I had a client today, we had an agreed roleplay about seductress and boss and had a 2 hour session booked. He was late getting here because of traffic/parking/finding an ATM, all reasonable for where I live so I dont think he was bsing. He got here and I started with the RP, we demoted it to an hour session because he was late and pressed for time, we got to the kissing and touching and dirty talk and then he told me he couldnt do it, now naturally I assumed this was part of the RP because we'd agreed it and I continued but in the end he broke it and told me he wasnt playing, not aggressively, just sadly, still kissing me and touching me and saying he wished the situation were different and I werent an escort. I explained to him that me doing what I did didnt meant I didnt want him just the same way I would if I wasnt and Im not in this out of necessity etc, all true but in the end he mumbled something about being married and new, I tried to talk to him about it, all the while still touching each other but he said he couldnt this time but wanted me really badly and would come back again when he was ready to, he offered more than my time fee but I only took the time and told him it was okay.

How do you handle clients that this happens with? I think I did alright, I wasnt going to try tell him to sleep with me despite his feelings cause Ive no desire to hurt anyone in what I do etc but I feel like I should have known something better to say?

I think the best thing to do is reassure them that meeting with an escort is much better than becoming involved in an affair. Affairs can become complicated, and invariably do. I've had this happen several times and I always use the word prostitute in such situations in order to make sure the message gets through. I don't much like the word escort anyway. I also do my best to help them feel at ease and continue to completion, because once they get so far it's almost inevitable they will go through with it one day. He'll just be beating up on himself now having not gone through with it this time.

BTW - I think you were more than reasonable with what you settled in payment. Some girls would insist on the full amount. He's fortunate to have chosen you and I can guess if you're happy with him he'll be back to see you before too long.

Yes, I agree with you. But of course every time this happens it's different. I certainly wouldn't use it as a pretext. My experience is that guys can become quite highly strung when they do this the first time. They are crossing the road in a sense and they can become very indecisive. I've had a couple of occasions when they have been looking for approval from me and to seem uncertain as well gives mixed messages.  A cup of tea and a chat about it is definitely the way to go sometimes. I had one guy spend nearly three hours with me on an hour booking, and he poured his heart out to me about his personal circumstances. I wouldn't normally do that, but sometimes you have to go the extra mile.
 

Eve, just give time time and see how things progress.  If they continue in a manner that you are not comfortable with then you may have to say something to him and refuse a further booking.

You can try and play it down and see what he comes back with.  Its not unusual for this to happen when guys are in an unhappy relationship ......... but we are not the answer to their problems. 

Good Luck.

Sadly ended up asking for an affair which I declined. It's a pity men so unhappy in their marriages don't leave rather than attempting a relationship with an escape planned.