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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Justine on 28 January 2019, 12:38:00 pm
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I have always been fine with these clients and most are happy with just female panties and stockings etc but occasionally one will want the full make over and again I am ok with this as long as I am prepared.
My gripe is with those who turn up and have given no warning, then ask to wear my items. Not a huge problem as I have oodles of pairs of spare cheap tights and hold ups etc. What annoys me is when they ask to wear my lingerie when they have a 50 inch chest or bigger!
They rarely bring their own outfits so I do have a few things which will stretch at a pinch to fit them for a booking. What I am not prepared to do is buy huge things for them. I have dresses from charity shops which will fit them but many are only interested in the underwear.
They expect my size 34D bra to fit them and seem disappointed when it doesn't. Same with suspender belts, I have several and they do stretch but if they appear to be at breaking point over their bellies I just tell them sorry no can do.
What do other ladies here do when dealing with clients like these?
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I bought in some extra pieces as I used to run a dress up and play session. If you are looking for a low cost option you can order things very cheap from China, you will find various stores on eBay or just a general web search although they usually take about 6 weeks to arrive. These are good for the guys who just want to try x dressing out as opposed to the life style ones.
Another option for the clients who are more serious but for one reason or another cant order and store items themselves is to ask them to pay a supplement and for that you will order and store items especially for them x
Edit.. mention the above on your profile/website and with the guys who just turn up with no warning have a few large 'china' pieces put aside for them to choose from at a small cost x
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Birchplace used to sell a lot of that stuff too, if memory serves? The site's had a bit of an overhaul lately but there might be some useful info there :)
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I struggle with this, TBH, and now say I don't mind what they wear, but they have to provide it themselves.
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I bought in some extra pieces as I used to run a dress up and play session. If you are looking for a low cost option you can order things very cheap from China, you will find various stores on eBay or just a general web search although they usually take about 6 weeks to arrive. These are good for the guys who just want to try x dressing out as opposed to the life style ones.
Another option for the clients who are more serious but for one reason or another cant order and store items themselves is to ask them to pay a supplement and for that you will order and store items especially for them x
Edit.. mention the above on your profile/website and with the guys who just turn up with no warning have a few large 'china' pieces put aside for them to choose from at a small cost x
I do keep some items for those few men who bring their own ( no charge for this) and want to store them at mine until the next visit but have a bag containing several items for such a situation yet he has not rebooked in 4 years. ::)
Ordering from China is cheap yes but risky with regard to things being what they advertise (got stung once after ordering a PVC skirt and it arrived as a nylon one with not a hint of pvc) and I can't be bothered waiting several weeks while the parcel(s) crawl over the continents to the UK.
I think the charity shop option is best but I do wish they would provide their own stuff.
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I struggle with this, TBH, and now say I don't mind what they wear, but they have to provide it themselves.
I have ticked the cross dressing box on AW and totally assumed they’d bring their own items, not that I’ve had any such clients so far, is it generally the expectation we’d provide garments? I’ll take cross dressing off of thays the case as it’s not practical for me.
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I wouldn't dream of buying any clothes from those sites for myself as ive been stung in the past, trying their clothes on depresses me and makes me want to start a diet lol. Their sizes are definitely smaller than ours but cheap suspenders belts for clients that will only be worn a handful of times are a different matter unless you need them urgently it wouldn't bother me waiting as i think it would be rare to find a large choice of decent undies in a charity shop. If you don't want to wait Birch place does have a large range of items. You can always send your client the link to choose what they want then let them send you the money so you can order on their behalf.
A lot of clients want the option to X dress in a safe space and if you market it right you could be very busy allowing them to do so, i had some great times doing it and also got some photos/videos for my private gallery which was great for advertising and in turn generated more income. If it's something that interests you it's worth paying a little more and buying a range of good quality items for clients to use. Im seriously thinking of advertising my 'dress up and play' sessions again as I dropped them when I swapped my services to erotic massage x
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I struggle with this, TBH, and now say I don't mind what they wear, but they have to provide it themselves.
I'm the same I used to keep a few things just in case, but enquiries were few and impossible without great investment to cater for all sizes and shapes.
So I make it clear in advertising and to any enquiries that happy to include cross-dressing if they bring their own clothing, make up and wigs.
Has anyone had enquiries asking you to take them in town, or parade them around your garden or in front of the neighbours? Incredibly indiscrete given my location, and always a "No" from me.
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I once went on a dinner date booking to a burlesque night with a blind and hard of hearing X Dresser. We met in his hotel, where he had spent a fortune on clothes, wigs, make up. I helped to get him ready then we went out. He had one corset that he had made specially for him that was around £400. It was a good night but such a shame that he couldn't see all the fabulous costumes and burlesque acts x
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Has anyone had enquiries asking you to take them in town, or parade them around your garden or in front of the neighbours? Incredibly indiscrete given my location, and always a "No" from me.
