I have some interest from pre-pandemic clients in London when I toured more in seeing me and at least one is interested in a dinner date. I should add that some of them also sent money a number of times during the pandemic even tho I’ve not seen them in a few years now.

I’ve never done one before, no clue how long they should be (I assume a few hours) or what to charge and obviously it’d be kinda different from just an incall. How do you dinner daters do it, do you find it more stressful, or easier? (I’m only going to accept dinner dates from those I’ve seen before and know I get on ok with)

I’ve mentioned before I stopped offering full service and why, my plan atm is to allow it with dinner daters and those I’ve seen before. I wouldn’t advertise this, I’d communicate with them beforehand. I think that would be bearable.

I really could use the money as things are so slow where I am and would try to get a hotel that’s not too horrendously pricey. I’m going to try and get deposits as well.

Is there any way you could get the guy to book and pay for the hotel himself LadyJ?
I did a few with a regular but I stipulated that it had to be somewhere not miles from me, he used to book somewhere about 20 mins from me so I'd drive over, have a meal and some private time and he'd sleep over at the hotel and I left after the agreed amount of hours, usually around 3.
I charged for 2 hours private time at normal outcall rate and slightly less for the 1 hour for dinner.
If you are struggling a bit for funds at the min I can't really see it it being very lucrative if you pay for the hotel.

Thanks Mirror if it goes ahead no worries about discretion as London/thereabouts is nowhere near my current base. I don’t want to drink much alcohol either.

I make dinner dates 4 hours and charge between my 3 hour and 4 hour rate - so it is a slight discount but I am still being paid for the time taken. When I first started I tried a much reduced rate, but it didn't make sense because I could have had shorter full rate bookings in that time for the same fee and time off or full rate for that time. These days I actually turn a few down because I don't want to eat out a lot for figure maintenance reasons, plus I am in a semi-rural location so discretion and privacy has to be a consideration. When I turn down the dinner date I do offer just private time instead, and often the client is absolutely fine with that. I do think that some punters/clients think that a meal, drinks etc (I do not drink alcohol) are in some way an incentive, treat or something to persuade me to accept their booking. Meals out personal or working are just not compatible with how I look after myself, my treats are a yoga session, reading a book, evening off, time with family and friends.

This does not mean I do not enjoy a meal out, but they are truly a treat because I limit them so much.

Client arranges it, so he's setting the budget. I'd prompt with "So where are you taking me?"

Have taken into consideration that I will be paying out for accommodation and what I charge in London, looked at the websites of others in London to see what they charge for dinner dates.

It varies a lot, and obviously those London based don’t have such a big hotel expense if they live there either.

Do you think £750 for 4 hrs dinner date ok? Or too much/not enough. It’s the lower end of the scale looking at websites for London gals but many of them charge a lot more per hour than I do.

I know I have to make my own decision in the end but struggling as I suppose still worried too high will put him off. I haven’t sent him a price yet.

I know no one can tell me, guess I’m nervous about it, being my first dinner date. I have seen him before for an incall, I wouldn’t do one cold so to speak. He will pay a deposit  actually is likely to pay the whole fee upfront as well. I have seen many charge £1000 and way more, going by a lot of London websites. I shall think on it.

I have thought about which way round and that if possible it would be better to do the date side first, I will see if I can him on side so to speak in that regard.

Nobody can tell you what to charge, LJ. That sounds high to me, but like everybody else here I have no context, and London is somewhere that we can operate at every possible price level and get business. Plus this sounds like a one off rather than a regular rate so if you're not planning on putting it in your ads I wouldn't worry about it - if I was going to be working all day and then having to do this after I'd be putting a top whack price on it too.

I don't offer dinner dates or overnights any more, but I have one regular who likes the former so I have them occasionally; like Mirror I don't drink alcohol or see anybody who has been which would likely put them off anyway, but one thing I would recommend if the punter is amenable is doing the booking first and the dinner after. It's a lot more comfortable eating with somebody you've already spent some time with, you'll have your money safely put away and you don't have to worry about fuckups at the restaurant making you late (or having to shag when you're full, which is really horrible) .

If you look across the various platforms, from AW to agencies, the prices for dinner dates range from £500/£600 to a few thousand.  It is really up to you how much you want to charge.  It is also worth considering that those who want dinner dates make up a tiny proportion of clients, so you might get one or two a month, or none at all. 

I only offer dinner dates (or shorter drinks dates), four and three hours respectively, although most run to five hours. As I only charge for my time, (yes, that old chestnut), I charge what I would charge for three or four hours of non-social time.  (I have my own website and do not use AW.  I also do not provide the hotel, that is entirely on the client.)

I think what is important is how you pitch yourself, and besides, you can always find clients who will pay your prices, so maybe it is worth just going with the flow, starting with a price you feel fair and then adjust accordingly if needed.  £750 which you have mooted is an ideal place to start. If you use AW, I think it is pretty well-pitched, particularly if you’re providing the accommodation. However, I would only recommend this in London as I am not convinced you would get many takers elsewhere.