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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Jackiela on 29 January 2020, 03:35:31 pm
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I have had a client seen me twice this week now ladies he is asking if he can take me for a drink and will cover my cost this is something which I don’t like doing any more used to when I started escorting but I think with time and having doing the job for a while I am just happy for them to come give them the service and let me get on may be I am getting old and boring 😂😂 how do I drop him gently without offending him ?
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I was having a niggle yesterday about a similar problem. ;D
Maybe just tell him it's nice of him to offer but it's something you prefer not to do, or that you have other plans - as one of the other ladies pointed out to me, it isn't fair on clients who just use the time that they book and pay for.
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Thanks Maz I thought so but it’s always good to have a second opinion so ya will do that and hopefully it will go down well with him 😂 as you can never please them all x
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You're welcome x
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I have had a client seen me twice this week now ladies he is asking if he can take me for a drink and will cover my cost this is something which I don’t like doing any more used to when I started escorting but I think with time and having doing the job for a while I am just happy for them to come give them the service and let me get on may be I am getting old and boring 😂😂 how do I drop him gently without offending him ?
Why should he be offended? Just because he booked you twice a week doesn't entitle him to take you out.
Agree once and he'll expect it always!
I see my dermatologist twice a week too, but I wouldn't expect him to have drinks with me :P
Just say you made other plans, thanks, and hope he gets the hint.
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A polite but firm "Thank you for asking", followed by something like "Not something I would do/like to do/I'm happy with the private time/prefer to keep it private" should suffice.
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I get asked this quite a lot and I politely but firmly decline. I tell them I don't offer social time. Period.
If they persist and hint at a date, again i decline and laugh it off. Deflecting with humour always works for me. I tell them i am happily single and then change the subject!
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I’ve obviously been doing this job too long, I don’t even politely decline anymore. I smile sweetly and say ‘oh I’d be thrilled! My drinks rates are £130 an hour’
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I had this yesterday.
Someone I have seen on half hour bookings decided to extend it to 45mins "so we can relax more".
I spent the time on massaging him anyway, so it was hardly relaxing for me.
Now he says he is going to "treat me" to a meal out next time. He didn't ask, he just declared.
I know for a fact he has no intention of paying, because he thinks he's a catch (amongst all the horrors I must see 🙄)
It wasn't the right time to tell him, but if he goes ahead and properly asks, he will be informed of my pleasure at his request and my fee accordingly ;)
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The OP mentioned paying expenses, does that mean the rate for the time or just paying for the meal itself?
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Yeah I have one getting a little too comfortable now, he will need to feel the heel of my shoe soon lol, if he hasn't sacked himself by me refusing is booking last week that is.
Telling me he could drop up over Christmas for a few drinks, or for me to drop down to his, errrr no, just no.
Last week it was can I meet you tonight, but I cant pay til Wednesday, is that a problem?
Yes it is, I am not your mate, buddy or free fucking booty call love.
I fuck for cash, not to keep you happy
Funnily enough he has gone dead quiet now hahaha
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Every so often someone will say, "When you are next in the area, you are welcome to nip around for a coffee"
I'm usually nicely caffeinated by the next paying customer thanks and keen to start the drive home, but the gesture was innocent, I'm sure 🙄
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This is so simple to fix.
"I'd love to! My 3 & 4 hour lunch/dinner rates are on my website, take a look at those & let me know which you'd prefer & when! Oh, you don't want a 3 hour dinner date? No problem at all, my coffee/drink donations are the same as if you'd come to see me; makes it nice & simple for YOU."
He'll get the message.
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Every so often someone will say, "When you are next in the area, you are welcome to nip around for a coffee"
I'm usually nicely caffeinated by the next paying customer thanks and keen to start the drive home, but the gesture was innocent, I'm sure 🙄
I simply take this as politeness, just as people ask "How are you", or "You can talk to me any time".
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I have a regular who has been trying to get me to go for lunch after our meets in the morning or to join him out for the day on his boat and up until now I have always declined. This is partly due to finding the whole idea mentally exhausting and as nice as he is, he wouldn't be someone I would choose to spend time with socially. I also always suspected that he wouldn't see it as additional time to our usual private time together and therefore have no intention of paying a fee for my time.
So the other day I called his bluff and said yeah let's go out to a country pub, It's X amount for an hours social time. He looked absolutely shocked and said he thought we had become friends after all these years and what he gives me anyway he sees as just a 'donation'! So shows the total disconnect there can be! I'm glad now I've always kept it to good old simple and structured private time, otherwise with this guy the boundaries would've have become easily blurred.
I think it depends on the person though and some clients 'get it'. I find social time works better with someone who is just passing through area and is not going to be a regular. They just want a drink etc whilst they are staying at their hotel for example. I