I have had Xdressers asking can we go out shopping together (with them already dressed as women) and I flatly refuse anything like this. They obviously are thinking of their own thrills doing this but not giving a thought to whether I can be seen by friends/relatives/neighbours!
Most of the Xdressers I have met have only done this behind closed doors but one man was quite put out when after asking could he arrive already attired and I said no. At least he asked first as had he turned up the way he wanted I would have been furious. Reason for this is my location and position of front door etc.
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I have had Xdressers asking can we go out shopping together (with them already dressed as women) and I flatly refuse anything like this. They obviously are thinking of their own thrills doing this but not giving a thought to whether I can be seen by friends/relatives/neighbours!
Most of the Xdressers I have met have only done this behind closed doors but one man was quite put out when after asking could he arrive already attired and I said no. At least he asked first as had he turned up the way he wanted I would have been furious. Reason for this is my location and position of front door etc.
This reminds me of an incident that happened a few years ago. I was waiting for my new working flat to be ready so I rented a room off AW. It was in an old parlour that had been refurbed and now the rooms were let out to indies on a daily basis. inside the place it was well decorated perfect for what I needed at the time but unfortunately it was in a ruff part of town. One of my regular X dressers asked could he arrive made up, I explained it might not be the place but as it was non residential it was up to him. When he arrived some street lads were hanging around outside looking more than suspect so I had to come out and escort him into the building, the poor man was shaking. Needless to say he never asked could he arrived already made up again ;D
Anyway not to derail this thread too much its best for them to arrive with either their clothes on underneath or in a bag. If they cant have their clothes at home and you don't mind let them leave some at yours but maybe tell them if they haven't rebooked within a certain amount of time the clothes become your spare ones for other X dressers to use. Don't let them just turn up and try to squeeze into your best panties and if you enjoy this type of thing and advertise it right there's definitely a market out there for a safe space to dress up and play x
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I have ticked the cross dressing box on AW and totally assumed they’d bring their own items, not that I’ve had any such clients so far, is it generally the expectation we’d provide garments? I’ll take cross dressing off of thays the case as it’s not practical for me.
I think it varies, and it's definitely a good idea to have extensive comms before any booking. Some just want an audience and/or to have sex whilst dressed as a woman. But others want you to make them up, dress them in your clothes etc.
I'm still haunted by one who looked like Bet Lynch, drunk, and who'd put her make-up on with a chisel - in the dark. All his (black and leopardskin) clothing reeked of mothballs.
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Most of my cross dressers/sissys like humiliation so they don't mind (and want to) look silly...so to that end I have a bag with anything I have owned that has since gone crap. Stockings that have split or laddered, dresses gone bad in the wash. I'm a 14-16 so a lot of my stuff fit may of them anyway unless they are quite big, with the exception of bras because my back is small, but I have a few cast offs that I put 'half on' as in, without doing up. I also have cast off an poundland makeup. It all adds to the general silliness.
If a cross dresser actually wants to look nice they have to bring their own stuff or pay a supplement in deposit form for me to order what they want ready as I can't be expected to have any amount of man size female clothing for the odd one or two that show up intermittently, especially as these specialist items can be costly.
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No one wears my clothes. That's a bit out of order. They bring their own, never had one ask to wear mine. ???
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I had a few cross dressing clients but they were happy to wear my clothing and being a bbw it wasn't an issue unless they were very skinny or they brought their own.I did have one cheeky sod enquire if I had a special cross dressing wardrobe as he didn't want to wear my stuff (but apparently happy to wear stuff that other men would have probably worn?!?)and seemed put out that I didn't have a special wardrobe with specific cross dressing clothes in!Another wanted to come to my flat already dressed,wigged and made up until I pointed out he would be walking from an NCP car park across a busy dual carriageway outside a pub and into a busy multistorey apartment block!
Other ones include crossdressers who buy you matching underwear without checking your sizing or indeed even informing you that they would be doing this or that they were even into this!
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Most of my cross dressers/sissys like humiliation so they don't mind (and want to) look silly...so to that end I have a bag with anything I have owned that has since gone crap. Stockings that have split or laddered, dresses gone bad in the wash. I'm a 14-16 so a lot of my stuff fit may of them anyway unless they are quite big, with the exception of bras because my back is small, but I have a few cast offs that I put 'half on' as in, without doing up. I also have cast off an poundland makeup. It all adds to the general silliness.
If a cross dresser actually wants to look nice they have to bring their own stuff or pay a supplement in deposit form for me to order what they want ready as I can't be expected to have any amount of man size female clothing for the odd one or two that show up intermittently, especially as these specialist items can be costly.
I kept old clothes for a while especially from my 14-16 days, but ran out of storage and it wasn't being used.
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Fair enough. I get *a lot* of cross dressers because I advertise it particularly (because I just find it such an easy service to do) and I don’t keep everything. Just enough so I’m always covered. Things get binned after a while.
