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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Lucie268 on 16 May 2017, 03:43:31 pm
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Has anyone ever had a client moan when you go to grab the lube? I've had maybe a handful over the years tell me not to put it on when I reach for it. I always say 'but I need it'. Does it have something to do with decreasing sensitivity? Or maybe are they offended that I'm not turned on enough to not be wet? Either way it's annoying, as regardless of whether I'm horny or not I always need lube when I use condoms because I find them quite drying.
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Has anyone ever had a client moan when you go to grab the lube? I've had maybe a handful over the years tell me not to put it on when I reach for it. I always say 'but I need it'. Does it have something to do with decreasing sensitivity? Or maybe are they offended that I'm not turned on enough to not be wet? Either way it's annoying, as regardless of whether I'm horny or not I always need lube when I use condoms because I find them quite drying.
This has never happened to me, I just lean across and get it. Sometimes I mumble about needing help, if anyone asks I explain I get wet after I climax (true) and that not enough lube is a contributory factor to condom splits.
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I don't usually use it but one of my clients said he hates using it as for some reason it makes him cum really quickly. Maybe I should use it for some of my clients then if that's the case.
Also I think some guys have it n their head they are God's gift and expect them to make us wet just by being in their presence. They think if we are not wet something is wrong.
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I don't get naturally wet with male clients only with my boyfriend .
I simply say if one gets the hump *** I'm little tight and if condom breaks you will be a daddy.*** then the idiot shuts up says carry on.
I rather use lube than use my saliva and be in pain from they dryness. I rarely get those who moan but if I do. I use the above explanation.
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There are moaners, typically around the 'I'm a sex ghod and you shouldn't need it with me' issue, but if you don't want to say 'tough shit, it's lube or no fucking', you could say that it's important to use lube when you're having extended hot sex because of condoms...
But this is is why some people pre-lube. The moaners think it's them that's got you wet, not the bottle.
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To the end of my whoring I used to lube up just prior to them arriving. Once I knew they had left car I used syringe for calpol and squirted it up. I was in my 60's by that time so a little dryness wasn't unexpected by me.
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No because I put lube on before they knock on the door,no moaning then and I'm also ready for the ones that try sticking a finger up straight away.
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No because I put lube on before they knock on the door,no moaning then and I'm also ready for the ones that try sticking a finger up straight away.
This! I wouldn't be able to do this job safely without lube, I couldn't care less if it hurts their ego or whatever, I'm not risking a condom break or it roll off due to the friction which has happened in the past. I also find condoms very drying even if i am naturally wet
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it happens to me regularly. moreso with black men. I personally do think its to do with being offended that I'm not aroused. I considedered the method of using a syring and adding lube before hand but I found I hate stocking a guys ego like that. Ill do by best in bookings but if im not turned on, im simply not turned on. no point being in pain or getting torn up for someone who ill probably never see again
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I've never had anyone complain, and tbf I'm quite blunt when I need lube I'll just say "hang on a sec while I get the lube" - clients actually tend to ask for lube if they see the bottle.
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it happens to me regularly. moreso with black men. I personally do think its to do with being offended that I'm not aroused. I considedered the method of using a syring and adding lube before hand but I found I hate stocking a guys ego like that. Ill do by best in bookings but if im not turned on, im simply not turned on. no point being in pain or getting torn up for someone who ill probably never see again
To me it isn't stroking a guys ego to prelube,it's self protection from condoms ripping and getting sore if I get a guy that starts rubbing or poking at me and I'm not wet enough.It's a precaution.
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Whats the best lube. I get bv from scented shower gels etc so need something that wont set the bv off x
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Whats the best lube. I get bv from scented shower gels etc so need something that wont set the bv off x
Good old ky jelly has always worked fine for me.You just need a pea sized amount.
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Whats the best lube. I get bv from scented shower gels etc so need something that wont set the bv off x
There's a range called yesyesyes that do organic lubes, haven't tried them but I'm tempted to get some
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I've been using Canesintima intimate moisturiser. I find it helps protect against bv or thrush while being tasteless which is useful for reverse oral.
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I've been using Canesintima intimate moisturiser. I find it helps protect against bv or thrush while being tasteless which is useful for reverse oral.
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Just looked it up. Its quite expensive x
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I use KY jelly. I much prefer the idea of using a "natural" lube but all the ones I have tried have been really watery or just generally crap. Does anyone know of any decent "natural" lubes on the market??
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Not had anyone say it for a long while but used to get the old "You don't need that", I just used to pull a face & say "What? You don't know I need" or "don't tell me what I need" they soon shut up. They don't realise the complexities of vaginas & that condoms are very drying.
I like this syringe idea, nowt worse than a dry finger prodding your clit. They come in handy for douching aswell.
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I buy a huge bottle of ID Glide and decant it into a smaller bottle, it's good and fairly long lasting! I much prefer it to durex, which I find too thick and sticky.
Pre-lubing is a good idea I think, especially when it comes to prodding dry fingers which is all too common. I remember one guy who just wouldn't listen when I told him to go softer on my clit so I went and put some lube on his fingers and he was so confused, he said 'what's this? it's all wet, can I have a tissue'. lol
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Literally in decades never have I had anyone say anything whatsoever. Not that we are asking permission. Lube is happening, like it or not. Lots of it at that!
