Whenever I ask for a deposit the client is telling me that they need my real name otherwise my account can't be authenticated on their banking app. At first I thought it was a few dodgy clients but now even on my own banking app (Co op) you need to input a full name. I've managed to get by with transfers by PayPal but had to turn down a few bookings because the deposit won't go through on banking apps unless they have my real name. Has anyone else had this problem?

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Hi I need to take a deposit from a client but there’s no way I’m using my bank my full name is on the front of my card so I presume it will show on his statement. The booking will be 1500 in total and I’m not sure how much deposit I’ll want.  I’ve never taken a electronic deposit before and don’t no what I could do ? I really nice advice thank you

^^On £1500, I ask usually for 20%, but on occasion, I have asked for 25-30%. I accept deposits in the form of an e-gift card or via Cashapp.

However that said, sometimes, particularly for larger deposits, I prefer to use my bank account, and give my initials rather than my full name, but I appreciate you might not be comfortable doing this.

With most banks, a real name is not necessary. Banks like to match a sort code and account no with the registered name of the account holder. This is not only to help prevent fraud but also to prevent innocent mistakes being made!
When the client gets to the point where his bank says its not a match, you can still make the payment at your own risk. So I get the client to send £1 firstly using my AW name (or any other name) and once this is confirmed back to the client as received, he can then use the same details (as saved on his banking app) to make the rest of the payment.

Two cancellations, 1 disrespectful block and one “I can’t make it, the traffic is bad” later, and I am livid. I am thinking of implementing a small deposit to protect my time but I have heard my clients (a couple of them) say they’ll never pay a deposit. I wonder why some of these men think we’ll steal their £20/£30.

I practically dress up for every appointment; full set lingerie, face make up and hair done so it always annoys me when an appointment is cancelled or I am ghosted. Another thing that annoys me though not frequent is the audacity of the looks and gos that even have the effrontery to request an outfit. Yeah! I’ve dressed up as a sexy secretary for a look&go before.

Why is paying a deposit such a big deal to some of these men or is it my target market that is flawed? I’ve had guys book me on other platforms eg tryst and haven’t had a problem with paying a deposit. But these adultwork men…OMG! Does anyone take a deposit for appointments and how do you do it? Has it affected the volume of clients you receive? I’ll like to know before I draft a deposit policy for my profile cause I do not want to deal with this

Sometimes I think it could be because their partner might see the banks statement? But yes it’s annoying

You’ve a answered your own question - it’s AW that’s part of the problem - some men think their feedback is golden and negates a need to pay a deposit. 

All my deposits are three figures, and payment in the form of an e_gift card (although for regulars I know well, they can pay by transfer). However, I do not use AW, and am also clear on my website and booking form that deposits are mandatory, so think these factors might just be why I have no problems.

Additionally, I also think a huge part of the issue with deposits is that some men just don’t see sex work as a proper job, so they don’t think the usual decorum applies.