Hi everyone,

So I have had this client for 3 sessions now. First was great, I took his virginity. Second was great too. He's very lovely, very nervous, always polite. Bought me a small gift and gave me a £20 tip today as my rates have recently gone up but I told him the old rates apply to him.

He turned round at the end of the session, asking me if I would go on a social date in the Summer. I said yes as I offer this for a reduced price. He got all nervous and shy and said he has had to take on a second job and works 12 hours so he can pay to see me.

I feel really bad about this and would prefer to cut him off as don't want that happen. Would you guys tell him you are cutting him off and why? Don't want him to get too attached and get crushed by me as there is 0 chance I will get feelings for him

Any suggestions or advice are greatly appreciated!

He’s looking for a discount or freebies. By the fact he’s asked for a social with you in future then his second job story, he’s setting you up. Don’t let yourself be fooled! These men will do everything possible to get control back be it physically, mentally or financially as most HATE the fact they have to pay, (not all but most).

In conclusion cut him off. Say if he can’t control his spending then you’ll do it for him.

I find the whole thing hilarious ask him to show you his payslip for his so called second job then charge him double I am sure you will never see him again 😂😂 they try every trick don’t fall for it baby girl

Thanks for the replies everyone!

I've decided to just block him. I've cut a lot of clients off recently as I can see through their manipulative, boundary pushing ways and I want 0 clients like that!

He does seem like one of the same now I think of it. If in doubt, I will now just block.

Thank you again 😊

He turned round at the end of the session, asking me if I would go on a social date in the Summer. I said yes as I offer this for a reduced price. He got all nervous and shy and said he has had to take on a second job and works 12 hours so he can pay to see me.

He doesn't seem 'lovely,' or 'polite,' to me at all. A lovely client would never make you feel uncomfortable like that; pushing your boundaries for a date, then blaming you for working a second job.

Escort services is a luxury -many men save for months to see us. If you knew how hard they worked and saved, would you feel bad as well? There are clients who are genuinely poor but will never tell you.

I would continue to see this guy but be more wary, he has figured out what an empathetic soul you are (trust me, he is not some shy, simple innocent). If it makes you feel awful to see him, the money is not worth the stress -cut off contact is best.

Personally I don’t see it as my issue how someone is paying for my service. It’s really got nothing to do with me, and in the same way for instance my electricity supplier wouldn’t care if I told them “I have to work XYZ to pay for my bill” I am indifferent. It sounds to me as though he is trying to play on your emotions to further reduce your rate, and that to me is not something I would want to negotiate or deal with.

My opinion also.

It's their choice if they want to book and pay for an escort and not my problem if they can't actually afford it.

Tell him to cut the hobby down then if it’s making him take a second job (my arss he even has one) as going with hookers is a luxury not a necessity ffs, he is at it BIG time!

I'd take his money, charge him my actual rate and let his sob story fall on deaf ears. Some clients really do go to lengths to afford their habits of seeing us, but it's not our problem. If I choose to take a second job to afford luxury shoes, then I can't blame Louboutin, can I?