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I was reading this while making my breakfast my mum asks to make her tea then I accidentally say ** How much lube do you want ** my gosh had to quickly change to how much sugar. So glad she did not her the lube part lool
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I was reading this while making my breakfast my mum asks to make her tea then I accidentally say ** How much lube do you want ** my gosh had to quickly change to how much sugar. So glad she did not her the lube part lool
Hahahaha!!
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I was reading this while making my breakfast my mum asks to make her tea then I accidentally say ** How much lube do you want ** my gosh had to quickly change to how much sugar. So glad she did not her the lube part lool
LMAO!
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I use KY jelly. I much prefer the idea of using a "natural" lube but all the ones I have tried have been really watery or just generally crap. Does anyone know of any decent "natural" lubes on the market??
I don't use lube very often but when I do I use Sliquid Organic. It's a bit pricey but you get a big bottle which doesn't actually look like lube and it's often on sale at lovehoney.com
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thanks I will have a look for it
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I've never had a client complain at all but what I do is actually lubricate his penis when the condom is on and never lub myself.
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Can ky be used for oral sex tio. Does it taste ok x
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Can ky be used for oral sex tio. Does it taste ok x
You only need a pea sized amount up inside.I've never had a client mention anything about a strange taste or anything,mind you I don't use lube on my clit or outer lips which is where most men tend to lick.Ky doesn't have a smell or taste particularly.
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I have on occasion put some inside already before client arrives, especially on a short booking. Sometimes you can't win though! I have had some clients look puzzled by me reaching for it and I have had one interrogate me as to why I was wet already(as if I had had load of sex before he arrived)!
Some do see it as a criticism to their technique and query why I need it. I just say condoms make me dry after a while. I hate it when they try to use their spit, I find it totally gross and ineffective!
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No because I put lube on before they knock on the door,no moaning then and I'm also ready for the ones that try sticking a finger up straight away.
+1
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I can rememebr when I first started I didn't use lube and god only knows how I managed...as some other ladies have said..pre lube all the way...
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Ive never used lube but then again I only see a max of 2 punters a day.
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You only need a pea sized amount up inside.I've never had a client mention anything about a strange taste or anything,mind you I don't use lube on my clit or outer lips which is where most men tend to lick.Ky doesn't have a smell or taste particularly.
I can verify the efficacy of KY - the one in green especially.
When the client doubted the source of the lubrication I thrust my sloppy finger in his mouth & asked him if it tasted like lube.
Apparently it did not, to which you can add "oh you would know if it was lube alright" ;D
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Even when i'm crazy horny, the outside lip isn't self lubricating aka the main entry. I use lube whether i'm horny or not, i use it every single time i have sex, I do understand it might mean offence but that's them taking it of context and jeopardising the condom tearing due to friction. I use lube when horny with my partner even. Not loads though as he says too wet removes friction to grip the shaft which is the entire point. In sex work the conitation 'the customer is always right' means the customer is jeopardising their and your health soo use lube.
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Even when i'm crazy horny, the outside lip isn't self lubricating aka the main entry.
Yes, that's the problem I have - it's the outside of the vaginal entrance where I get sore, and it is worse with some condoms that have a thick rolled end.
I generally pre-lube a small amount before a booking and if he has a big cock then I'll put the condom on and apply lube to the condom rather than myself and say "These condoms can be a bit drying". If I feel that I'm going dry during the sex I have no qualms about saying "we need more lube". Tough shit if he gets butthurt about it - my vagina is essential work equipment and therefore is more important to me than his ego!
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...I have no qualms about saying "we need more lube". Tough shit if he gets butthurt about it - my vagina is essential work equipment and therefore is more important to me than his ego!
The perfect summary of this thread! Lube: A SexWorker's Essential for Protecting Her ASSets.
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Yes, that's the problem I have - it's the outside of the vaginal entrance where I get sore, and it is worse with some condoms that have a thick rolled end.
I generally pre-lube a small amount before a booking and if he has a big cock then I'll put the condom on and apply lube to the condom rather than myself and say "These condoms can be a bit drying". If I feel that I'm going dry during the sex I have no qualms about saying "we need more lube". Tough shit if he gets butthurt about it - my vagina is essential work equipment and therefore is more important to me than his ego!
I agree there and as I reach for the rubber, I slip some lube around the entrance of my vag and just explain, hey we all hate rubbers but they must be used and dry me out as much as they cause you discomfort but gotta be done.
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When I first started sex work I didn't know that being dry could rip the condom & its happened to me 3 times so I lube up before they come x
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To the end of my whoring I used to lube up just prior to them arriving. Once I knew they had left car I used syringe for calpol and squirted it up. I was in my 60's by that time so a little dryness wasn't unexpected by me.
I use a plastic syringe to put it inside too. I encourage lots of kissing at the beginning of the booking and say it turns me on if they question the wetness lol.
I never get wet with clients. Age hasn't been the issue it's always been that way so lube is the only way for me. I'm not too bothered if it increases their ego as long as it's increasing my bank balance too :-*
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I am very tight, so if guys are not prepared to give me foreplay i will use lube!
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I use lube nearly every time and just say, that's the problem with getting older ( I'm 48) I just don't get that wet anymore!
No ones every queried it.