Well I just got my first cancel.

 I'm kind of mixed feeling about it though. He was my first client, and has booked me 4 times in 2 weeks, canceling the 4th. He gave me a fair explanation which was that he was still stuck with work colleagues (which I knew he may be and he had told me about that chance earlier in the day when I had a booking with him then) but also was because he'd had too much to drink tonight and thought it wise to postpone. I'd rather have a cancel then get there to someone who is drunk and exhausted and have it be awkward. 

I'm disappointed and a bit irritated he left it so late, but I'm kind of ill and am sort of happy to be able to stay home eating soup! So I'll keep it sweet. He's been excellent every time and is really nice, and he may become a good regular, has made travel requests in future etc... Does a cancel always equal a total negative with a client?

So I guess it's kind of for the best all in all- Although we'd got a bottle of wine and I was quite keen on having another glass tonight, and now I have no wine in the house. I may be more disappointed about that, lol!

difficult one to assess............

My initial thoughts - 4 cancellations in two weeks - taking the piss a bit isnt he? 

OK, maybe he is serious about booking and seeing you but now he seems to be in the frame of mind that if something else comes up (like boozing up with his mates) then it don't matter that he has booked you and that seems to be the pattern here now.

Let's say for example that you had other enquiries for bookings for the same time and refused them because you had already taken his booking?  How would you feel knowing that he then cancels and you could have had another booking.?

My feelings are that I would give him a stern talking to and say, look, if you are not serious, then stop messing me about.  Maybe give him one more chance?

Sure he is phoning at least somewhat in advance,  but it is still unfair to have done it so many times and he clearly now thinks it is acceptable.

Furtermore, he could  just be a timewaster who gets off on talking to an escort and/or gets kicks out of knowing you are waiting for him......... believe me there are some twits out there who get off on this.

If this is how it begins then it does not look promising. 

Also, why do you think he will be a regular?  Has he said that he would be?  Again, in my experience, any one who says before the first booking that he will be a regular, never actually becomes one!  And it is usally a ploy to get a discount on first booking.

I know as this is your first "booking" of sorts, it raises your hopes and when we start out escorting we genuinely believe every booking is genuine so it is hard to comprehend that many guys are just liars and timewasters.

I think there is a section on the homepage about timewasters that might be worth reading.  I will see it I can put the link to it here.

Love
Alex

P.S  Don't mean to disillusion you - just stating the facts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xxx

Alex, you misread. He turned up to the first three bookings and canceled the fourth, definitely not a timewaster!

Cancellations happen, and like Lexie said, it's good when they do that instead of just not showing up. If he left it until midnight to tell you then that is annoying, but I'd allow him a thoughtless moment after three bookings.

It's upsetting to start with. My first cancellation was for an overnight and I was gutted, but it happens. There are up and downs when you run your own business, you have to go with the flow.

Yeah- and he did seem genuinely troubled about disappointing me, and had paid me extra for the hour I had with him earlier in the day, so it could be worse 
 the fourth one wasn't going to be until about 23:30 anyway and I said I'd wait to set off til you're back in the room, and he had texted at that time and then phoned to explain, and to be honest he did sound very drunk, so I guess I am glad!! I'd rather it hadn't happened and there be no negative experience or embarrassment possibly derailing a potential regular, better it be kept sweet and hope he gets me back soon. He's requested I come back to him with a figure for 2 nights in Manchester in November, as well as potentially to accompany him on another trip, and I don't want to jinx it x

I think sometimes there is genuine cause for a cancel, it's just at what point they arrive and if it's your first meeting