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Justine

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Re: Confronted by neighbour.. What would you do!?
« Reply #15 on: 14 November 2018, 01:04:27 pm »
This is why I think the best clients are the workmen types who arrive in a van and are wearing plumber/plasterer logo teeshirts and that kind of thing, or smartly dressed men with files or brief cases who could be here to sell insurance or do a property survey. The list is endless.  Where I am there is always a delivery van or electrician/estate agent/a host of others coming and going so no one would know who my own visitors are.

If I glance out of my window I can see men arriving and leaving in cars/vans and going to several flats and addresses around me. I don't assume one or two of them may be calling on prossies but they could be!

Curtain twitchers are sad but I think they secretly enjoy the dirty activities they think they have discovered and if they get it stopped then where else do they get their fun and kicks.


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« Reply #16 on: 14 November 2018, 02:04:29 pm »
I assume your landlady/lord doesn't know that you escort? Is there something in your tenancy agreement that says you cannot use your residence for work? If the answer is yes to the latter, then you need to be very careful of her finding out.

I suggest you don't use any confrontational language towards the next door but one neighbour as it might just make her even more nasty. Make friends within the community and show them you are a nice person. You need to ride out the 6 months of your agreement with the least aggravation possible and perhaps consider moving if things get too pear shaped.

How horrible for you. Sending hugs.

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« Reply #17 on: 14 November 2018, 02:06:25 pm »
Hi everyone and thank you so much for your replies/advice.  I only have a few regulars that visit, and (although I cannot be 100% certain), I pretty much know that they wouldn't "drop me in it", as they really are lovely guys.  Also, how would they benefit? The situation has actually escalated this morning and I'm in tears and am even considering cancelling my bookings.  As I was walking through the front door, another lady approached me (I've seen her before in passing just to say hello to - really, really lovely lady).  Anyhow, she introduced herself and said that she owns a cafe in town (just a few yards from my property). She said that my next door but one neighbour (the one who confronted me), actually went into her cafe yesterday afternoon and said, quite loudly, "did you know that there's a prostitute working a few yards away from here." She said that her response to her was "why would you say that? do you have evidence, and so what if she is, what is it to do with you?" She then went on to say that she says men coming and going, and also said "why would the blinds always be drawn?"  FFSAKE!  If she took note of all the other properties on the street, she would see that ALL the residents have their curtains drawn or blinds down, as the properties are directly facing the street!  I know what I do isn't illegal, but no one knows what I do, and I'd really like it to stay that way.  Anyhow, I suppose it looks like I may have to find somewhere else, but not happy as just signed a six month lease  X

The fact you are only seeing 3 a week which is hardly any this old nosey bag must be at her wondow constant. For her to assume you are a prostitute do you think she has found you're adultwork profile and got someone to ring up or something and does know it is you.

She must be a very sad no life woman to be watching constant to see 3 a week she must be there at the window most of her life.

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« Reply #18 on: 14 November 2018, 02:09:04 pm »
Im sure this is frustrating for you.

I don't feel you owe an explanation to your neighbor no matter if it's 3 or 10 clients a week.

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« Reply #19 on: 14 November 2018, 02:13:32 pm »
Kim D - I have actually just today spoken to my landlord, as he is a really nice, down to earth guy. I thought I'd get in there first.  So I've just basically said that the old dear has accused me of being a hooker...his response, "she needs to get a life"

English Green - I don't actually advertise anywhere now, as all of my punters are regulars. 

I think I'll just carry on as normal - what's the worst that can happen? 

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« Reply #20 on: 14 November 2018, 02:17:56 pm »
I would stick a letter through the nosy neighbour's door (preferably very formally typed/laid out), saying that if she continues to slander you, you will be taking legal action against her for defamation.

Thing is though if it is true it is not slander so no legal action for words of truth could be taken.

But she could put a letter through saying harassing me and spreading horrible things is not on and if it carries on i will be reporting you for harassment that might get her to stop possibly or it might not.

