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Phoenix

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Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« on: 12 March 2021, 09:17:44 am »
I wonder if this is a reasonable enough request to make and if anyone else ever does the same?

Overnights are so rare (the last one for me was the announcement of 'Megxit' last year  ;D) so it's not something I have to face very often.

With somebody I know already I don't really mind them (mainly because the money is so great  though)
I always get fed nicely (restaurant wined and dined in the old days) and I accept with Clients that are content to play for abit and then go to sleep.

I sleep very badly with another person next to me and like to get up and leave at the crack of dawn.
 I explain all of this and they seem not to mind too much (I still charge by the hour for overnights, so this makes it cheaper for them anyway)

However, I find the thought of being woken to the obligatory groping.. or knowing I am obliged to "do sex"  all again just too depressing for words  :-\

I had one guy who, knowing I was leaving at 6am, started to grope me at 4.30am (think he set a silent alarm accordingly :'(

Are there any of you out there who feel the same? Does an overnight always have to include the morning after sex too? 🤔

I suppose I could just mention at the start of arranging that morning sex is out of the question? Risk they will rescind the offer?
Is it reasonable to offer a good time the night before, a warm body to lay next to for the night... But absolutely no sex when we wake please?  8)
Can we just be friends and have a coffee instead?

As the money is so good, I would probably rather grit my teeth and bear it than turn down the once annual/bi-annual overnight?

Any thoughts anyone?  :)
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Mirror

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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #1 on: 12 March 2021, 10:23:42 am »
Quote from: Phoenix on 12 March 2021, 09:17:44 am
I wonder if this is a reasonable enough request to make and if anyone else ever does the same?

Overnights are so rare (the last one for me was the announcement of 'Megxit' last year  ;D) so it's not something I have to face very often.

With somebody I know already I don't really mind them (mainly because the money is so great  though)
I always get fed nicely (restaurant wined and dined in the old days) and I accept with Clients that are content to play for abit and then go to sleep.

I sleep very badly with another person next to me and like to get up and leave at the crack of dawn.
 I explain all of this and they seem not to mind too much (I still charge by the hour for overnights, so this makes it cheaper for them anyway)

However, I find the thought of being woken to the obligatory groping.. or knowing I am obliged to "do sex"  all again just too depressing for words  :-\

I had one guy who, knowing I was leaving at 6am, started to grope me at 4.30am (think he set a silent alarm accordingly :'(

Are there any of you out there who feel the same? Does an overnight always have to include the morning after sex too? 🤔

I suppose I could just mention at the start of arranging that morning sex is out of the question? Risk they will rescind the offer?
Is it reasonable to offer a good time the night before, a warm body to lay next to for the night... But absolutely no sex when we wake please?  8)
Can we just be friends and have a coffee instead?

As the money is so good, I would probably rather grit my teeth and bear it than turn down the once annual/bi-annual overnight?

Any thoughts anyone?  :)

I stipulate 'x hours uninterrupted sleep', although I do/will engage in the morning I have that 'block' plus a finishing time already stipulated. That doesn't mean I am robotic, not had a client who is not ok with that. I explain I am no good if a bed partner is rummaging around, be it with me or getting up in the night etc. I have had this - clients who are restless and it just does not work for me. I almost gave up overnights for a while as a result of a couple of those including clients I already knew and had already had overnights somewhere else with, but current approach works.
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #2 on: 12 March 2021, 11:04:01 am »
If the overall experience is good I'm fine with sex in the morning as long as they don't make a meal of things. Basically, a quick one. I'm fairly sociable with clients so all the morning stuff like chat and the bathroom and clothes on is all part of the fun for me.
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #3 on: 12 March 2021, 11:31:54 am »
Announce it on your ads and who likes it will book. Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable or depressed. If it's only once or twice a year not really worth fretting about. I personally feel it may be a negative for bookings.

The wine-dines are my favourite. I really enjoy overnights as it's an adventure! I don't mind morning sex, it's usually a quicky as they want to get on with their day. Or they just want to snooze and let you toddle off.
« Last Edit: 12 March 2021, 12:33:19 pm by saltysweet »
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Miffy

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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #4 on: 12 March 2021, 12:28:04 pm »
I agree with saltysweet, so long as you clearly stipulate morning sex is not on offer, then there shouldn't be a problem as the client will know exactly what is on offer.

I am a terrible sleeper at the best of times, even if I am alone in my own bed, so I know it will be just as bad if not worse if I am sharing a bed with a client. However, I love overnights because I am always taken for dinner in a great restaurant, my clients stay in wonderful hotels and the beds are always enormous, so I don't even notice them in bed. I like morning sex too, so that's not a problem either, often, if we've really indulged on food the night before, we don't even have sex until the morning anyway. What I particularly like is that quite a few of my clients are bad sleepers like me, so we chat for most of the night, and nap in between. As I know I will feel terrible the next day, my overnights are priced accordingly to make-up for this too.
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #5 on: 12 March 2021, 02:13:29 pm »
I recently did my last overnight, it didn’t go well at all and all the time I was dreading the morning. I’ve never been a fan of morning sex, my body doesn’t wake up so I never get wet so it also hurts. He knew I was leaving at 8am and set his alarm for 7, my intention was to try but once up I just knew my body wouldn’t cooperate so I told him straight, they would be no point in even trying. He was ok with it but I felt bad as I knew that’s why he set the alarm. I’m no longer offering overnights now as they are just not worth the anxiety I get.
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #6 on: 12 March 2021, 03:43:52 pm »
I haven't had any overnights for a while but will only do them with guys I really like and get on with.

I have stayed in some amazing places and do miss them. In my experience a lot of the guys feel horny in the morning but so do I so it works well for me as long as i get enough sleep. I therefore always request twin beds or separate rooms.

I always ask them what their expectations are and am very clear about what they can expect. If they expect me to stay in the room all evening shagging its not going to happen.
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MARIPOSA 76

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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #7 on: 12 March 2021, 06:54:40 pm »
I have a client who comes to visit me for one night twice a year ....

 I think the morning's sex is included,

 I told him very clearly that he is not touching me all the time while I sleep

 

You have to set the rules before booking, so you both have things clear ...
I hate that they are touching me all night, I told him to only touch me when he touched sex and after sex he is not touching me because I do not like it.

It is sometimes annoying but it is work my friend
« Last Edit: 12 March 2021, 07:00:55 pm by MARIPOSA 76 »
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #8 on: 12 March 2021, 10:17:26 pm »
I had an overnight client who considered two hours sleep more than enough! We had dinner and lots of drinks went to bed about 1.30am and he was awake at 3.30am badgering for sex, I tried to pretend I was asleep but finally gave in about 5am. Ironically he said that was the most sleep he'd had for years!!!
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Re: Overnights, but no morning after sex please!
« Reply #9 on: 17 March 2021, 09:11:22 pm »
I personally don't think it's reasonable to do that - as you're just asking someone to pay you for having a sleep afterwards. I would be surprised if someone  wanted to pay an overnight rate for 2 hours of sex (for example!) and then watch a lady snore for 8 hours, rather than just paying a 2 hour rate and have you go home. I also wonder if it might break the spell of an overnight to know there's to be no touching after sunrise?

However I guess there's no harm in offering this so long as you are clear upfront?  If they're happy with it then why not!
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