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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Lil Lolita on 18 November 2014, 02:15:41 pm
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This hasn't happened to me this time round, but I was wondering what YOU would do if you had a client who kept texting.
Say you had met this client and they were keen to see you again and become a regular, but you got the occasion text from them in between meets, and they wanted pictures.
Would you put them in their place and just say something like 'until we meet again'? Or go along with it? Just a scenario, good preparation in case it may ever happen lol!
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I don't text clients full stop.
Its a rule of mine NO TEXTS! I talk to clients if they are calling to book an incall otherwise I don't do chit chat or send photos etc.
Too much personal interaction for me blurs the client/escort status quo but that's just me and how I see it.
I wouldn't call or text a client at random times so why I accept it, expect it or encourage it?
I have to say I do consider myself very "old school"
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I don't text clients full stop.
Its a rule of mine NO TEXTS! I talk to clients if they are calling to book an incall otherwise I don't do chit chat or send photos etc.
Too much personal interaction for me blurs the client/escort status quo but that's just me and how I see it.
I wouldn't call or text a client at random times so why I accept it, expect it or encourage it?
I have to say I do consider myself very "old school"
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I have heaps of pics on my website, and update regularly. If they want fanny shots, they can subscribe to my private gallery. If any guy was crass enough to request a picture, I'd point him in the direction of my PG, or text something like: 4gottn wot I look like already? Ur 2 young to go senile. Book me & refresh ur memory (or similar juvenile text speak). I'd hope they get the message, without getting pissed off. Request free wank material? Pffff, take a hike.
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No to pics. I have my PG for that.
I have 2 very good regulars that I see very often, three times a month at least, that I like and who always bring me very nice gifts. If they call I will pick up, mostly it's "how's your day going" and it's 2 minutes chat. But: I KNOW that the next day they will send a text to book me. So it's just our way of doing it.
Other regulars can text to book. If they text to chat they get the standard answer "I'm fine, just busy, let me know if you want to meet again xxx" or similar. If they want to text they have their wives for that:)
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Agree with the other girls I never text only contact I have is via Aw quick messages about booking deal sealed and then a phone call day of to confirm and give address. I done this once with a guy before when I escorted he got to clingy thought he owned me started with the "I love you" nonsense :FF expected me to stay 5-6 hours for the price of a 2 hour meet all because he took me for dinner first .... I quickly wised up and told him I'd no feelings toward him and best he stopped texting and seeing me.... Next thing because yes I was naive and stupid and because I'd seen him about 10 times he knew my real name he looked me up on Facebook!!! Started private messaging me :o I had a nosey and there where pics of his wife and kids all playing happy families ::) I blocked him there too and ended up deactivating said Facebook account .... Lesson learned :D
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I will only respond to a regulars text and even if they dare ask for pics etc I just ignore their requests, they get the message. I have had clients try and and get a free dirty talk phone call from me but I always cut them off by telling them that I will only be available for Direct Chat when I have time.
But majority of the time you have to ask yourself whether the aggro is really worth it just to try and placate a man who might turn into being a regular, this is a business and our clients need to be reminded of that fact too from time to time.
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I recently saw a guy second time and he started to text me after he left and next day.. He is young and I like him, but in the end I told him Im an escort and this has to end, he can text me only when he wants to book me.
He understood and apologized, I really hope to see him again as he is lovely..
Almost half of my bookings come from texts. I dont need to talk to them if their texts are writen in a polite good english and they ask the right questions.
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I ignore texts that aren't related to a booking. Pictures are in my private gallery, no one gets any freebies.
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Unfortunately there will always be boundary pushers; if you humour these guys they'll just push for more, pic on Monday, video Tuesday, sexting Wednesday... You get the picture.
They're kind of like stray cats; if you feed them they keep coming back for more.
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I've got one that texts me all the time, he wants to make a booking to trample him with me in an old pair of converse.
Which is fine, but he never actually books ::)
Then I've got another one, who wants to be my "friend", he used to be a client, but he started booking me for an hour,
then stay for 3 hours because we "only used the hour for actual sex".
I put a stop to it, and said it was in the end just work for me, and if you want to spend 3 hours with me you'll have to pay for 3 hours.
He wasn't a client anymore after that, but he still e-mails, texts, and wants to come and see me for a "chat and a cuppa".
He is a nice guy, but I like to keep my work and my private life separate, yet I don't have the heart to say to him I don't
want to see him socially, I just keep making up excuses :(
Or not even excuses, I just don't have time, and I have no desire to spend time with him either, without sounding harsh..