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I had a few cross dressing clients but they were happy to wear my clothing and being a bbw it wasn't an issue unless they were very skinny or they brought their own.I did have one cheeky sod enquire if I had a special cross dressing wardrobe as he didn't want to wear my stuff (but apparently happy to wear stuff that other men would have probably worn?!?)and seemed put out that I didn't have a special wardrobe with specific cross dressing clothes in!Another wanted to come to my flat already dressed,wigged and made up until I pointed out he would be walking from an NCP car park across a busy dual carriageway outside a pub and into a busy multistorey apartment block!
Other ones include crossdressers who buy you matching underwear without checking your sizing or indeed even informing you that they would be doing this or that they were even into this!
I had a guy once show up in cross dressing garb, fur coat, paisley dress make up...but bald and with trainers. He didn’t ask to show up like this, he just did. God knows if any neighbours spotted him. I was not best pleased!
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Really interesting read
Where does anyone suggest buying cross dressing clothes specially for men ?
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Really interesting read
Where does anyone suggest buying cross dressing clothes specially for men ?
Usually normal womens clothes in a wide range of sizes although I have found that the larger sizes are more popular and like Amy suggested earlier 'Birchplace' is a good resource although it can be quite expensive so it depends entirely on your budget andd if you want clothes that will last or just for occasional use.
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I have had many and nearly all have provided their own outfits.
Some, have had their own wardrobe - designer dresses, shoes, wigs, jewellery, lingerie - the whole lot!!!
Don't really have any CDs now. The most recent ones provided their own.
I prefer they tell me beforehand so am prepared - they do seem to pay a lot!
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Cool thanks
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I have ticked the cross dressing box on AW and totally assumed they’d bring their own items, not that I’ve had any such clients so far, is it generally the expectation we’d provide garments? I’ll take cross dressing off of thays the case as it’s not practical for me.
I took cross dressing services off as I don't have clothing for these clients requested.
I got too many indecive callers which irritated me.
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When I worked full time I had no objections to Crossdressers, just saw it as another booking.
Had requests where clients wanted to wear my own lingerie; sometimes I would, wouldn’t oblidge. Some guy trying to squeeze into a pair of my knickers wasn’t always my idea of fun! I’d always insist if clients did want to dress they done it in the privacy of my house. Again, a rather unconvincing guy in a dress and heels at my door wasn’t the best of ideas either!
Most just got off being in stockings and a belt. One particular guy asked I done his make up once which was fine as I charged for extra time!
A lot wanted to keep my stockings and panties. Again at my discretion.
Probably as I’ve touched on in the funniest bookings thread is a guy with a beard, badly fitting lingerie and stockings and badly applied lipstick getting it on with you! Trying to keep a straight face before, during and after was so difficult at times!!
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When I worked full time I had no objections to Crossdressers, just saw it as another booking.
Had requests where clients wanted to wear my own lingerie; sometimes I would, wouldn’t oblidge. Some guy trying to squeeze into a pair of my knickers wasn’t always my idea of fun! I’d always insist if clients did want to dress they done it in the privacy of my house. Again, a rather unconvincing guy in a dress and heels at my door wasn’t the best of ideas either!
Most just got off being in stockings and a belt. One particular guy asked I done his make up once which was fine as I charged for extra time!
A lot wanted to keep my stockings and panties. Again at my discretion.
Probably as I’ve touched on in the funniest bookings thread is a guy with a beard, badly fitting lingerie and stockings and badly applied lipstick getting it on with you! Trying to keep a straight face before, during and after was so difficult at times!!
I've known clients who arrive wearing lingerie under their usual clothing, really turns them on so absolutely fine with me.
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Probably as I’ve touched on in the funniest bookings thread is a guy with a beard, badly fitting lingerie and stockings and badly applied lipstick getting it on with you! Trying to keep a straight face before, during and after was so difficult at times!!
Ive been there as well ;D
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I did a search but could not find this question in any threads (could have missed them but will ask here anyway)
Most of my xdressers have been fine and I quite enjoyed the meetings. Rarely do them now but one man who I see very occasionally has emailed me asking if he can arrive as a woman. He asked this before and I said it was out of the question. I explained the reason. My in call premises are such that a neighbour could easily see him knocking on my door and I am not willing to take the risk of being gossiped about etc etc.
This man has now said he does not feel he can book me again if I will not indulge him. If he thinks I am so desperate for his one hour fee I will relent and give in then he is seriously deluded.
I won't miss his at the most twice yearly visits so he can do one. I am asking have any of you sps said yes and let your xdresser(s) turn up in full female garb?
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Merged (I suspect the abbreviation stopped the other theads showing up :)).
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Yea I’d never be happy with a client showing up cross-dressed, just not worth the risk. I slightly think that my landlord knows what about do but seems to turn a blind eye but I would never want to push my luck. It’s rude for them to think for one appointment we would risk our security!
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Merged (I suspect the abbreviation stopped the other theads showing up :)).
Ah yes I realise that now. I had seen threads on the subject but not on my specific question.
I had forgotten that I started this thread ages ago. ::) :)