Css, look at this from another standpoint, how utterly disrespectful of this man to think that you are so desperate as to lose business because he is paying for some cheap discount ticket to a European destination!? With probably a less than 5* hotel experience. What nerve?! I personally think if it doesn't go well, you are well shot of him. Honey you are running a business, not a Sisters of Mercy for Desperate Punters charity.

Oh and believe me, if you had taken him up on this fine offer, you would have f&&ked him three times a day, not including the demanding attention he would want paid to his glorious morning erection. There is nothing so heady as paid sex gotten for free!

hmmm..well, I kind of changed my mind a bit...

Me and my client boyfriend (lets just use that term for now LOL) have made up, and today when I seen him I wasn't as upset as I was the past 2 days. We had a pretty good time and I REALLY needed to jump in his pool! He even wrote me a review today.

I understand what you're saying Violette, but sometimes it doesn't always have to be about falling in love or playing charity. Sometimes its just about having someone's company around, and if the chemistry is there enough, why not go for it? Besides, if said client is not going to pay me again, then we wont be seeing each other again anyway. And if the time comes where the relationship is no longer beneficial to one another, each party is free to move on to new possibilities.

I prefer to befriend a client (if our chemistry clicks, GOOD...) than to befriend some of these other young fucks my age who like to take advantage of people and use their friends for looks, money, or  a 'wingman'. I would rather befriend a client who has atleast paid me once before, than some of the older men out here who want FREE cheap fucks and are screwing around behind their lover's back.

I feel that its an experience to befriend a client. Most of them may not be 100% stable sexually, but they are usually stable financially. And to me, that makes a world of a difference. Not that Im some needy leech out to golddig...but it makes life alot easier to have someone who is stable, rather than have a friend who isn't so stable himself.

But I will admit, it needs to be 1 way or the other. When I made the decision to befriend my client, I told him that I did not want him as a client any longer. By admiting that, I signed a verbal agreement with MYSELF that I wont feel as if Im being gotten over on for free...because I CHOSE to allow said person to become a friend. I would not suggest taking trips with a client who wants to pay you what he wants...Because thats bargaining. I did that before and regretted it. And you cant change face either. You cant be an escort 1 day, and then friends and then back to escorting. It is very thin line and it must be CLEAR what the agreement is. Either we are friends and have no business deals, or we are strictly doing business and no free meetings.

If the feeling isn't mutual, you have no business meeting him for free. It only works where there is a mutual attraction.

Beautifully said Joey. But when you have your first really nasty argument, I just hope he is as clued in to your verbal agreement as you are, and doesn't open his mouth to call you some choice nasty names, ala Mel Gibson.

Work is work and business is business. Maybe it is different with male/male situations, but as a woman, I cannot and will not allow the cross pollinating of the two worlds. Now this isn't to say I haven't had clients who have become friends, but friends in the truest sense of the word, no sex is involved. And this is a rare thing for me.

Well, nonetheless....I am still taking your advice in the back of my mind. I know this is a slippery path I'm taking! But what relationship isn't these days 

Joey,

This is a considered thought. Do you think that your obviously flawed relationship with your parents could have contributed to your serious lack of judgement in your emotional life?

I have another thought. The hell makes you think I have a flawed relationship with my parents? Point out 1 example in which I said that and I'll apologize. You need to loose the bitchy attitude! I understand we are all on a team and shouldn't pick fights with one another, but clearly your intentions seem to be directed to do so.

Work is work and business is business. but friends in the truest sense of the word, no sex is involved. And this is a rare thing for me.

I agree...Im starting to feel like whenever we have sex sometimes, as if Im 'giving it away for free' (like you mentioned earlier in this thread). Its like, I am somewhat attracted to him, but not 100%...Its just so confusing!

I am really working on trying to meet new people though. Like I said, I'm no longer escorting on the dating sites and instead am using that to meet other people. Sometimes, I feel like when there is nobody else going on in my life...I get sucked into these crap relationships and settle.

Apologies. I can play nicely, I promise.

To bring the thread back... I'm very surprised (and pleased) to say that the client offered to pay my rates for the trip! So thanks, ladies, for encouraging me to hold out! No free trips for me!