[...] I dont really get guys obsession with it they all claim to want to please me but only one clients made me cum ever!
I also ponder about this whole thing of men paying hundreds of pounds to give oral to women who honestly aren't bothered whether they do it or not, but I think it might be related to this idea of a woman's orgasm being some sort of magical prize that's almost impossible to get (sure, some women do struggle to orgasm but I think many simply haven't had enough guilt-free sex to really get to know themselves and their likes etc; plus, women will often do anything to please including faking, which doesn't help
anyone learn! Although it's very necessary sometimes in work situations, of course) - so it's an ego thing for certain guys, maybe?
Also, I think it helps things feel less like a booking and more like two people making luurrrve.
I dunno. It's a bloody mystery to me as well as certain grunters, ahem, but yes, tie-and-tease can be wonderful because while you can keep up a running commentary about how turned-on you are, they can feel good about being a "considerate lover" but they are also physically restrained so can't be rubbing or biting. Lets the pressure off you both, really.