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meetingdiversity

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Dealing with Idots?
« on: 03 November 2016, 04:20:06 pm »
I don't know why maybe because of the preparation to cut down escorting process. But I am beginning to become very resentful of the time wasters. More like hating them with a passion leaving me to question the whole thing.

My patients are very slim at the moment. I should just let them be idiots, but now their dum behaviour gets to me a lot more than. I agree with another who calls them cunts. Before I tolerated them plebs.

Has any experienced simular?. Any advice appreciated.
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #1 on: 03 November 2016, 04:23:19 pm »
There are times when, for various reasons, I have even less patience than usual for timewasters.

My only advice is to give them as little of your precious energy as possible. This week, I have had some personal things going on that mean I can really only cope with the most perfect, delightful clients. And I absolutely cannot spare an iota of energy on the ones who sound like twats on the phone.

What I do is immediately hang up the very instant I decide they're an idiot. I don't hang up on innocent-but-not-suitable-for-me guys, just the ones who sound like they wanna yank my chain or wank their dicks or whatever. I don't say anything at all. I simply disconnect and then block them and give them not one more second's thought.
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #2 on: 03 November 2016, 06:36:45 pm »
Totally agree with Fabs approach,  they're not worth your head space.

If my timewaster radar goes off,  eg too many questions,  promising me the moon and stars etc,  I suddenly become fully booked for the time they request and block.

Dont know if it's just me but all my threesome booking requests have been timewaster idiots,  so will no longer entertain them.






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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #3 on: 03 November 2016, 07:16:58 pm »
Quote from: Scarlet O on 03 November 2016, 06:36:45 pm
Dont know if it's just me but all my threesome booking requests have been timewaster idiots,  so will no longer entertain them.

Yes, absolutely. I have not had a genuine couple booking yet. I head these off quite quickly by saying "Please get your partner to call me so we can discuss boundaries for the session." Never hear from them again.
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #4 on: 03 November 2016, 07:28:47 pm »
Honestly most punters do my fucking head in; I'm gonna write a book one day and call it 'The REAL truth about prostitution' because I've read many true live stories abr hookers & its all lies; what hooker gets into this type of work coz she likes being fucked by random old men that she's not attracted too!! they all say they loved sex so why not get paid for it & to me this is UTTER CRAP & they just say that because they are worried that their Clients are reading it & they still wanna make cash from these guys therefore they MUST pretend sex with men old enuff to be your Grandad is exciting....Well my story will be Real. I'm in this job for cash. End Of. Any girls that like fucking men they don't fancy over+over; clearly have issues.
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #5 on: 03 November 2016, 08:06:16 pm »
Quote from: ScottishSexpot on 03 November 2016, 07:28:47 pm
Honestly most punters do my fucking head in; I'm gonna write a book one day and call it 'The REAL truth about prostitution' because I've read many true live stories abr hookers & its all lies; what hooker gets into this type of work coz she likes being fucked by random old men that she's not attracted too!! they all say they loved sex so why not get paid for it & to me this is UTTER CRAP & they just say that because they are worried that their Clients are reading it & they still wanna make cash from these guys therefore they MUST pretend sex with men old enuff to be your Grandad is exciting....Well my story will be Real. I'm in this job for cash. End Of. Any girls that like fucking men they don't fancy over+over; clearly have issues.

Well you're welcome to the forum SS and you're welcome to your opinion too, but I'd maybe suggest not attributing it to or making assumptions about the rest of us. Most of us have our own opinions already :).
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #6 on: 03 November 2016, 08:12:29 pm »
Quote from: ScottishSexpot on 03 November 2016, 07:28:47 pm
Honestly most punters do my fucking head in; I'm gonna write a book one day and call it 'The REAL truth about prostitution' because I've read many true live stories abr hookers & its all lies; what hooker gets into this type of work coz she likes being fucked by random old men that she's not attracted too!! they all say they loved sex so why not get paid for it & to me this is UTTER CRAP & they just say that because they are worried that their Clients are reading it & they still wanna make cash from these guys therefore they MUST pretend sex with men old enuff to be your Grandad is exciting....Well my story will be Real. I'm in this job for cash. End Of. Any girls that like fucking men they don't fancy over+over; clearly have issues.

Im actually writing my story but i dont have issues, i do do the job for money but non of my clients have ever made my skin crawl even tho some iv not been attracted to and also some iv not been attracted to but the sex was great, by the way it would be 'your real truth' not everyones real truth
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #7 on: 03 November 2016, 08:17:54 pm »
Quote from: ScottishSexpot on 03 November 2016, 07:28:47 pm
Honestly most punters do my fucking head in; I'm gonna write a book one day and call it 'The REAL truth about prostitution' because I've read many true live stories abr hookers & its all lies; what hooker gets into this type of work coz she likes being fucked by random old men that she's not attracted too!! they all say they loved sex so why not get paid for it & to me this is UTTER CRAP & they just say that because they are worried that their Clients are reading it & they still wanna make cash from these guys therefore they MUST pretend sex with men old enuff to be your Grandad is exciting....Well my story will be Real. I'm in this job for cash. End Of. Any girls that like fucking men they don't fancy over+over; clearly have issues.

