Firstly, arrange to call him at the hotel on the day to make sure he's there. Most of us do this so he shouldn't have a problem with it, you just have to look up the number for the hotel and ask to be put through to his room. I used to feel nervous doing it, but the time I travelled to see someone who the hotel had no record of was much worse.

He can meet you in the bar/lobby, or you can go straight to his room. If you chose the latter, ask him where the lifts are so you feel more confident when you walk in. Most hotels leave you alone, but you may be asked who you're visiting so it's a good idea to know the name he's booked under.

I visit hotels in something classy or casual depending on my mood/the hotel/his preference, and nothing too revealing unless requested. Try not to look conspicuous or like a hooker.

The only thing you really need to bring is condoms, your phone, and enough money to get you home if things don't work out.

I always bring lube because it's sometimes and necessary and it makes for amazing hand jobs. You might also want something for massage, but remember that oil can get around and damage condoms. That's part of the reason I like silicone-based lube, it doubles up as condom-safe massage oil.

If you have a toy you like, some men will like to watch you use it or use it on you.

Some people like to bring something sexy to change into. Personally I prefer to just wear sexy lingerie under a nice outfit unless I'm asked to wear something I can't walk through the hotel in.

You sound pretty organised so you should be fine. Good luck and have fun.

Hi Phoenix

I am also new so can relate to all you say - particularly the bit about being both scared and excited at the same time!

Anika Mae gives good advice, and you sound like you've pretty much got it sussed.

I was also worried about breaking the ice.  It all depends on what you're prepared to do, I suppose.  I tried breaking the ice with my very first call by asking if he wanted a massage (even though I'm crap at massage!! I just thought it was the thing to do!!) and he very politely declined, saying he was relaxed enough.  After an initial moment of horror (I wasn't expecting him to say no, and didn't have a 'Plan B'  ) I just said 'Well then, would you like a kiss?' and his reaction told me that that is exactly what he did want.  So I basically launched myself on him and that seemed to do the trick!

But I know some girls aren't happy about kissing/french kissing, which is why I say it depends on what you're prepared to do.  I would say, from my very limited experience, just do whatever you feel comfortable with.  I think if you do that, it makes for a better experience all round - for both him and you.

Good luck!

Jenny xx