It's just people-pleasing, and I'm usually pretty good with NOT doing that, but he is a decent guy and I know he means well. :-\
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Hi, newbie here. Been having a similar problem with a client and was looking through the forum to see if there were posts about it. The guy seems lovely, but the messages are verging on the "I like you, let's hang out and then...". But it seems to be quite a common occurrence. Any advice on how to politely but firmly spurn his ahem "advances"? ??? Thanking you kindly in advance.
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Hi, newbie here. Been having a similar problem with a client and was looking through the forum to see if there were posts about it. The guy seems lovely, but the messages are verging on the "I like you, let's hang out and then...". But it seems to be quite a common occurrence. Any advice on how to politely but firmly spurn his ahem "advances"? ??? Thanking you kindly in advance.
Hi Holly and welcome to SAAFE :)
We have had a few threads like this (and more than usual recently, for whatever reason) but basically the easiest way to deal with it is to text back with something like 'That'd be great! Just get in touch when you'd like to book and let me know when and how long for' and then don't answer any more texts that aren't about a proper appointment. They get bored eventually when you don't answer, and if it gets brought up in a whingey way just point out that you were probably shagging another punter when it arrived and overlooked it :).
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Hi Amy! Thank you for the welcome and for the advice. So glad I found SAAFE, it's chalk full of info! LOL! ;D best one liner on shagging another punter, going to be a good one in the arsenal. Sorry, not sorry Mr Whinger!
hollybolly
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best one liner on shagging another punter
That's a good tactic that I've been using already for a long time. I let them believe that I am busy all day and every day, even when I'm not. Then there's a reason why there's no time for idle chat and texting etc. I sometimes play hard to get with the persistent ones and that often works too. Also there are quite a few guys who are turned on by the thought of you non stop shagging and it encourages them to book.
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Thanks for the advice roseanna :). Always a good idea to create an air of mystery with them eh? Fortunately he hasn't replied since my "when you're ready to book" text. I hope I haven't jinxed it now... :o
hollybolly
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I let clients text me, and take text bookings - I know I'm one of the few but it's mostly because my day job means i can't always talk on the phone and it's just easier for me.
If a client I've met before texts me a hi or whatever I'll answer to be polite...generally they are just 'checking in' anyway and they rarely get into long conversations. When they do, or if it's someone I've never met and they're going on too much, I generally end it with 'Please give me a call or text when you'd like to make a booking. Thanks, my name xx'. If they are legit, they get the message and leave it like that. If they go on further, I write them off as timewasters and don't respond any further.
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I've got one of these at the min, he has a booking with me, hes paid a deposit I know he isnt a time waster, but hes texted me everyday 5 or 6 times. All to do with the booking but he's going anal about it, wanting to know every detail! I never normally text, but id feel abit ignorant if I was to leave it considering hes paid abit upfront.
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I'd ask him to email all his queries in one go. Even if he's paid a deposit that doesn't entitle him to take up loads of your time before hand.
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I'd ask him to email all his queries in one go. Even if he's paid a deposit that doesn't entitle him to take up loads of your time before hand.
There's been so many ridiculous texts. Ive just had one now so I've put back 'Yes (in answer to his question). This will be our last text until our confirmation text, please dint take offence, I just dint normally text clients. Any more questions ill answer on the day' I wouldn't mind but Ive had to get some things in advance for the booking which meant a trip into town and then he wanted to me to itemise everything as well as aload of other texts. It been going on a week.
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Thanks for the advice roseanna :). Always a good idea to create an air of mystery with them eh? Fortunately he hasn't replied since my "when you're ready to book" text. I hope I haven't jinxed it now... :o
hollybolly
If you had would it really be that bad? Clients like that tend to be more trouble than they are worth, trust me. Sometimes we allow ourselves to be taken advantage of by a man who has no intention than just stooping it to us. Never cross that barrier, you are a business woman first and foremost, always remind yourself that, time is money and if someone is monopolising it is it worth it?
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Yes you are completely right. I had a client yesterday that was doing the whole texting malarky. Uch so annoying. As the first texter dude he tried to book me last night and pretended he didn't realise it was me. Dude, please!
So overall ladies, it's boils down to listening to our feelings/gut reaction and taking the right course of action. Fluffy Bunny is so right, are they really worth the aggro? Nope, they are not!
hollybolly