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sultress000

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Dating when you are an escort?
« on: 25 June 2013, 11:54:07 am »
So I've been escorting coming up to 2 years.And have loved it.Still do.
But I've been single all that time and am beginning to really want some love in my life.
I just dont know how that would be possible though! Not sure I could lie about it.On other hand what if i date someone nice then tell him once we like each other,its so risky..he could turn nasty and tell others what i do...
ITs so depressing thinking i cant ever date or find love though! :FF
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Mrs Mischief

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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #1 on: 25 June 2013, 12:13:54 pm »
A difficult one..

It will depend a lot on the person and if they are in your circle of friends who don't know what you do. Quite a risk to tell them if they know your friends as there is a high probability that you secret will come out. It might be deliberate or just a mistake so from that perspective you are probably best dating men that do not know your friends and family assuming they don't know what you do.

In the ideal world you would want to be upfront with them and don't be embarrassed about it, when the conversation comes up say you are an escort with a straight face and if that puts them off you haven't put all that effort into the relationship only to later have the emotional turmoil of a breakup. One potential downside to that is that they might then be tempted to string you along for a while thinking ooh guaranteed shag, get a few free hot steamy sessions out of her and not be the slightest bit interested in a proper relationship.
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #2 on: 27 June 2013, 07:36:28 pm »
lol,thanks for that reply...pretty much confirmed what i thought.No dates for me!
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #3 on: 27 June 2013, 11:49:09 pm »
Quote from: sultress000 on 25 June 2013, 11:54:07 am
So I've been escorting coming up to 2 years.And have loved it.Still do.
But I've been single all that time and am beginning to really want some love in my life.
I just dont know how that would be possible though! Not sure I could lie about it.On other hand what if i date someone nice then tell him once we like each other,its so risky..he could turn nasty and tell others what i do...
ITs so depressing thinking i cant ever date or find love though! :FF


It will be easier dating a client if you feel some thing special. That way he already knows so no secrets and will ease the pressure off of you. But be careful because I dated while doing this then felt guilty doing services. Another pointer is to relax about the dating thing letting it happen when least expected is the best. Many clients are full of so much deceit remember though among the few genuine ones.
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Lil Lolita

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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #4 on: 28 June 2013, 09:03:54 am »
Personally, I found it really hard to date and do this job.

When I was seeing a guy for two weeks earlier in the year, I was working later that night (spent the day with him and then planned to work at night), the girl from the agency texted me an advanced booking. I obviously couldn't reply as I was with the guy, and they like you to be prompt. Thankfully, I am reliable with them anyway, so I still got the booking. The guy left early anyway as I had a really dodgy stomach, which thankfully settled that night for the client haha!

I'm going off again lol. The guy did me a favour by being on the rebound so I chucked him as soon as I figured it out. I am a busy girl and don't have time to date, as I have uni and this job, my friends etc.

It is very hard to I think, and as so many others have said, a lot of guys won't accept our job or get turned on by getting "freebies" from an escort. I think it's about assessing the risk, though I understand you've been single for two years and want to find someone. I would write up a big list of pros and cons :)
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #5 on: 28 June 2013, 09:58:35 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 27 June 2013, 11:49:09 pm
...... It will be easier dating a client if you feel some thing special. That way he already knows so no secrets and will ease the pressure off of you.

I cant agree with that.  He may know what you do but how could you ever know if he likes you for you or just likes the idea of free sex.  ::)
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #6 on: 28 June 2013, 10:26:25 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 27 June 2013, 11:49:09 pm
It will be easier dating a client if you feel some thing special.

Not sure that is wise, the old "Started seeing a client, I stopped working, it all went wrong, here i am back again" story is a bit too common for my liking. Plus, to be frank I'd be constantly thinking they were off seeing another lady and not at the office.

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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #7 on: 28 June 2013, 05:32:53 pm »
I've found kink events and munches (when kinky people meet in a vanilla, newbie friendly cafe) are an okay way to meet people. No one is that surprised when you say you're an escort and it's how I met my current boyfriend.
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #8 on: 28 June 2013, 05:47:43 pm »
I so agree Nobody interesting. Just date guys and tell them nothing! Remember it's a job and we don't like the sex with the guys, it's not a loving relationship.  Go for it, we all need luuuurve! I'm back on the dating scene and loving it! x
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #9 on: 28 June 2013, 05:52:19 pm »
Quote from: Nobody Interesting on 28 June 2013, 10:26:25 am
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 27 June 2013, 11:49:09 pm
It will be easier dating a client if you feel some thing special.

Not sure that is wise, the old "Started seeing a client, I stopped working, it all went wrong, here i am back again" story is a bit too common for my liking. Plus, to be frank I'd be constantly thinking they were off seeing another lady and not at the office.

It's better not to have an ex-client as a BF IMO. Or even one who has ever been a client with anyone. My current one is a bit boring in bed, but he's great in other ways which makes up for that, and we have a fairly good social life. He knows what I do, but not all of the gory detail. I enjoy client sex a lot, well some of them anyway. I've got some regulars that are good performers and he knows that too, but it isn't often mentioned. When I take a few days off I find myself looking forward to getting back to it, and I think it's going to be a long time before I feel any different. It can work with a partner, but I think less than 5% of the male population are likely to be comfortable with it.
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #10 on: 28 June 2013, 07:37:01 pm »
Quote from: GinnieHazel on 28 June 2013, 05:32:53 pm
I've found kink events and munches (when kinky people meet in a vanilla, newbie friendly cafe) are an okay way to meet people. No one is that surprised when you say you're an escort and it's how I met my current boyfriend.

what/where are these events?  Or are you talking about Starbucks lol
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #11 on: 28 June 2013, 07:38:33 pm »
I think dating affects people in a few professions, including ours.   I have a friend (really friendly and good looking guy) who works in a sensitive Government job and he finds it difficult to hold on to a relationship and difficult to talk about his work because it is sensitive and  can be unusual hours.  When you work unusual works and can?t fully explain why you can?t answer your phone/respond promptly to messages it natural for the other half to raise eyebrows.

People have found love in this job with a partner who understands what they do.  I?m also still looking to Mr Right. I haven?t found him yet but I?m sure I will one day and so will all the other singletons out there  :)
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #12 on: 29 June 2013, 08:36:28 am »
Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 28 June 2013, 09:58:35 am
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 27 June 2013, 11:49:09 pm
...... It will be easier dating a client if you feel some thing special. That way he already knows so no secrets and will ease the pressure off of you.

I cant agree with that.  He may know what you do but how could you ever know if he likes you for you or just likes the idea of free sex.  ::)


I wouldn't go there myself but if any thing it was easier when did as didn't need to lie. It's the fantasy many cliebts seek not a life long partner.
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #13 on: 29 June 2013, 09:21:44 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 29 June 2013, 08:36:28 am
I wouldn't go there myself but if any thing it was easier when did as didn't need to lie. It's the fantasy many cliebts seek not a life long partner.

I'm sure it is just the fantasy but unless I'm getting paid I'm not going there.
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Re: Dating when you are an escort?
« Reply #14 on: 29 June 2013, 12:02:11 pm »
Have you thought about maybe meeting a guy who works in the industry (directly or indirectly) e.g. a photographer or male performer?  These guys may understand the demands and practices of this job more than the average-Joe.

It shouldn't be the person's job that makes-or-breaks a relationship but the fact they are genuine and honest with you and you're both comfortable with each other.  It's a pity some guys can't understand this.
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