Thank you for your honesty amy. If I'm honest I'm quite disappointed to read that you don't think becoming an escort is a good idea for me, since I had been very attracted to the benefits of being a sex worker especially with some recent replies indicating I might make very good money doing sex work, and I still don't really have many other skills or qualifications to get a different job and don't have many other good ideas for jobs so I am struggling to think about what the alternative to becoming an escort would be. With that said, I do understand your concerns and you are possibly right that I am "mentally fragile".

I've actually met a few people in real life who have incorrectly assumed that I grew up outside the UK because they didn't think I looked white, and that's despite speaking native English with a British accent to boot. I recall I used to get offended over this but as a sex worker I know I have to be prepared for much worse things. My worry had been that punters might think that, and I had worried that most punters prefer white British escorts and so would be less likely to see me as a result. However, I no longer have this worry having had discussions about it in this thread.

You are correct that I might find it draining. I've never been a sex worker before of course, but I recall that I do tend to get a little drained when I spend a whole day socializing. Perhaps I could start slow (i.e. start with a maximum of one client per day, then increase that once I get used to the job?)

I knew before I made the OP in this thread that I would receive threats and abuse over the phone and text, including transphobia, misogyny, and racism. I was prepared for that. I am also prepared to be asked invasive, ignorant, and disrespectful questions by clients, including about being trans. My much bigger concern was the risk of physical violence, which is why my family won't support me going into sex work.

I can see that it may be a constant stress that I could receive calls from punters at any time and thus it may be hard to totally "switch off" but in my mind this was outweighed by the relatively fewer working hours per week (yes, I know that there's more to do than it might seem at first glance but even accounting for website making, blogging, photos, ads, emails, etc. I still can't see it being as many hours as a vanilla job unless I'm seeing a lot of clients in which case the money I'd be earning would be well above anything else I could do in the position of life I'm in right now) as well as having more flexibility about when I want to work. If I want to take a break, would it not be possible to leave a note on my website and inform all advertisers that I'm on that I'm taking a break and won't be answering calls or emails for the next X days? I had been thinking that I'd take the second half of December off each year as well as my birthday (my birthday lies outside of typical holiday season, so this would be a big relief!!), and of course always take a break if I feel I need to. I've heard summer is usually kind of slow anyway, so it might be an idea to take a holiday then too.

As a virgin, I lack practical experience in any sexual act other than pleasuring myself. I am not sure how difficult such acts are to learn. Perhaps I could try to find video tutorials online? I have made the decision though that I will neither give nor receive oral sex unprotected.

I'm concerned that I could put a lot into getting started, from persuading my family about my decision, to buying a work phone and SIM card, do doing all sorts of research about how to do sex work safely yet efficiently, buying lingerie and taking photos, investing in advertising and making a website, and for it to not work out (whether that's because I end up feeling unable to endure the job, or because I'm not earning enough for it to be worth it).

Additionally, could my life suffer adverse long time impacts from being an ex-prostitute?

My sweetheart, I will be completely honest with you. I have both a high-end and a more basic (still above-average rate) profile.
Let me say this with love and respect, but making money is not as easy as it may appear here. YES, I have a lot of coke clients, old clients who can't get it up, and successful guys who don't necessarily come for sex, but just want to feel some fake admiration... Sex is still 99% of the time a factor, however small or large it may be.

Sexual relations will still take place 99% of the time.

I really need you to understand that if you are a virgin who does not wish to give and receive sexual pleasure, you will not be able to earn enough income this way. The truth is, if it were THAT easy, more people would do it... unfortunately, it does not work that way... Despite the fact that we call ourselves "escorts," we are in fact primarily "proper" sex workers.

Since I do not wish to end this on a negative note, I will give you my advice. The first thing I would recommend is that, while you are still so young and inexperienced, why not consider starting with something that is more suitable, such as online video chat or phone chat? 

I find the idea of using dating apps to meet guys for flings kind of daunting (it hasn't exactly gone well in the past, I would get a lot of sexual attention from men but it was mostly older men and men who were physically or otherwise unnattractive to me).

This is the bit that makes me wonder - if you can't be sexual with older men that you wouldn't be with in your private life, you are drastically cutting down on the number of potential clients.

The classic test is to look around at the supermarket. If you could not see every man in the store if they came along clutching enough £20 notes, then 'hands on' sex work probably isn't for you.

Particularly if you do not show your face in your marketing, no-one except you and your clients know that you've had sex for money.

Well we only have your posts to go on (and I basically decided prostitution was a goer for me pretty much on the spot when a man in a bar offered to pay me for a quick shag, so this degree of weapons-grade navel gazing is not something I have any experience of), but are you really surprised that it seems odd to people for anybody to propose starting a business doing something that they've never even tried before?

I was almost 30 and already had sex with more different partners then I could count when I started and whilst there will be punters who find inexperience charming, there will be more looking to exploit it and likely also a good few unable to understand why they are paying hundreds of pounds for somebody to be inept at something. That said, it's not as if you're going to be rewiring their house

As for ways punters can take advantage, anything from overstaying their time to every possible kind of useless 'advice' ('helping' with your ads/website/photos, say) to old fashioned haggling and even blackmail (including threatening bad reviews, not that these are a bad thing); did you not consider things like this? And are you seriously saying you can't think of any other jobs than prostitution - what do you think the rest of the world does to earn money?

I don't know what you want from us, to be honest. Brevity isn't my strong point either, but you seem to be enjoying writing long posts about yourself far more than actually taking any sort of practical action, and that means it's just going to go round in circles.

I get you want to know as much as possible but you’re never gonna know what it’s like until you actually do it. There’s only so much information we can give you.  Everyone’s opinion and advice is based on their own experience and we are not all the same. Therefore you aren’t going to have the same experience as any of us. What you’re asking most is common sense. Sorry to say it but you’re giving time-waster vibes and I wonder if you actually genuinely want to do this job??
1. You have no experience
2. You’ve already told your family you want to do it - what’s stopping them from going online and searching for you? Highly likely you’re going to get notice by a family member/friends even if you don’t show your face.
3. You don’t want to have sex with people you’re not attracted to - I think it’s safe to say 95% of clients we see we are not attracted to. Doing this job isn’t about who you’re attracted to - main things are they are polite, punctual &  clean
4. You don’t really want to have sex

You are attracted to the money escort work brings, like us all. But if you can’t mentally get past some obstacles and disadvantages this job brings, you aren’t going to do very well.

 

I am so sorry for my behaviour here. I made this thread with honest intentions as this was a big life decision I had really been struggling with and I wanted to know as much as possible by talking to people experienced in escorting. I see now that I went too far with talking about myself rather than taking action and there is only so much that can be said. When faced with the harsh truth of what a career in sex work may mean for me, I reacted very badly by not being open minded about my choices, not listening enough to the warnings I was being given, not being as proactive and decisive as I should have been, and struggling to accept the truth.

I think it would be best if I were now to take a break from this community and I should explore alternative job options to sex work, alternative sex work to escorting, therapy, and think about experiencing sex/relationships before becoming a sex worker. Then I think I would be in a better place to make a decision about doing sex work.

I feel absolutely terrible for how I have acted and for giving off time waster vibes. But nonetheless I would like to say how thankful I am for everyone who has supported me. I hope that should I decide in future to go down this route in life I would still be welcome here.

Very best wishes, Rosabella.

Well said Flo

And in the best interests of all concerned, locked.