Many do believe the rubbing the area around the opening is highly-stimulating, as is slapping or vibrating a hand over the whole kit and caboodle, and vigorously inserting fingers. Doesn't do it for me, and becomes quite irritating if anything.

Yeah, I've noticed a few of those ones, too.

I think also rubbishy "sex tipz" in Men's Health or whatever the blokes version of Cosmo is meant to be are slightly to blame; whenever I get a guy pushing down on the lower front bit of my tummy (I've read tipz that say this stimulates our g-spot?) when down there, I suspect the tipz may be the cause! I mean, I wouldn't honestly do anything that Cosmo told me to do with a penis, but then again, it's taken me about a hundred++ blowjobs to get good and we can't expect our clients to have gone down on that many women, especially not women who don't just ignore bad technique in favour of an easy life.

It's extra-complex, too, when you get to all those g-spot stimulation things - sure, I might enjoy a real lover having a good explore but often even then g-spot stimulation just makes me need to pee really bad. I'm not experienced or familiar enough at it to enjoy it with work at all (obviously I do not need clients "teaching" me sex stuff that I'm not already comfortable with; it just doesn't work and puts me off the whole thing) so while a client might have great fun following one escort's instructions on, I dunno, getting her to squirt or whatever, he can't just do that same prodding and poking to the next girl and expect the same result. I think this might really be a key factor in why we all have to do so much correcting!

I like to pre-empt things sometimes with a, "Just start really gently and I'll tell you when to go harder/faster" (+flirty face) which can ideally save any of those awkward mid-prod/poke moments when you accidentally "meep" in pain and have to have that whole conversation full of the subtext, "I am not really turned on by your sexual technique" - always one best avoided!

Many do believe the rubbing the area around the opening is highly-stimulating, as is slapping or vibrating a hand over the whole kit and caboodle, and vigorously inserting fingers. Doesn't do it for me, and becomes quite irritating if anything.

I think a big problem (like Emily mentioned with the g-spot stimulation thing) is that all women are different - there probably are women who like all of those! I need penetration to orgasm almost always, so really hard fingering actually is pretty good for me. But, even then, only if I'm naturally turned on and wet (lube doesn't make enough of a difference because when I'm not aroused I'm too tight to enjoy it), so it's still a bad move for most clients who I don't have enough natural chemistry with to get there. So if these men have had partners in the past who honestly liked those kind of techniques then they probably think they'v'e got a foolproof method!

If I was dating/casually seeing a guy (or girl - much as people like to think 'women know best' about what feels good, some women are really clueless!)  who had the wrong idea about what most women liked (or what I liked) I would tell him straight, but obviously most men who pay for sex aren't paying to be told what to do or criticised. If they hurt me they're going to get shouted at, but if it's just boring/irritating I kinda feel like I should just let them get on with it - probably not doing them any good in the long run, but saves the really awkward conversation!