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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: QuinnAmour on 28 May 2017, 06:21:57 pm
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Hi guys,
So I have this client, I can't call him a regular because I've only seen him once, but he keeps texting me, flirting with me, trying to get me to talk dirty to him and saying he wants to see me again, he'll give me a day that he might be able to do but then that day comes and goes and surprise, surprise, no booking is made.
I didn't mind the occasional text at first with him because we're quite like minded and we had good banter so the odd text about a mutual interest or something funny I didn't really mind, but this morning he texted me with a picture from some porno saying 'when we fuck can you look at me with this intensity in your eyes' which first of all I don't even know how to respond to that, but secondly (and most importantly) it made me feel really weird, especially seeing as I was in bed with my boyfriend when I received the message, and I couldn't work out why he was doing this? I mean, I know it's clearly getting him off in someway, I'm not that naive but could me not putting a stop to the occasional banter beforehand have lead to him thinking that this kind of behaviour is okay and was I naive to think that a bit of banter every now and then with a client is acceptable?
I'm not sure what to say to him anymore, or if I should say anything at all, and its got the point where if I don't reply to him straight away he'll send a text that just says 'Xxxx' to get my attention.
Anyway, back to the point, I suppose what I'm asking here is what would any of you do in my situation? Tell him this is inappropriate and risk losing the client or just ignore him and if he books again, he books again and if he doesn't then so be it?
Thanks
Quinn x
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He's definately overstepping the boundaries and needs to be told.
Next time reply in a firm business like way, asking for a time and day he'd like to book you.
If he starts asking questions, trying to get you talking about fantasies, role play etc just firmly tell him he can request something when he makes a booking. If he carries on just ignore him.
He ll soon get bored.
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He's definately overstepping the boundaries and needs to be told.
Next time reply in a firm business like way, asking for a time and day he'd like to book you.
If he starts asking questions, trying to get you talking about fantasies, role play etc just firmly tell him he can request something when he makes a booking. If he carries on just ignore him.
He ll soon get bored.
I did try the more business like approach and I have asked him several times when he'd like to book, that's when he says 'possibly Friday' or 'maybe Monday' and then when the time comes he goes silent ???
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I simply ignore. I also make it clear on my profile that I don't respond to texts. xx
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When i get lots of texts or requests i say im available at xx time. Chat soon when you want to book. If they say can we do this or can we do that and its ok i reply again yes chat soon when u want to book. It usually cuts them off from continually texting wthout being rude xx
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Quinn
You would be losing a loser, not a client. If that was me I would block immediately, I am a hard hearted but very fair wg who does not put up with idiots who pretend they will book or book again and don't make a firm decision and stick to it.
Any texting involving sex talk gets them an instant ban, whether I have met them or not.
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Reply to every single one of his texts "Please call me to arrange a booking."
He's a cheapskate who has booked you once and now things you owe him free services for the foreseeable future. You don't.
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He's only booked you once so what do you care if you lose him as a client? He's not regular business and I'm sure someone will fill his slot in no time.
I've had clients like this and asked them when they would like to book, if they have carried on after that I tell them straight I don't do sexting, and that I would appreciate them never contacting me again. These kind of clients will continue to take the piss until you tell them straight and only then do they realise they were acting like prats.
Since you've already tried the "When would you like to book" approach I would suggest completely ignoring him or telling him to kindly stop texting you unless he is going to make a solid booking. X
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Just reply something like: "Please just text me when you know when you'd next like to book." Ignore any flirts/hints/shite.
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Thanks for all the advice, I think I will just ignore for the foreseeable future!
Business is slow at the moment so I was hoping the flirting would entice him back but clearly he's just a freeloader.
All your straight to the point answers have really cleared my head, it can get a bit foggy sometimes when cash is tight! :FF
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Yes I'd be telling him I can't respond to any more texts, he's to only get in touch if he's definite. If he carries on I'd then advise him that you won't be responding.
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Quinn
You would be losing a loser, not a client. If that was me I would block immediately, I am a hard hearted but very fair wg who does not put up with idiots who pretend they will book or book again and don't make a firm decision and stick to it.
Any texting involving sex talk gets them an instant ban, whether I have met them or not.
+1
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You need to have boundaries with clients like this.He pays for your time and attention within a booking.If he isn't paying you then why give him attention?Every time he is texting and you are answering it is time away from your day and he is never likely going to book you as you are giving him free titilation even if it just banter.
I would just go down the 'Please call to arrange a booking' route if he sends any more pics I'd tell him straight that you don't like crude texts and as he hasn't actually booked anything then you won't be texting back anymore as you are busy with paying clients and then just block him.
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You need to have boundaries with clients like this.He pays for your time and attention within a booking.If he isn't paying you then why give him attention?Every time he is texting and you are answering it is time away from your day and he is never likely going to book you as you are giving him free titilation even if it just banter.
I would just go down the 'Please call to arrange a booking' route if he sends any more pics I'd tell him straight that you don't like crude texts and as he hasn't actually booked anything then you won't be texting back anymore as you are busy with paying clients and then just block him.
Tbf, I think by this point I know he's not going to make a booking anymore. He said he'd come see me today and I've heard nothing from him since yesterday morning. My plan now is to ignore him unless he makes a solid booking and even then I will treat with caution.
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I have a few regular clients who text me banter but i keep my messages short and sweet sometimes i ignore i never do the sex talk.. Sometimes i will just text busy sorry call me when u want to book. He has booked u once so hardly a regular i would say move on until he makes a proper booking and when he is in that booking tell him u don't want a text buddy lol. My profile says texts will be short and sweet and to the point for that reason exactly.
