Hi Ladies

I am very tight and of course i use lube, but recentlty i have seen two guys and the condom has split... Im going to have to go to the gum clinic every week!!

any advice?? its starting to annoy me and it means i have to stop working untill i get my results so im loosing out on clients and having sex with my other half!

do you think the gum clinic would mind if i come every week??

i use durex condoms maybe its just a batch that are rubbish.,.. does any other ladies have this problem?

Thanks x

A lot of guys don't know who to 'manage' condoms either. Quite a few will pull it right back at the end, leaving it stretched with no room for movement. I'm never quite sure if this is out of ignorance, or a ploy to try and get it to split.

I had one client who split several condoms even though I put them on carefully myself. Apart from that it's been very rare for most of my career, but at the beginning I had a few because I'd let clients put them on and as strawberry said a lot of people don't know what they're doing. I still let clients put the condom on if they want, but I inspect it and don't hesitate to take it off and start again if I'm not happy. (Apply the same standard when you put it on too, of course.)

If you're already careful about air bubbles, you might want to put some lube inside the condom. Not loads obviously, just a bit to reduce friction around the head. A lot of people say put a drop in the condom, but I find it's easier to put it on the cock before the condom goes on.

Silicone-based is also fine. Unless you're using baby oil or something it's unlikely that you've got hold a lube that isn't condom-safe (the only ones I've seen in sex shops are marketed for male solo use), thought it's worth checking.

I dont like durex and tent to stick to Pasante, they are quite reliable.  I have also got a range of sizes although the naturelle seem to fit most men well.  In 2 years I have had 3 'accidents' either with them coming off and only once splitting.

One thing is to keep your eye on men as they will do it on purpose sometimes if I have an uneasy feeling ill let them think im touching them when in fact im checking the condom is still on 

I'm going to go to the GUM clinic tomorrow but I know it's too soon to tell and I'll need to go back in a few weeks, but he asked if I'd go straight away and tell him if I have anything! lol Charming!

I effing hate when they do that - I too have had only 2 accidents in as many years and they were both early on before I understood the importance of (re-)applying lube to the condom in case of excessive thrusting/friction. But one of those times, the client desperately wanted me to go to the clinic ASAP and text him my results - like when an accident happens, suddenly the whole encounter is entirely MY responsibility?? I didn't decide to have sex with him, he called me! And nobody should decide to have sex without understanding precisely what "99% effective" means with regards to condom usage. It means you (both!) might have to go to the clinic and take responsibility for your own sexual health should an accident happen.

I think the other accident I had resulted in the client asking if I was on the pill.  It was my first mishap, so there I am hyperventilatating about having potentially caught God-knows-what from a guy who bonks lots of prossies, and he thinks that a) I might not be on the pill and b) I might take this jolly opportunity to have a strange man's baby so I can blackmail him about it or something?! I wish I could go back and make a sharp retort but I think I was too busy having a panic attack at the time!

Er, rants over. But dealing with a split condom can be a pain not just in terms of the health risks but also the annoying and outdated attitudes some clients can still have about sexual health - don't let them try to put the entire onus of discovering whether or not either of you may have transmitted anything onto you, if you don't want to! It's harder for newbies, probably, and unfortunately condom splits are more likely the less practice you've had, but do feel free to remind everyone involved that you're all adults and therefore all responsible for only your own health.

Coty, if you're talking about the Mates condoms called Skyns (black/gold wrapper), and you don't want them but don't mind hanging onto them for a few weeks I'll happily buy them off you when I'm next in London. PM me  .

Years ago I had a few condoms break on me, in  row with the same client.  I'd put in on him, couple of thrusts and it would split.   I had bought them from a discount chemist place and I think they had not stored them properly, or they were dodgy and were supposed to be binned but someh0w ended up in the grey market supply chain.

Now I only buy them from trust worthy places.  They cost a bit more but I don't want to go through that again.

Jas x

alot of people don't know that condoms have expiry dates, I've seen them sold on ebay without original packaging so you dont see the expiry dates. This is something too always be wary of