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RazorBabyxx

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Hey everybody, hope your weekends have all been well

I have been working in Enfield for 2 weeks now on  weekens  and last weekI  came across a client who booked me.  I knew I shouldn’t have seen him again as he was abit rough and pushy and also tried to bareback me, but apart from that we was speaking about music etc and he was nice outside of the whole “sex” part because I’m fairly new to this I knew I shouldn’t mix business with pleasure and not give benefits of the doubt based on their actual “character” outside of the service.

Anyways, he came last night and booked 30 minutes but didn’t cum so wanted to extend, he kept going after the timer came off and I had to poke him a few times for him to eventually get off me, he paid again to extend and we took a little break because it was quite intense and rough, he didn’t cum again the second time either.. he then kept saying he needs “5 minutes” and gave a speech to me and my friend about “as a man when u don’t cum blah blah” I told him he can extend 15 more minutes but he has to pay first and he said he wants to fuck and pay afterwards. He also paid for CIM he didn’t get to use that I offered to refund him. He stood there and had a whole big argument about the whole thing even though after both 30 min timers were up he didn’t pull out.

Now he has sent me a nasty paragraph on WhatsApp because I kicked him out calling me an “average dick drunk hoe” and it was a waste of his money.

Do you guys let your clients still finish when the timer is up without extending? Am I doing dodgy business and scamming?



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Re: Didn’t cum, doesn’t want to extend either but wants to cum?
« Reply #1 on: 26 January 2025, 11:01:33 pm »
Sweetheart he is a boundary pushing jerk and a bully, block him and move on he's not worth your breath or time.

As for allowing them to finish after the timer, it really does depend,  if we have been chatting and it's a mutual carried away and lost track of time thing and his attitude is good then I will allow 5/10 min grace, if they have edged to the point that they cannot cum then its tough luck the answer is no, it's also a no if they are trying to get a 2nd or 3rd pop out and still trying as we get to 5 mins to go, that's just disrespectful.

Stick to your guns they need to respect your time as that's what they are paying for.

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Re: Didn’t cum, doesn’t want to extend either but wants to cum?
« Reply #2 on: 27 January 2025, 06:24:12 am »
There are plenty of people who would have banned him after the "also tried to bareback me" part. Similarly lots would not have offered a refund because CIM didn't happen.

As a man, it can be frustrating not to come (and must be even more so if you have paid for the sex) but it happens for a whole variety of reasons and it's not physically painful. An ache, no more, until the effects of the arousal completely goes away.

So yeah, boundary pushing jerk.

In general if you don't call time when time is up, you can find yourself thoroughly exploited, because it will get taken advantage of. Clients know that, and it's the ones who would do so that moan.
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Re: Didn’t cum, doesn’t want to extend either but wants to cum?
« Reply #3 on: 27 January 2025, 08:45:37 am »
1. He attempted bareback
2. He is rough (I'll come back to this)
3. He is a winger
4. He refuses to accept a different view point

5. He sent an abusive message after the booking

I would reply saying it's obvious you don't get on with him, cannot accept another booking I wish you well (last bit is to diffuse any pending retaliatory response).

However I know most would just block him.

I would also report him to appropriate platforms for being pushy, demanding, abusive.

2. Unfortunately some men (or certainly punters) seem to think being rough is what women want. Even this week (I've been around a long time) I've shown a repeat booked what actually does 'get me off, he seemed to think he knew and was telling me to 'cum babe in the position he'd told me to be in and after 2 touches of my clit with my own hand (at his instruction). I'd not touched it voluntarily because I thought it was all about him, and I know touching myself in that position doesn't do much for me.

This it's own is for me merely annoying, frustrating and I can direct him out of if, but combined with other difficult behaviour I would be giving the punter his marching orders.

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Re: Didn’t cum, doesn’t want to extend either but wants to cum?
« Reply #4 on: 27 January 2025, 09:26:22 am »
Babe, don't see him again. He is a boundary pusher, and an asshole by the sounds. There are plenty of nice clients around, and he doesn't deserve your time or thought space.  :-*

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Re: Didn’t cum, doesn’t want to extend either but wants to cum?
« Reply #5 on: 27 January 2025, 03:04:46 pm »
He is the worst type of client.

I don’t allow anyone to go over time, even regulars. If it helps, give them a verbal reminder 10 minutes before the end that they have 10 minutes to finish.

I used this myself in the early days. You’ll find the longer you have been working that it all falls into place a bit more.

I would also work on tightening up on screening.