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That's way out of order and creepy, the whole intense eye bit(shudder). He is so pushing boundaries by texting whatever and whenever he feels. I presume you have a separate phone? This for me (not only for privacy) but gives the feeling of working hours etc, that I can turn it on or off. I have just blocked someone this week who I have seen twice in the past, for just dropping the "Hi babe, how are you" text. He has done this multiple times now and never can confirm a day or time, when I reply professionally and to the point asking if he wanted an appointment! A bit like this guy by the sounds of it!
I have the odd reg that texts telling me their golf score or they're having a nice time in Barcelona, how was your bank hols etc but they do go on to arrange a booking with me.
Just hate hate when someone doesn't take our profession seriously by thinking it's some drop a booty call or flirt for free service!
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That's way out of order and creepy, the whole intense eye bit(shudder). He is so pushing boundaries by texting whatever and whenever he feels. I presume you have a separate phone? This for me (not only for privacy) but gives the feeling of working hours etc, that I can turn it on or off. I have just blocked someone this week who I have seen twice in the past, for just dropping the "Hi babe, how are you" text. He has done this multiple times now and never can confirm a day or time, when I reply professionally and to the point asking if he wanted an appointment! A bit like this guy by the sounds of it!
I have the odd reg that texts telling me their golf score or they're having a nice time in Barcelona, how was your bank hols etc but they do go on to arrange a booking with me.
Just hate hate when someone doesn't take our profession seriously by thinking it's some drop a booty call or flirt for free service!
Yeah I have a second phone for work. Like I said in my post that pic particularly weirded me out as it was at like 8:30am so I was still in bed with my boyfriend. Not to mention that was the 5th text he'd sent that morning in the space of 5 mins after I ignored his texts from the night before. Very odd. Idk how to deal with it other than just ignore him no matter what now. I tried the business approach and his response was 'you're very business orientated aren't you' and it actually made me feel guilty a bit. It's got to a mad level now, I have to admit.
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'you're very business orientated aren't you' and it actually made me feel guilty a bit. It's got to a mad level now, I have to admit.
TRANSLATION: "open your leg wide for me for free, babe as I have no money for you to pay"
Are you fairly new? They do tend to target new girls/new ladies in the game, thinking she would be so naive.
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Well yes of course you are business orientated otherwise you would be on fabswingers or tinder?What the feck do these blokes think is going on?I wouldn't feel guilty at all.The odd time some idiot has made a comment like that to me I have just said 'Yep and you are clearly fuckbuddy orientated so get a profile on a dating app and good luck to you'.
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I wouldn't offer him the chance of another booking, hes been once and now thinks he can string you along like a donkey with a carrot on the promise of a future meeting.
He could text every hour till the middle of next week and he wouldn't get a response from me.
I am every hard hearted towards punters who've proved they're a waste of time especially those who think I'm here to play their silly games
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TRANSLATION: "open your leg wide for me for free, babe as I have no money for you to pay"
Are you fairly new? They do tend to target new girls/new ladies in the game, thinking she would be so naive.
Relatively new yeah, started in Feb, but with an Agency. Only saw this guy a couple of weeks after I started being independent. He was the model client when we met tbf and like I said we got on, and I'm a sucker for a nice guy (no pun intended ;D ) but maybe I'm too good natured and its a bit of a weakness haha.
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Sometimes a new client will go like this in the lead up to the booking which isn't fair on us especially if it is just a measly half hour the booking can quite easily take 90 minutes all in if we answer endless texts perhaps I should change my policy to speaking to them on the 'phone and not booking by email or text only although this does only happen occasionally so it isn't really worth it.
Spending 90 minutes of my time tryiing to earn ?70 really isn't a good way to spend our day.
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I don't mind taking a booking via text (depending on how it is worded)but I make it very clear I will not play text tennis or respond to crude or sexualised texts and when guys have over stepped this mark they get reminded of this.If they continue I block them.
They don't have any intention of booking they just want free attention.
Anything that does not say something like 'Hi Bibi,I would like to book a 30 min GFE on 16th June at 1pm' either gets ignored or they get referred to my adverts.
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Thanks for the replies, guys. Really appreciate it.
He messages me today actually telling me he wanted to be the best 'fuck you've ever had', I just replied with well for that to happen you'll have to actually book an appointment with me. Then I said I was busy and unable to talk so to just send a message if he wanted to arrange something and sure enough - silence ;D
He's now blocked on my phone and AW, I can't be arsed anymore.
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Reply to every single one of his texts "Please call me to arrange a booking."
He's a cheapskate who has booked you once and now things you owe him free services for the foreseeable future. You don't.
yep exactly ! i get alot of work from respondng to texts really alot but there simple eg if i know what they do for a living and I get a how are you , I respond with a ' great, but may need a winter/summer service' car dealers. or 'could do with a long arm' Police ( i see a few ) but they are boundaried , not rude but enough to get them thinking , sometimes I say " im great just got out of bath" really works with guys I know , but I never get involved in text rallies , hes to be blunt having a wank and prob showing his mates !
I never answer a crude text unless its to say thanks for that its the best way to assure you wont get a booking with me ta ta !
then i still keep number with 'shit text' or something similar next to it , because I have had them call and apologies ( sometimes they just dont know how it all work) the voice/manner of call is the most important thing for me :)