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Jessiegirl

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Client in love with me
« on: 16 October 2017, 04:25:06 pm »
Hi all,
I have a regular who has been recently dropping hints he is in love with me.
Wants to book but starting to feel a bit awkward as not sure if I should say anything or just hope it is just a phase as haven't seen him in a while.
Don't want to drop him as we get on great, sees me a lot and good in bed.
Maybe I'm partly to blame as I kind of give him preferential treatment although I haven't told him that.
Think I need to say something but not sure how to approach this.
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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #1 on: 16 October 2017, 04:35:48 pm »
I would keep my mouth shut and let him live his "little romance" in his head, maybe he just want's to feel "in love", let him enjoy it. As long as all remains a commercial transaction it's all fine. Where I would draw the line is if he starts texting you in between bookings or wanting to spend time with you for free. If this happens then I would sit, have a chat with him and (very politely) remind him what the deal is. Otherwise I would keep my mouth shut, he's a grown up man.
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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #2 on: 16 October 2017, 04:36:34 pm »
Don't see him for free and don't tell him or imply you have feelings for him. Aside from that he can be as in love with you as he likes provided you don't cross any professional boundaries. He knows what he's getting so you're not doing anything wrong.

Obviously, if you *do* have feelings for him, then it's a bit more complicated, but I'm assuming from your post that you don't. Basically as long as he has no reason to think you see him as more than a client then you're not leading him on, and if he's a normal, sane human he'll be understanding of your boundaries.

Oh, and definitely don't mention it. That will only result in either an awkward conversation which changes nothing, or an awkward conversation which ends in him not booking you anymore.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #3 on: 16 October 2017, 07:07:44 pm »
I've had this on the past and they usually say things like, I think I'm beginning to properly like you! They mean it sincerely but it's usually still unspoken and understood that I'm still just doing a job. If it started to get weird I'd have to bring them down gently and see if they still wanted to see me. If not I don't think it would be my loss as it may have caused trouble in the future.

Had an old school friend visit me who used to fancy me in the past and he tried to get my personal number. I am now permanently booked up so to speak as my life can only be so full of dramas :)
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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #4 on: 16 October 2017, 07:14:32 pm »
sometimes it is just in the beginning!
then fire going down!

I will take his booking but not to talk too much about love and other romantic things...just i would avoid! so do not over stimulating his fantasy and his romantic movie! nice but commercial!
it is nice to have clients that are romantic! i love it!...then should be not an obsession

i fall in love with all my regulars! really! i feel like boyfriends! specially one! i really love him!

to me it is a positive things if of course he has common sense and he is not a stalker kind of client.

So up to you and your gut to judge if it is something negative!

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #5 on: 16 October 2017, 07:18:49 pm »
are you able to use the 'I have a boyfriend' line, or mention casually you have a partner (not that I believe that's the only way for a client to respect your boundaries, but it's a thought...)

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #6 on: 16 October 2017, 10:18:29 pm »
I've had this happen and his expectations became ridiculous even though I never encouraged him.

I stopped seeing him in the end and told him why.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #7 on: 16 October 2017, 10:49:58 pm »
Thanks for all your replies. He knows I'm single as I open up too much to him.
Think I will keep stumble for now and see how it pans out.
Maybe I'm sending mixed signals.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #8 on: 16 October 2017, 11:20:53 pm »
I met this client some months back and the first time we met he pushed me down on the sofa and tried to sit on top of me. I was like what the fuck are you doing ?, he apologized and said he was trying to help me relax. Lol .. the cheek of him. I forgave him, i just think he was a bit retarded and lacked people skills.

But then it gets worse because the second time i met him, was at his place and he said his wife could return home any moment which made me feel uncomfortable to say the lease, and whilst i'm giving him a massage he told me that when he was a school boy he was accused of raping another boy in the school, i mean talk about mood killer.  It turns out that he was really gay but had pretended to be straight all his life and that him and his wife never have sex, i felt a bit sorry for him and as the money was good i kept on seeing him once a week for a while .. but then he starts texting me all the time asking if we can be together and if he could fuck me, I try to make it clear that im an erotic masseur but he doesn't give up.

on the final time i saw him he asked if he could massage me,  i agreed but when i was lying back relaxing the next thing i know is he's got his tongue on my dick, i was really fucked off at that point and considered punching him, but didn't want the hassle. Then today he sent me an email telling me not to advertise because i belong to him only. I had to put him straight in the end and he had the nerve to say i have been stringing him along.. I really had all i can take of this client so blocked his number now.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #9 on: 17 October 2017, 01:38:08 am »
I met this client some months back and the first time we met he pushed me down on the sofa and tried to sit on top of me. I was like what the fuck are you doing ?, he apologized and said he was trying to help me relax. Lol .. the cheek of him. I forgave him, i just think he was a bit retarded and lacked people skills.

