Author Topic: Disabled clients (Read 2833 times)

nemature · « **on:** 11 July 2017, 04:56:50 pm »

Today I had a client who has Parkinsons I have never seen this client before and he did not inform me of this before the booking. He only told me what was wrong when I questioned him about the syringe driver he had attached to a needle in his abdomen. He did freeze twice during the booking but having knowledge of the condition I was fine with this but I do feel that he should have told me before the booking I would have still seen him but a young inexperienced sw may have been a bit freeked out by him suddenly going still and being unable to move.
He said that he should not have to mention it as he should be able to book without going into details but I do still feel that he should have said when he rang to give any relevant information.
What do others think?

MelissaS · « **Reply #1 on:** 11 July 2017, 05:13:24 pm »

I think he definitely should have mentioned it. I have no knowledge of the condition and if someone had started going really still mid booking like that I'd definitely have been freaked out, I'd have been quite put out I think.

BevOsteen · « **Reply #2 on:** 11 July 2017, 05:26:47 pm »

Quote from: MelissaS on 11 July 2017, 05:13:24 pm

I think he definitely should have mentioned it. I have no knowledge of the condition and if someone had started going really still mid booking like that I'd definitely have been freaked out, I'd have been quite put out I think.

I also think he should have mentioned it but clients never say anything about their condition.

A simple diabetic won't tell you they are diabetic until they struggle to come. Then they will say oh l am diabetic sometimes l come, sometimes l don't.

Anais · « **Reply #3 on:** 11 July 2017, 05:31:47 pm »

He should have but I have found a lot don't.

When I was based in one place I saw a lot of disabled clients and because I advertised that I was happy to see them, they always disclosed it.

Now that I tour I don't see disabled clients as access is a problem in some of the places I use plus I had a horrible experience last year. I don't advertise either way but I don't seem to attract clients with disabilities.

That saying, I do occasionally get one and they never tell me. I think perhaps they don't want to be treated any differently, which I can understand but they should disclose.

Lucie268 · « **Reply #4 on:** 11 July 2017, 07:13:25 pm »

Definitely should have mentioned at the time of booking, just so the person is aware.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #5 on:** 11 July 2017, 08:51:32 pm »

They should disclose at booking time ideally, just as they should disclose anything which might affect the booking, e.g. PE or ED.

My best bookings have been with clients who have a disability or medical issues who've told me upfront about it and asked if I can accommodate their needs. If I can't then I always say (e.g. some hotels I use don't have lift access so aren't suitable for a client who can't do stairs.) Usually it's just a case that they are looking for someone non-judgmental and patient and who will let them lead the booking rather than a pre-conceived plan of kiss, undress, suck, fuck, cum, get out.

I understand that some clients may feel embarrassed or be afraid of being turned down, but they are shooting themselves in the foot as they're likely to end up booking someone who won't be prepared for their needs, and they'll have a shit time.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #6 on:** 12 July 2017, 11:12:10 am »

Some tell you before a meet others don't. I prefer to know ahead.

SimplySinful · « **Reply #7 on:** 12 July 2017, 01:38:57 pm »

I've found the vast majority will mention it beforehand, because they want to know that:

A) you have suitable access if that is an issue
B) you are comfortable with seeing someone with whatever level of disability they have

The last thing my disabled clients would want is someone who doesn't know in advance or who is embarrassed or something like that.

One of my first clients was someone with pretty advanced Parkinson's. He told me in advance and I'm really glad he did as otherwise I would've been unprepared and worried about managing the booking.

BlaqHarlot · « **Reply #8 on:** 12 July 2017, 02:02:59 pm »

I would've freaked out as I have never seen anyone with Parkinson's and am not knowledgable on it.
He says he shouldn't have to mention it but he should.

Eventually he will come across an escort, book her, not tell her and she may see his condition and ask him to leave as she has no knowledge of his disability, this will most likely offend him, but it will also most likely make him change the way he books girls and actually mention it. Surely these men would rather tell the girls before hand and let the girls have the opportunity to refuse or accept the booking, than them travel and be told mid booking they have to leave because the escort has had a freak out.

It should be mentioned beforehand, not only to put the girl at ease but just out of respect also so that escort can be prepared for something out of the ordinary.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #9 on:** 12 July 2017, 07:32:44 pm »

Quote from: DesignerWhore on 12 July 2017, 02:02:59 pm

I would've freaked out as I have never seen anyone with Parkinson's and am not knowledgable on it.
He says he shouldn't have to mention it but he should.

