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Clarabella

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Finding it hard to go back after a long break!
« on: 24 October 2013, 03:59:15 pm »
Hi Girls,

I've just had 4 weeks off and I'm putting all my Ads back up on Monday there's nothing for it lol.  I was going to return last Monday but couldn't bring myself to do it somehow  :-\

It's been so nice not having to deal with all the timewasters and morons and I've loved my time off.

Does anyone else find it really difficult to get back into it after a break?  I had the dreaded burn out before my holiday and I think the recent memory of having to grit my teeth in bookings is still very present!  Mind you, I do feel very well rested now. 

I know I'll be fine after I've had a booking or two!

C xx
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sammy s

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Re: Finding it hard to go back after a long break!
« Reply #1 on: 24 October 2013, 06:23:35 pm »
I had 5 weeks off recently after having major burnt out from years of not taking any proper time off. I was extremely run down and quite depressed. Spent the majority of the time off Lying in front of the tv and catching up on sleep. It helped me massively with regards to my mental health but created financial stresses as I could only really afford 2 weeks off.
The thought of going back to it was really worrying me and I wasn't sleeping well towards the end of the break.
Anyway, I forced myself to do a booking after the 5 weeks was up and I was amazed at how easy and enjoyable it was. It reminded me why I've been doing this for 8 years and why I love it so much.
I've also cut down the amount of bookings I "need" to do every week which feels like a big weight off my shoulders. I'd rather be earning a bit less but enjoying life than earning more than I need and feeling on the verge of a breakdown.
I still earn enough to save and have a good quality of life but before I was putting so much pressure on myself to save a certain amount each week.
Maybe ease back into it by seeing a regular who isn't too demanding? Or a short 30 minute booking to familiarise yourself with everything. I'm sure you'll feel great afterwards with the extra money
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Clarabella

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Re: Finding it hard to go back after a long break!
« Reply #2 on: 24 October 2013, 07:13:16 pm »
Sammy,

God I'm really sorry to hear that you went through all that.  It must of been really tough and very stressful and I understand how shit that must've felt trying to persuade yourself to get back into it as I have felt like that recently!  I'm glad to hear you managed to break out of it!

I too hadn't had any proper time off in nearly two years, whereas before that I was taking 4 weeks off here and there for Christmas and summer and other holidays as I had a partner who didn't know I was an Escort at the time.

I can see that I've been putting myself under some serious pressure to achieve by not taking time off.  I didn't see the harm I was doing to myself yet it's so obvious when you think about it.  Looking back at how I was 4 weeks ago with clients (as I said, gritting my teeth with them) and getting stressed and upset at little things, I really needed that time off so much! You can't see it at the time because you get so caught up and afraid of taking a day off as it can mean losing a couple or few hundred pounds! 

I think I'm going to take two days off a week and put it on my profiles.  That way, Clients will make time to see me on the days that I'm available instead, and I'll feel much more 'in control' and not pressured to work every day.

I've literally gotta pull myself out of my comfort zone and not negotiate with myself anymore.  I've got it set up so my Ads are going live again Monday and I feel MUCH better now knowing that it's happening  ;D

Thanks for your advice and encouragement and you're right - I know as soon as I do a booking I'll be fine again!

C xx
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sammy s

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Re: Finding it hard to go back after a long break!
« Reply #3 on: 24 October 2013, 09:39:33 pm »
Thanks and I'm sure you'll look back in a few weeks and wonder what you were worrying about. That's what happened to me and I'm back enjoying it again.
I was the same and was also gritting my teeth through bookings and staring at the clock praying for it to end soon. I'd feel irritated and fed up with all of my clients and was probably giving them all a crap service.
Thankfully the rest did me the world of good. Definitely have a couple of days off a week to relax and do fun things with. It's important to have things to look forward to each week and time for yourself to chill.
Good luck xxx
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Clarabella

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Re: Finding it hard to go back after a long break!
« Reply #4 on: 24 October 2013, 10:07:08 pm »
Cheers hun.

Yeah it was the same for me too.  Stress or what!  Kept being short with the clients and counting down the minutes, feeling upset about being touched here and there.  Worse thing was it made me vulnerable with the more difficult and demanding clients that I'm easily able to deal with not let it affect me in anyway.  The ones where you need a cool head, a good attitude and the need to be stress free to be able to deal with the booking well and brush it off afterwards.
It's not often I get clients like that but I had a few when I was gripped in the midst of the burn out and it was very difficult indeed. 
Nothing worse than having a terrible booking and feeling shit about yourself and your standards too!

It made me feel worse as I stopped caring about bloody hiding my disgust.  I even started retaliating to the timewasters (Something I never do) when I know really it's pointless exercise lol Not good at all. 

I've made peace with the fact that I'm going back now so that's something I'm feeling better about now anyway.

C xx
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