Hi all just wanted some advice as i feel a bit down. Have met this client once before on an outcall has mailed a lot since but no bookings. I dont do incall so was asked if would visit him. I agreed and he says he will come and pick me  up in his car at the local station but i drive or sometimes use a driver and its a 70mile trip so i said i wouldnt need a lift as i would either be driving or getting a lift and he totally freaks out saying this is "unacceptable" to him and has" totally put him off"  i explain i never even park anywhere near the house or even road (so they cant get my reg etc and to be discreet with the neighbours etc) but he says it was nice knowing you but unacceptable ? I can half understand the neighbours arguement but wondered what others thought ?

Having a client want to pick you up at the station or other "nearby" place is a HUGE warning sign. In fact, browse through the Warnings section of this forum to read some seriously unpleasant tales of what can happen once a client's got you in his car and taken you somewhere that you're completely unfamiliar with.

Don't feel down about missing out on this odd client! Even though you'd met him once, that does NOT stop him from turning into the timewaster (or worse) from hell. Any decent client would be happy to know that you have security in the form of a driver and/or security buddy so if they freak out and try to disappear when they know you won't be alone (and vulnerable), that's not a good sign, is it?

I'm sorry he's wasted so much of your time with all the emails and whatnot but he sounds well dodgy so you're definitely well rid. If he really wanted to see you but was worried about his neighbours, I'm sure there are decent budget hotels in the area that would provide somewhere private, no problem. Or he could wait til you scheduled your next hotel incall day, if you do those. His insistence that you visit him, at home, alone, is all sorts of weird. I know there are guys out there who don't give a damn about our safety as long as they get the precise sort of punt that they want, but I try to avoid them like the plague.

There does seem to be a perpetual full moon lately (since July? ) with tons and tons of men acting strangely or annoyingly or worse, but it's always best to lie low and avoid anyone who sounds remotely dodgy rather than risking life and limb taking every booking request that comes in. I'm sure this time will pass and you'll hear from someone lovely soon who completely takes your mind off the idiots.

Sounds like a control freak in the worst way, he wants to decide when you leave, or like Emily said, even clients that you've seen before can still turn into time wasters.
It's perfectly reasonable you should want to arrange your own transport, and really odd that he's reacted by having a  mini strop.

What everyone else said and never let the fact that you have already met him before lead you into any false sense of security (  not that it was ) as I find these are often the worst offenders - a perfect booking the first time and then a complete and utter tw*t ever after.
Also worth noting that many guys choose independants so they have as much control as possible over the situation and try get you drunk so you will stay the night - at best - ( at worst? who knows? )

That is freaky and very scary. DO NOT be tempted to back down and go. 70 mile round trip...eeek! To be with a control freak who doesn't care about your safety?
Don't feel down about it! Feel proud (and relieved) that you've said NO!

Why the hell is that 'unacceptable' ?  Why could that 'put him off' Unless he had something very sinister planned.

Stay well away....delete/block and yes maybe something in the warning section would be good too. Your post sent a shiver down my spine.