A highly discriminatory comment. Not a decent comment when disabled punters might be reading!

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #10 on:** 12 July 2017, 07:52:46 pm »

Quote from: sweetmilf on 12 July 2017, 07:32:44 pm

A highly discriminatory comment. Not a decent comment when disabled punters might be reading!

I don't think it's discriminatory to say you're not familiar with something.

A client could tell me "I have a neurological disorder that means sometimes I freeze up for a few seconds" and that would be fine. If a client doesn't say anything upfront and then sees someone and has an absence seizure during the booking, anyone who doesn't have experience with that condition is likely to panic.

Not to mention there are a number of medical conditions in which the symptoms may present as being similar to drug use. If a client arrived and was slurring their words, I would assume they had been drinking and turn them away - but they may have had a stroke, or Bells Palsy, or any number of conditions.

Kay · « **Reply #11 on:** 12 July 2017, 09:10:10 pm »

Quote from: sweetmilf on 12 July 2017, 07:32:44 pm

A highly discriminatory comment. Not a decent comment when disabled punters might be reading!

It's not discriminatory to say you'd be freaked out by a medical condition you're not familiar with - I've struggled a little with bad learning difficulties and a significant birth defect. Severe Parkinson's can be very unnerving to see, and the person can struggle even to talk understandably. Embarrassing though it is, it's up to the client to give at least an outline of their condition and its effects.

Mirror · « **Reply #12 on:** 12 July 2017, 09:13:20 pm »

Quote from: Kay on 12 July 2017, 09:10:10 pm

It's not discriminatory to say you'd be freaked out by a medical condition you're not familiar with - I've struggled a little with bad learning difficulties and a significant birth defect. Severe Parkinson's can be very unnerving to see, and the person can struggle even to talk understandably. Embarrassing though it is, it's up to the client to give at least an outline of their condition and its effects.

Yes having been pestered by some men with severe autism, and learning difficulties I assumed a caller with Parkinsons was the same until he explained. And yes if you didn't know in advance it can be startling.

BlaqHarlot · « **Reply #13 on:** 12 July 2017, 10:25:38 pm »

Quote from: sweetmilf on 12 July 2017, 07:32:44 pm

A highly discriminatory comment. Not a decent comment when disabled punters might be reading!

Nothing at all discriminatory about it, I suggest you look up the word.
I have never in my life come across any individual who suffers from Parkinson's, so to see something I am unfamiliar with would freak me out as I'm sure it would with anyone who's never seen it before.

It's a natural thing. If someone were to have a fit in front of me, I would freak out as I've never experienced it. Does that mean I'm discriminating? LOL! No, ignorance maybe but certainly not discriminatory at all.

I have family members who work in care, I would never in a million years discriminate against any individual I treat everyone as I would like to be treated. HOWEVER if a disabled client booked me and didn't tell me about his condition and he started to freeze up, it would naturally send me into panic mode.

Be very careful about what you accuse people of, you are so so wrong and I'm sure any disabled client who reads my comment (if they do) would disagree with what you've said.

BlaqHarlot · « **Reply #14 on:** 12 July 2017, 10:33:45 pm »

Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 12 July 2017, 07:52:46 pm

I don't think it's discriminatory to say you're not familiar with something.

A client could tell me "I have a neurological disorder that means sometimes I freeze up for a few seconds" and that would be fine. If a client doesn't say anything upfront and then sees someone and has an absence seizure during the booking, anyone who doesn't have experience with that condition is likely to panic.

Not to mention there are a number of medical conditions in which the symptoms may present as being similar to drug use. If a client arrived and was slurring their words, I would assume they had been drinking and turn them away - but they may have had a stroke, or Bells Palsy, or any number of conditions.

This is very true.
I remember seeing a man stumbling over the place as me and my mom were walking on an evening in town to a restaurant, I assumed he was drunk and said something like "he's had a bit too much he needs to get home" turns out, she recognised this man who visited a day care centre that a few of her service users went to, she let me know that he had atacksia or ataxia? I have no idea how to spell it, and she went and spoke to him.

She told me that it was a disorder that affects speech and balance and things like that. It is very easy to assume or be freaked out by things you have no knowledge of, it is never intentional at all.
If you don't work in the field, haven't been educated on it, or don't know anyone with the condition/disability. You aren't going to know are you.

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