I know there are exceptions to this rule (as some on this thread have proven...being married etc to ex clients). However, I read a quote once that said a relationship will end where it begins and I think there is truth in that in the escort/client relationship. In other words, generally, if you meet your man in a context by which he is in control of what occurs to a greater extent, then what's the likelihood he will be the type of man who is willing to engage in an equal relationship? In my experience, the client I fell for wanted it to remain on his terms.
Omg you are so right!
I started a relationship with a client over 6 years ago. Much older than me but we really hit it off - in and out of the bedroom!
Everything was going fine for the first few months - we were smitten however then something went badly wrong and on 2 occasions which were a couple of weeks apart, because he was uncomfortable with a situation and didn't make me aware of this he dealt with it himself and his way of dealing with it was to see an escort! I was absolutely devastated when I found out and things were never the same after. Brought on a ton of trust issues that have never left.
After that he decided a proper LTR was never going to be for him, not with me or anyone....well he likes the company, regular sex etc... but doesn't want things to move on. He's quite happy with us both living separately and it never being anything more. We see each other every week and for him that's enough. I came to the conclusion that I would rather have this than nothing and that I was happy with us staying in the "dating" stage of a relationship whilst it's also enabling me to continue in this line of work. However one big thing is that eventually I want more and I know he wont/can't give this to me!
I have become too involved and comfortable and the thought of stating afresh with someone new fills me with dread but I don't want to be a spinster all my life! I'm in my mid 30's with no kids and if it's not to late I would like the chance of "settling down" with someone and having a family....BUT it's easier said than done. It's all too easy with ex-client guy - we have a great time together, go on holidays, meals out and rarely argue. It's like a normal relationship but it isn't!
So yeah it's on his terms and when it ends he'll happily go back to punting to fulfil his needs!