Can you tell me a bit about your experiences with this? Especially when not mutual?

One of my regulars recently started telling me he really liked me and was falling for me etc. It was incredibly awkward because I love spending time with him but I definitely don't find him attractive.
I had to send him an email saying it would never work as I'm an escort and its incredibly messy to date an escort. And I told him all the usual stuff about how he's an amazing guy but he should try to put his feelings aside when he's with me.
He went in a big huff about it and was pretty upset so I kept my distance.
He eventually got back in touch to apologise for being so dramatic and we now see eachother once a week for an hour and he keeps it very professional between us which is great.

If a client has fallen for u then just be honest that you never date them and if he likes you enough he will continue to book you.

No, no book yet -- I don't have time. Too busy with this escort thing...

Just think this is going to happen soon with one client, and not sure how to handle it. (Thanks, sammy s!)

Also bear in mind that it's often not quite 'love' that these clients fall into, more a mixture of obsession/misunderstanding/inexperience etc that happens because they don't quite see that: Sexy Lady + Sexy Times (Paid) + Havin' A Larf With Sexy Lady Cos She's Also Smart And Funny =/= Real Love.

So while real love might be something kind of beautiful and sacred even, depending how you feel about all that sort of thing, a client's inappropriate adoration isn't exactly the same thing. For example, someone who is really in love with you probably knows what you look like without makeup on and how you act when you aren't on the job, and has probably met you more than five or ten times. Also I think there are a few of the emotional-manipulator-type clients who quite purposefully attempt to convince prossies that they're in love with them because they enjoy the guilt and mental discomfort that this causes the prossie in question; they like to think about you worrying about them even when they're not freaking you out in person.

Overall, client 'love' is something that can often most easily be cured by indicating to the client that you aren't a goddamn fool and won't be giving him free time just because he says he loves you. The remainder of the occasions are ones where you should gently tell him that he's being silly and immature and causing you lots of problems so if he really does believe he's in love, he should act in a caring fashion and behave properly when he's around you or, if he can't, then he should leave you entirely alone.

I mean, think of yourself - when was the last time you decided after two meetings that you loved a guy and had to be with him with such an intensity that you freaked the sh*t out of him, and when he politely said No Thanks you started sending him emotionally-blackmailing emails/texts/calls? If you ever did this, you were probably a teenager or thereabouts. Would you do this to anybody now? No, so why should certain clients feel like they should do this to us? The fact that the majority of clients are perfectly capable of being friendly, affectionate, kind and respectful all safely within the boundaries of a business relationship also indicates that there's no reason to put up with nonsense from the few that must fling themselves on couches having fainting fits because they're so "in love" all the bloody time.

Note: From my experiences, one particularly recent, it's also often the case that even the most obsessive of clients will quickly move on to his next obsession if his first victim doesn't succumb sufficiently to his 'charms'. A fellow escort and I observed with many giggles this happening with one of her mad clients who has effortlessly managed to envelop me in his 'love' as well. Urgh. Anyway - that's just to remind you that no matter how heartbroken a client might seem at your cruel refusal to enter into a lifelong marriage with him right now or whatever, he'll probably be harassing someone else next week!

Wouldn't touch a client with a barge pole. At the end of the day anyone who sees you as an escort is a slime bucket who as soon as he gets a little bored with the fact that you have a real life and are not some sort of nymphomaniac he'll be off to see the next girl.

I know one girl who has some sort of idea that she's a pro Domme but seems to have landed herself in all sorts of trouble after marrying one client and having another pay for her house. She now has an obsessive husband stalking her all over the country and found herself homeless.

Maybe it's just me but work and private life are two separate things and 'never the twain will meet'.  My partner and I have had a few numpties who seemed to think they were special. The problem seems to be socially inept men misunderstanding and escort being nice and friendly during the appointment and actually liking them. sad but true!

I had a clien asking me if I socialise with my clients.... And he said he liked me and if I was looking for a bf....

Yeah, Joey, good on you. Now, this client wants to take me away on a trip. I think he means for free. The trip would be quite expensive and I would like to go to this fabulous (European) destination... but not sure how to ask for money and if I want to go even if not paid because it's somewhere I have always wanted to go.

Any suggestions?

Css, you need to discuss this in an open and professional way, he is a client, I mean he can't for one minute think that you are going to just drop your life and pop off to some European destination without payment? Don't be ridiculous. This is your job, not a hobby, you are not some slapper he has picked up at a club who is desperate for some nice treatment. You are a professional, and you need to behave accordingly. I would suggest 1200 a day, plus travel expenses, and a certain amount to time free each day. Make sure you set the ground rules before you go, so you are not tied to the bed taking it up every hole for the duration for 10 days. I mean seriously, you will be with this person 24/7, keep this in mind.

As to clients falling in love. Spare me! They don't fall in love with you, they fall in love with the fake reaction you give to their fabulous love making. I mean seriously how narcissistic does someone have to be, to self delude themselves into thinking that a woman who makes her living screwing several men a day, wants to take on the emotional baggage of some needy punter who has no social skills and a whole pack of sexual issues? No thank you! I mean civvy men have enough issues, why compound those with the punter mentality?

Violette -- what an inspiration. Thank you. I do tend to get confused when it's somewhere I'd want to go anyway. Why not take a free trip? But I would be missing out on earnings here and I would have to be a service provider even if he is no longer a client. Bleurgh!