I rarely like RO but the one thing to take me from a
"Just blank it and think of a happy place" to a "Woooa  stop, that hurts"  is stubble when going down on me.
This just hurts.  Are they oblivious?
Annoyingly though, I paradoxically love agood looking man, with a bit of
yes you guessed .
designer stubble.   

I am totally beyond hope. 

this is funny so i have to respond (even tho i have now quit the biz)

to comment on the start up post....i have point blank never liked fingers in me, esp as they all seem to just jab their fingers roughly in and out and its not pleasant whatsoever, also it just makes me wanna go pee, so i just tell them straight out, 'i am really sorry but i dont like fingers in there, only cock! and i prefer fingers 'gently' on my outer bits'.....and then if they give too much full on attention to my clit, i say 'it's really sensitive so you have to back off and pay attention to other areas then come back to it later'....and if they continue as if they havent heard me, then i just say 'i'm really sorry but it's really too sensitive now, how about a blow job?'

i have never minded guys going down on me, i find it one of the perks of the job to be honest.  also  i have been lucky and had some really great lickers who have made me cum (which is a miracle as i am notoriously hard to orgasm)...men seek what they cant get at home, right? i have had confirmation of this as well by the things the guys say to me.  I think it is really lovely that guys want to 'give'....i mean they are paying us, and you'd think they'd just want to be 'serviced' yet the majority are hell bent on giving us a great time, by doing what they think we want, which is what we keep bleating on about in all the magazines etc: we want more foreplay....as for the ear thing, if you look up erogenous zones, ears and necks are major for a guy, so they do it to us, hoping we will do it for them, (which i dont, it's like licking ass, i just dont want to)

but i have found that there is a fine line between telling people 'ouch dont do that' and humiliating them for life.  i not so long ago, when i wasnt an escort, and i was learning about bj's and a guy said to me: 'what the fuck are you doing?' and i was so humiliated i couldnt give another blow job again for years....so you want to be able to say what you want without embarrassing them, cuz it is so easy to get embarrassed....like for instance i am giving a guy a blowjob, he is flinching, i assume its cuz it's great, but no, its cuz he's in pain, his dick is super sensitive, i had no idea, he doesnt want to hurt my feelings, but then he tells me, that he's super sensitive, and i'm like oh no oh god i am so sorry! and then i cant forget it,and then we are all awkward etc etc....so my point is, any thing like this has to be handled really sensitively

good luck!

Its kind of mind boggling just how clueless most of them are about how to touch a woman, i have had a few virgins and i have taught them to touch a woman in the opposite way than they touch themselves i.e gently! If a guy is being too rough i tend to freeze up and just stay still and silent and if we are doing 69 then i immediatley stop doing anythng to them, then when they change to doing it nice and gently i make a big deal out of moaning and telling them how nice it it. I believe its called positive reinforcement, i used the same method to train my dog haha. xx

Not knowing how to touch a women makes sense (and most of mine have a decent idea), but the ones I don't understand don't know how to touch a person. The most recent guy was stroking my body, but the strokes were fast, straight lines with no variation in speed, then back to the top to do it again. Surely he wouldn't have found that erotic on him? How is it even fun to touch a body like that?

hahahaha. That's hilarious.

One of the worst things about this job for me is the kissing. I've got clients who are actually really good in bed but when it comes to kissing them I will be instantly turned off. Some just keep their mouths open and wiggle their big slimy tongues against mine. Others are so slobbery I end up with a mouthful of saliva. And some have cold, dehydrated lips and tongue or pongy breath *shudder*.

It's so difficult to get that fine line between teaching our clients how to be better (or not necessarily better but just more in sync with us) without offending them.

I've already tried the "let's try something new" thing Richard :-( It works for a few minutes and then he just goes straight back to the fingering again. I've even said to him whe we have been having sex "this is the ONLY way to get me really turned on as foreplay doesnt do that much for me".  Nothing works though!

I'm going to try tieing him up and will drown my bits in lube just incase he manages to get his paws on it. I can't really afford to risk losing over ?1000 a month from him and apart from his jabbing technique he is lovely.

Oh dear, I think if I'd have had this client I would have made it quite clear that he was hurting me.
I find semi quiet ow's or ouch's usually work or failing that I just say sorry could you stop doing that please because you are hurting me.

I had a client who when kissing used to bite my lip, I started of with ow ow ow getting louder and louder and he carried on, eventually I had to tell him to which his reply was "Oh sorry I didn't realise"

xx

But, the problem here is unique. We need to figure out how to change the track the train is on, having already left the station and made a good part of its journey, if you will...

It is always more difficult to change direction mid-journey. So, I reckon a combo of tie and tease and the "let's try something new" thing would work. Maybe a suggestion that you'd like to try things differently and like him to be a little gentler and show him. Or maybe just blame it on the "last time." 
"The last time your nails were a bit long and kind of cut me. I'm wondering if we could go a little easier until you get your nails cut?"

Then, next time, when the nails are cut, "You know, I like you so much that I think we should try something new... let me just sort of boss you around a little and use your hand like I use my vibrator..."

THEN, you moan and moan and moan and moan to encourage by example??

Just say whoah slow down,

i  am very tight and i always explain this to clients so they wont force two fingers up me