker and felt that there was a real lack of understanding of the sexual needs of disabled people (not just men) in the health and social care setting. That's why I got involved with The Outsiders Trust and TLC.
I certainly would refuse to do many of the things mentioned here but most I am happy to deal with and if booked through an agency or support service, which I often do, I can make sure I have all the information I need before hand. There are as many disabled arseholes as able bodied arseholes, you just have to stick to your boundaries. I have seen very few disabled clients that I wouldn't see again and the main reasons are the neediness which I address directly with them. Some people just can't be communicated with so I suggest they get someone to help them.
I feel like I'm offering something more valuable when I see a disabled client - especially those who are so disabled that we are their only option to have a sexual/sensual experience. Or sometimes kinky! But whatever it is I use exactly the same communication and boundaries as I do with all clients - actually not entirely true - sometimes you do have to be more adaptable and it takes a little more time but I don't mind. I'd already emptied enough cathaters and wiped poo off arses for minimum wage in the past so I'm happy to. Each to their own but I was just hoping for more positive responses