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analuluiza

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Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« on: 01 July 2020, 11:45:23 am »
Hi everyone,

This is not so much of question, just a dilemma I'm in and would like to vent about.

During lockdown I have not worked. I panicked thinking I wouldn't be able to escort again and that it wouldn't be the same as before. I applied for a good job which I was accepted for and is great for my career prospects too. It is not the same pay as escorting of course, but it is something stable that I can actually build a future in. I also have another business on the side which is more of a hobby.

My problem is that now that lockdown is easing I am thinking to go back to full time escorting which I don't enjoy at all but the money is great and I can pay for anything that I want. I can go on holidays when I want, save money and my life is much more stress free. With escorting I can pay for courses I want to do to grow my side business which could become full time if I put more money into it. Or I could start the job I was offered and have a legitimate career and work my way up from there, but with less money and I would probably struggle more.

My friends have told me it wouldn't kill me to not have money for a while as I can still pay for necessities. I think I am just too used to escort money which I need to try and break away from and think of the long term benefits of this new job.

Has anyone else been in this position and if so what did you do? At the end of the day I guess it is my decision. I'm in my early 20s and confused as to what to do.
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Love.Sex.Dreams

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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #1 on: 01 July 2020, 12:40:42 pm »
Also facing a dilemma. I can go back to uni  (north of England-rainy, gloomy)  this september, get a student grant and I won't have to work. I will live in a little cottage. Or I could stay in my luxury beachfront apartment in Australia (sunny, white sand, turquoise water), get good money doing escorting which I don't enjoy anymore too. It's now affecting my mental health, no amount of money is worth it. Try to put your well-being first. How much do you hate it?
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analuluiza

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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #2 on: 01 July 2020, 01:08:20 pm »
The main thing I am scared about is not having money and this had been made worse by having to dip into my savings due to the virus and not being able to work. I have also just found out what I owe in tax next year, which is a joke. These two combined is stressing me out. My new job hasn’t given me a start date yet either, I am hoping it will be this month but I need to work now basically as I can’t keep using savings. That’s why I am having the dilemma! I’m afraid if I start escorting now I won’t even bother with my new job once I get the start date because I will be attracted to the money again and how quick I can get it.

But then again what if we have another wave of the virus and go In lockdown again. I will back to where I started. I know escorting isn’t stable but the money is so good. I don’t enjoy it and I get serious PMS which can affect me two weeks before I’m due on. When I get this I don’t want to see anyone or want them touching me. 

It’s a tough cycle
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #3 on: 01 July 2020, 01:14:03 pm »
Speaking as someone in her 50s, I would advise you to think long term.

A good education and career will stand you in better stead than any short-term money earned through escorting. In terms of not lying to family and partners, getting a mortgage, gaps on CVs etc., I would always recommend focusing on civvy life, and just escorting on the side (and using the money earned from it sensibly, i.e. saving, buying property etc.)

I'm not saying escorting isn't a feasible long-term career, but it comes at a price, and with a lot of hassle, and it's difficult to predict the problems it could throw at you down the line.
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #4 on: 01 July 2020, 06:30:27 pm »
Can you take the job & escort on the side a few evenings a week to top up your cash?
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #5 on: 01 July 2020, 08:24:20 pm »
I would take the job offer and escort very part time. Some evenings/weekends maybe.
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #6 on: 02 July 2020, 09:41:45 am »
Definitely don’t focus 100% on escorting if you don’t need to. I did it because it helped my mental health to be earning money selling sex than being rejected from job after job. Then somehow I fell into a great flexible job that I love so escorting is just icing on the cake when I want it with clients who can treat me with respect
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #7 on: 02 July 2020, 07:07:43 pm »
If you don't enjoy escorting I would take the job and escort very part time/be very picky with bookings and only take the high value ones. If you get to your late twenties and have a huge gap in your CV it will be difficult to get employment and by then you will have less opportunities to develop a career and be way behind your colleagues in terms of experience.

The great thing about escorting is that it will always be there and you can always pick it up again, but the chance to have a good career does end once you get to a certain age and have no experience :( best of luck to you. I wish I had taken up employment opportunities in the past, now I am in my late twenties and feel it is too late to get started.
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #8 on: 02 July 2020, 07:42:13 pm »
Less clients may make it more enjoyable to you if you only do it on the weekends/evenings which your lucky clients will also notice
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #9 on: 03 July 2020, 12:27:06 am »
I'm in my 50's and have been escorting for 6 years. Prior to that I was a professional and due to work stress and deep unhappiness, i took the plunge into the sex industry.

Honestly, I wish I'd done it sooner but the difference is, I love this job. I couldn't do a job I disliked intensely just for the money. Because you don't like it, I would focus on the job and career opportunities you have been presented with.

As others have said, you can do this on the side to top up and can come back into the industry anytime.

FYI, I did not go to university and start my professional career until I was in my 30's and I was very successful so don't be put off by thinking the option to retrain etc will pass you by if you do decide to stay with the industry a bit longer to save money.

Good luck!
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #10 on: 03 July 2020, 01:03:58 pm »
Really interesting thread. I am also thinking of retraining, as the reality of the pandemic has made me question my plans for long term...
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #11 on: 12 July 2020, 09:43:01 am »
Whether you take this job or not, I'd definitely do something to secure your future. I never did and now I'm a bit fucked.
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Re: Offered a good job and I still want to escort even though I don't enjoy it
« Reply #12 on: 12 July 2020, 11:05:25 am »
Quote from: EnglishAmy40 on 12 July 2020, 09:43:01 am
Whether you take this job or not, I'd definitely do something to secure your future. I never did and now I'm a bit fucked.
Ditto, I joined college in January but the pandemic put an end to it and anyway the course I chose wasn’t stimulating me but I am going to look into a company who retrain adults in different industries as I actually want a normal job now and for escorting to be my pocket money.

It’s affecting my MH too but then it may be just a year that I need off...I don’t think I could ever stop escorting completely, I’m only in it for the cash but the thought of NOT earning that cash brings me out in a cold sweat!
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