But then it gets worse because the second time i met him, was at his place and he said his wife could return home any moment which made me feel uncomfortable to say the lease, and whilst i'm giving him a massage he told me that when he was a school boy he was accused of raping another boy in the school, i mean talk about mood killer.  It turns out that he was really gay but had pretended to be straight all his life and that him and his wife never have sex, i felt a bit sorry for him and as the money was good i kept on seeing him once a week for a while .. but then he starts texting me all the time asking if we can be together and if he could fuck me, I try to make it clear that im an erotic masseur but he doesn't give up.

on the final time i saw him he asked if he could massage me,  i agreed but when i was lying back relaxing the next thing i know is he's got his tongue on my dick, i was really fucked off at that point and considered punching him, but didn't want the hassle. Then today he sent me an email telling me not to advertise because i belong to him only. I had to put him straight in the end and he had the nerve to say i have been stringing him along.. I really had all i can take of this client so blocked his number now.


WOW  Thats seriously pushing the boundary

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #10 on: 17 October 2017, 07:39:33 am »
Sounds totally different to my scenario though. Mine is lovely and has never done anything disrespectful and even though I sometimes gag when doing deep throat always stops to see if I'm ok. A total sweetie.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #11 on: 17 October 2017, 10:35:57 am »
Sounds totally different to my scenario though. Mine is lovely and has never done anything disrespectful and even though I sometimes gag when doing deep throat always stops to see if I'm ok. A total sweetie.

There are hopefully nice! sometimes i think that it is too good to be true!
i am falling in love with a client more more older than me! he make me so happy! just crazy! xx

some they saying that they love you just to have some extra sex service for free... ahah to me words are not enough! genuine clients do not that and do not ask for more!

last time he bring me to the museum and for a lunch, i stay more because i really enjoyed my self! but was not sex service for free..
sometimes me too i need company and romance! xx

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #12 on: 17 October 2017, 03:34:40 pm »
Mine is almost twice my age although he looks younger. He has never married which really surprised me. He said it's never appealed to him.
Sex is always involved but wouldn't have it any other way.
Clients only see us looking sexy and happy but not when we have no make up and feeling miserable.
One time I didn't have time to put on my usual naughty lingerie so when he turned up I was just wearing my normal clothes with bra and knickers underneath. He actually preferred this and said I looked great in my normal clothes although he couldn't wait to get them off.

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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #13 on: 02 November 2017, 05:21:21 am »
My client I've know for quite awhile, I think at the beginning due to starting young I was quite vulnerable so he obviously prayed on that. It's been 3 years with him he's majorly out of my age gap, you could even say he's my granddad when we're out.  Hes been controlling me for ages I really want to get out of it. He fixed my laptop recently and I think he's put a virus or something  on it  so I cant  make a new adult work profile. I got rid of my last one as he was consistently stalking it. He's profession is in computers so he's well educated in doing so and not making it noticeable.
He stalks my house all the time I feel like a prisoner. We live quite close to each other which doesn't help. He's seen some of my escort friends and told them all kinds about me.. God I can go on and on... how do you go about something like this ?  I really need his business but don't want this treatment,do you think it's still possible to do so? Sometimes I think I stay with him because I feel sorry for him. He has done quite abit for me in the past but I think know he's turned on me because he wants control and wants me for himself.
Sorry for the paragraph girls.
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Re: Client in love with me
« Reply #14 on: 02 November 2017, 08:30:07 am »
I'm in the same situation but iv'e just had to drop the client he was not good for my mental health,just work twice as hard to make up for losing business with him,or only see him if you really have to,he sounds like a total creep and in the end your safety is more important than the money.