Or ignore her and just carry on.

No doubt as she has spread it the cafe, where you advertise some could ring up ads and find out for sure by making a booking unless you only see reg.

Just be prepared this woman could know the landlord and report this and if the contract says nothing immoral or any business conducts from the property you could be asked to go. So bare this in mind.

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« Reply #21 on: 14 November 2018, 02:32:17 pm »
I have just had an idea but haven't given it much thought. I'll put it out there anyway.

You could say you are a reiki practitioner or something of similar ilk and have patients/clients occasionally come visit you at home. You could even back this up by placing an ad on Gumtree or making a quick one page website. You can just say your appointment book is full if people contact you. This might be enough to sway people from suspecting you're an escort. Moreover, it might give you some ammo against your landlady if she tries to evict you.

It's worth bearing in mind for any future tenancy if it's of no help to you now. If you spot a clause in your agreement preventing you from using your rented accommodation for work, ask for it to be removed on these grounds. It also serves as a story to give suspecting neighbours.
« Last Edit: 14 November 2018, 02:50:37 pm by KimD »
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« Reply #22 on: 14 November 2018, 06:45:20 pm »
The Reiki or similar ilk is a bloody wonderful suggestion..I'm going to put local ads up.. Thanks so much x

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« Reply #23 on: 14 November 2018, 08:54:06 pm »
Do something that you know you can. Get a separate Sim card for it, and occasionally accept a booking for that advertised thing. As no doubt, the nosy old sod will get someone she knows to phone and book you. If you are never available, and she still notices the same 3 fellas, she will still be going on about you being a hooker.

Could be she's jealous lol. Back in her day she would have had to stand on the street regardless of the weather or advertise in phone boxes.

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« Reply #24 on: 14 November 2018, 11:22:32 pm »
She is a nosey old battle axe. What harm is being done to her? None!
If she continues with her hate campaign stick a typed up, polite, professional letter thru her letterbox stating that how upset you are about her accusations, and if need be will be taking legal advice.
Do you have a trusted male friend you can confide in - she may keep quiet if a nice man had a word in her ear!
What you are doing is not illegal though with rented property you are not permitted to work from that property. But she has no evidence that you are "working" and 3 men a week visiting is basically "friends" visiting you. We are all entitled to a social life and this neighbour clearly does not have any kind of life, social or otherwise!

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« Reply #25 on: 15 November 2018, 08:25:00 am »
This is awful, what a horrible woman she sounds.   I would be getting a letter from a solicitor sent to her, she sounds like a bully, a letter will stop her in her tracks if she thinks you are serious about taking legal action against her.  Her words are very damaging and she needs to put a stop to it.

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« Reply #26 on: 15 November 2018, 09:22:20 am »
Do a Sharon Osbourne, dog shit through the letter box every day for a month & she'll soon leave you alone.

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« Reply #27 on: 16 November 2018, 01:04:08 am »
Kim D - I have actually just today spoken to my landlord, as he is a really nice, down to earth guy. I thought I'd get in there first.  So I've just basically said that the old dear has accused me of being a hooker...his response, "she needs to get a life"

English Green - I don't actually advertise anywhere now, as all of my punters are regulars. 

I think I'll just carry on as normal - what's the worst that can happen? 

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Oh if you do not advertise anywhere then carry on With the regulars. Stuff that nosey old cow she cannot prove nothing then. She had a nerve to accuse you with only 3 a week and no work photos of you locally. Nasty woman.

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« Reply #28 on: 16 November 2018, 11:34:00 am »
It went through my mind that perhaps she's an ex prossie and jealous of you now shes too old, ugly and nasty to get any punters! 😂😂😂

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« Reply #29 on: 16 November 2018, 08:06:35 pm »
I wouldn't be surprised if she's an ex hooker and jealous that you can still work,  seriously cos you sound discreet and how does she know you're not just a shagger...weird