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DarcyLady

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Client 'popped' over and watched me
« on: 26 November 2024, 02:11:01 pm »
 >:(

I gave my address for a booking which did not happen a few weeks ago. He cancelled last minute because apparently he'd found someone cheaper  :( Anyway - today I receive this via text -

'I happened to swing by your place last week (only once) and I didn't stay. Nor will I ever turn up unannounced ever again. I saw your lovely landy in a disabled spot. I also saw you out walking your lovely dogs. Without getting too personal, are you comfortable describing the nature of your disability? (Obviously the accessibility requirement could be for a family member...and if it's for you, that would not exclude you at all from my interest...possibly even peak it.) I am keen to understand better though.'

I am really upset. No client has ever turned up unannounced in my years of working as an escort, and the fact that he watched me?! I feel like I should call the police, but don't want to attract unwanted attention. I do have a disabled bay outside my house, where my land rover is parked, so I feel really violated and absolutely furious. What can I do about this? I always knew that this was a risk, but I am furious and upset.
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #1 on: 26 November 2024, 02:26:32 pm »
Oh, that has given me the proper boak. If you're going to reply at all (and I wouldn't), tell him it belongs to your husbands and is part of his anger management 'journey'. I'd also contact National Ugly Mugs.

If you usually give out your full address I'd maybe rethink? I know everybody's incall places and the approaches to them are different (and I'm used to flats rather than houses where the exterior doesn't give anything away) but surely a street or postcode and/or a nearby landmark is enough until they arrive? I'm lucky in that I don't even have to give out my flat number, but when I did it was never before they were here.

Vomit again at random bloke fetishing a disability 🤮
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #2 on: 26 November 2024, 03:00:58 pm »

OMG how absolutely disgusting of him.  Like the line 'without getting too personal.....'.....like turning up unannounced hadn't already crossed the line of being too personal!!  :FF 

He is clearly trying to intimidate you for some reason and I would definitely report to Ugly Mugs and maybe make a report on here with his number.

Awful thing to do !
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #3 on: 26 November 2024, 03:16:04 pm »
Quote from: DarcyLady on 26 November 2024, 02:11:01 pm
>:(

I gave my address for a booking which did not happen a few weeks ago. He cancelled last minute because apparently he'd found someone cheaper  :( Anyway - today I receive this via text -

'I happened to swing by your place last week (only once) and I didn't stay. Nor will I ever turn up unannounced ever again. I saw your lovely landy in a disabled spot. I also saw you out walking your lovely dogs. Without getting too personal, are you comfortable describing the nature of your disability? (Obviously the accessibility requirement could be for a family member...and if it's for you, that would not exclude you at all from my interest...possibly even peak it.) I am keen to understand better though.'

I am really upset. No client has ever turned up unannounced in my years of working as an escort, and the fact that he watched me?! I feel like I should call the police, but don't want to attract unwanted attention. I do have a disabled bay outside my house, where my land rover is parked, so I feel really violated and absolutely furious. What can I do about this? I always knew that this was a risk, but I am furious and upset.

This as awful I've just experienced a slight violation, but that was only someone excited to be helping me 15 years after his booking. I have had punters 'reccie' incall places when given just the street name or postcode, and until I explain the issues some outcall regulars have thought I'm being difficult by not providing more information when they subsequently book an incall.

Definitely report to NUM and anywhere else that's suitable.

Your guy is a tw@t and you are right to not have seen him.
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #4 on: 26 November 2024, 05:10:16 pm »
Thank you so much lovelies. I am still feeling quite shaken up by it, and have added a post on Warnings and Wasters. I've also registered with Ugly Mugs to create a report.

I did respond with a simple - 'what the fuck?'

and he has responded with -

'No need to be alarmed. You can easily trace me through the police. I simply wanted to see how discreet the venue was for incalls. I have never been before and will never go back again until we have an appointment. Can you see me on Saturday morning?'

I haven't responded, and have blocked. I don't actually give out my exact address, but use the vintage landrover as a landmark, however it is mine. He had no idea what number I was, so he must have waited for me to appear  :-X It gives me the absolute creeps, and I feel really paranoid now. I just knew that he was a wrong'un. I've been in this job for bloody years, and no-one has ever done this to me. So violating.
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #5 on: 26 November 2024, 07:09:10 pm »
What does he mean by " you can easily trace me through the police"? Does he mean he has a criminal record or he works for them? That's very weird as well as the situation in general.
« Last Edit: 26 November 2024, 11:26:20 pm by lora »
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DarcyLady

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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #6 on: 26 November 2024, 07:25:53 pm »
Quote from: lora on 26 November 2024, 07:09:10 pm
What does he mean by " you can easily trace me through the police"? Does he mean he a a criminal record or he works for them? That's very weird as well as the situation in general.

I have no idea. It's very worrying...  :-X
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #7 on: 27 November 2024, 11:34:48 am »
Quote from: lora on 26 November 2024, 07:09:10 pm
What does he mean by " you can easily trace me through the police"? Does he mean he has a criminal record or he works for them? That's very weird as well as the situation in general.

who cares what he means. I would have not responded and just block
Block block. When you texted him that “what the fuck” he probably squealed in pleasure as that was the reaction he was looking for. If he ever tries to contact you in any shape or form tell him you don’t want him contacting you and further attempts will have you go
To the police and press harassment charges straight away. What a weirdo! He’s probably not dangerous just one of those socially awkward types.
« Last Edit: 27 November 2024, 11:38:05 am by ana30 »
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #8 on: 27 November 2024, 02:57:59 pm »
I would never assume that he isn't dangerous,  what he did was seriously creepy, to insinuate he is associated with the police and to then casually ask for a booking, that is off the scale wrong.
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DarcyLady

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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #9 on: 27 November 2024, 04:09:57 pm »
Quote from: ana30 on 27 November 2024, 11:34:48 am
who cares what he means. I would have not responded and just block
Block block. When you texted him that “what the fuck” he probably squealed in pleasure as that was the reaction he was looking for. If he ever tries to contact you in any shape or form tell him you don’t want him contacting you and further attempts will have you go
To the police and press harassment charges straight away. What a weirdo! He’s probably not dangerous just one of those socially awkward types.
Well hindsight is a wonderful thing, isn't it? I reacted because I was shocked, and then blocked. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for clarification here - I needed support because it upset me.
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Re: Client 'popped' over and watched me
« Reply #10 on: 27 November 2024, 06:15:41 pm »
Quote from: DarcyLady on 27 November 2024, 04:09:57 pm
Well hindsight is a wonderful thing, isn't it? I reacted because I was shocked, and then blocked. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for clarification here - I needed support because it upset me.

And understandably so. He hung about when he could see the car and waited to see you come out of your house, which is a bit more than 'I was just passing'.

Hopefully that'll be an end to it. Make sure you keep whatever messages you've had from him, see what NUM say and try to put it out of your head for now at least.
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