Do you often have trouble with the concept that other people experience the world differently to you?
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #8 on: 03 November 2016, 08:28:26 pm »
I find I have a shorter fuse for timewasters when it's abit quiet anyway.They all seem to come out at the same time and it can be quiet mentally draining especially when you are really needing a booking that day.
It's for sure the most tiring and stressful part of the job for me.As for how I personally feel about the job,I don't do it for the sex,I do do it for the money but I actually enjoy how I earn my money i.e I take pride in giving a good service and seeing someone leave with a smile on their face.I also believe everyones reasons and experiences of being an escort will be slightly different.If anyone does this purely for money and hates every moment of it..it's time to do something else or you will be the one with issues!
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #9 on: 03 November 2016, 08:34:52 pm »
Quote from: ScottishSexpot on 03 November 2016, 07:28:47 pm
Honestly most punters do my fucking head in; I'm gonna write a book one day and call it 'The REAL truth about prostitution' because I've read many true live stories abr hookers & its all lies; what hooker gets into this type of work coz she likes being fucked by random old men that she's not attracted too!! they all say they loved sex so why not get paid for it & to me this is UTTER CRAP & they just say that because they are worried that their Clients are reading it & they still wanna make cash from these guys therefore they MUST pretend sex with men old enuff to be your Grandad is exciting....Well my story will be Real. I'm in this job for cash. End Of. Any girls that like fucking men they don't fancy over+over; clearly have issues.

Hi, I don't agree with you. I enjoy my job and I like my clients.

Thanks :)
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #10 on: 03 November 2016, 09:51:48 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 03 November 2016, 04:20:06 pm
My patients are very slim at the moment. I should just let them be idiots, but now their dum behaviour gets to me a lot more than. I agree with another who calls them cunts. Before I tolerated them plebs.

Has any experienced simular?. Any advice appreciated.

I agree with Fabulassie and would go a step further; if I really can't handle any more stupid calls I switch my call blocker on with an autorespond message asking them to text instead and that way I don't have to talk to them at all. The immediate pressure of having them there on the phone is what makes me stressed so if I can bypass that and use alternative means to communicate I can relax a bit until I feel up to taking calls again.

Everybody's different though, and some people will find some other aspect of dealing with them stressful - do you think it's a particular thing that's getting to you which you could maybe manage in a way that makes you feel better?
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #11 on: 03 November 2016, 10:42:04 pm »
I have a very finely tuned bullshitometer, 10 seconds into the coversation and I can tell what the guys intentions are. I divide my callers into 3 cathegories:

1) TW's.
2) People who really want to see me but I'd rather not see.
3) Nice guys.

I always hang up on 1 and 2 after 10 seconds and put my energy into group 3. I may not be that busy but I'm stress free.
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #12 on: 03 November 2016, 11:35:07 pm »
Quote from: amy on 03 November 2016, 09:51:48 pm
I agree with Fabulassie and would go a step further; if I really can't handle any more stupid calls I switch my call blocker on with an autorespond message asking them to text instead and that way I don't have to talk to them at all. The immediate pressure of having them there on the phone is what makes me stressed so if I can bypass that and use alternative means to communicate I can relax a bit until I feel up to taking calls again.

Everybody's different though, and some people will find some other aspect of dealing with them stressful - do you think it's a particular thing that's getting to you which you could maybe manage in a way that makes you feel better?

I give many the benefit of the doubt recently but they prove me right being time wasters. I will stick to seeing regulars for now until I am strong enough to deal with the idoits. It didn't help as was ill the flu not so long ago. So feel my defenses are out of tune.  For some reason I take their jipe to heart at the moment. Maybe because personal things on top of are making me fragile. I will try Amy your method at a later date.

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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #13 on: 03 November 2016, 11:40:17 pm »
Quote from: amy on 03 November 2016, 09:51:48 pm
I agree with Fabulassie and would go a step further; if I really can't handle any more stupid calls I switch my call blocker on with an autorespond message asking them to text instead and that way I don't have to talk to them at all. The immediate pressure of having them there on the phone is what makes me stressed so if I can bypass that and use alternative means to communicate I can relax a bit until I feel up to taking calls again.

I do that too Amy, I find it much easier to screen through texts to find a sensible one than answer endless stupid timewaster calls if I'm feeling stressed. x
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Re: Dealing with Idots?
« Reply #14 on: 04 November 2016, 12:00:42 am »
Quote from: Ana30 on 03 November 2016, 10:42:04 pm
I have a very finely tuned bullshitometer, 10 seconds into the coversation and I can tell what the guys intentions are. I divide my callers into 3 cathegories:

1) TW's.
2) People who really want to see me but I'd rather not see.
3) Nice guys.

I always hang up on 1 and 2 after 10 seconds and put my energy into group 3. I may not be that busy but I'm stress free.
Totally agree with this. I don't get stressed with the phone either.
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