Hi back on this subject after my ex did nothing about threatening to go to social services he has told me today out of the blue that i will be expecting a visit from SS. He says I am not a roll model for his daughter and that i probably go home after having hidings from clients lol he has no clue about this work at all. Obviously my end is  above  board.

Has anyone on here actually been investigated by SS because of the job and what was the outcome??

Just to update on this. Does anyone else have any views or experiences to add?

My ex hasn't quit. He has carried out a further multitude of illegal acts against me but not one single charge has come against him. I relocated, didn't tell him where to buy he has somehow found out my full address and has been taunting me with it.

He has now told me that his lawyer has contacted SS for a full welfare investigation to be carried out.
My ex is proper insane, but as a true narcissist, he puts on the major charm when anyone else is around. All that's happened is me appearing to be unhinged, accusatory and holding resentment against him. I honestly can't believe that I have received zero support from every professional body involved and may actually be at risk of having my children removed.

Veggiegal I'm so sorry this is still going on for you. Anyone in their right mind should see nobody would just up and move with their kids if they didn't need to!

I know the system is shit: I was genuinely unwell and asked for help, instead of helping they tried to take my kid away and I wasn't allowed to be alone with him for 6 months. My friends ex used to beat her up, punch doors and walls in her house and threw a brick through her window. 'No further action'. It's a joke. Do you have your own solicitor? She was able to get an injunction, but obviously he was such a twat he didn't pay any attention. At least if they break the injunction the police can do something.

I second the Ugly Mugs suggestion and you might also find Women's Aid helpful to talk to.

It's interesting (and worrying) he was able to find out your new address. Does he have any friends who work for local authorities, police, anything like that?

Sorry if I missed this but is he your child's father and if so is he having contact with them?

He probably found you via the electrol roll
It's rolling system  so as soon as you put yourself on it it's easy to be found  within a month or two
Especially If he has a general idea of the city your in  if your renting often the landlord or agents put you on

[redacted - no need to make it even easier for anybody up to no good]

Also on one occasion I had to speak to the police about an incident with my dog and another lady's dog and the lady's full name & address was on the report right in front of me to read 😭

Thank you all for your thoughts and experiences in regards to this. I have some good news (I think). Social services got in touch, but not as a result of my ex's welfare claims (it turned out he made no such claims) and they are now actually investigating him and have told me to keep my son away from him until they advise otherwise!

It's such a relief to know that someone will see right through his bullshit and recognise his behaviour as potentially damaging to my children and me.

It looks like we could win this one

Thank you all for your thoughts and experiences in regards to this. I have some good news (I think). Social services got in touch, but not as a result of my ex's welfare claims (it turned out he made no such claims) and they are now actually investigating him and have told me to keep my son away from him until they advise otherwise!

It's such a relief to know that someone will see right through his bullshit and recognise his behaviour as potentially damaging to my children and me.

It looks like we could win this one

celebrating this small win.