Last few weeks I have had a client who has booked me three or four times a week. He is a nice guy, late 60s, retired and as far as I can see not wealthy, has a tiny house, some land, a few out buildings. The house inside is shabby, most of the furniture looks as if it 50 years old. He drives a ten year old Honda and has a vintage 60s car in a garage.

I am starting g to wonder were he is getting the money from, do any of you worry were the guys you see get their money from?

How often do you see your most regular clients?

Never judge a book by its cover, he is probably minted  , I do get what you say though and there was once a session where the client paid me in pounds and 50 pence pieces, I felt a bit bad for him to be honest, because he doesn't earn a lot, I think he has a bit of an addiction to the adult industry.

A strong possibility why older guys have so much spare cash is that their parents have passed away and left them properties and money. One man (not old at all, around 50) told me his mother had died and he had no siblings so when he sold her house he was set up for the rest of his life as his salary from work was good but while he could give up work if he chose he was in a profession he loved and with a huge pension pay out so was continuing. His inheritance provided all he wished for in holidays and treats and as he had no children of his own he was determined to enjoy all that money!

Some people would get no pleasure from shiny new things, fancy cars and big houses to rattle around in. They get pleasure from sex, affection and companionship which is what you are providing.

I read an article a couple of years ago about the habits of very wealthy people. A lot of them said that their object was to live BELOW their means and not buy expensive cars, toys, houses, jewellery etc that they simply did not need. That's how the rich stay rich - they don't waste their money on crap.

This client may well have millions in the bank, but be looking forward to leaving it to his kids rather than splashing cash on himself.

I would not concern myself about a client unless I had reason to think he was relying on payday loans, or that he lacked capacity.

I grew up in the country and was a home healthcare assistant back in my late teens. There were a few family names known locally for being multimillionaires, and lots of them very very old and housebound needing homecare visits. I was thinking ooh I bet their houses are amazing..but inside they were shabby and in desperate need of improvement. They had the means to do buy whatever they wanted, but as others have said often it's the richest ones who don't spend money on things like this. Also, think of the amount of clients who we see who we are pretty sure that they've got plenty of spare cash who have the most revolting teeth  always baffles me why people have manky mouths; it's not as if a toothbrush is a class or affordability thing! Ahh and then we get the flash gits who want us to coo over how rich they are - the ones who pull out a wad of notes way above your fee so they can make a point of counting out your measly sum and shove ten times that back in their wallet.

Sometimes I think it is a feature of the older generation that they don't flash their cash especially if they grew up in hardship so they hold on to it in their later years rather than spend on frivolities or lifestyles.

My grandparents are very VERY wealthy (in the millions), yet you would never ever know from meeting them. They've driven the same car from when I was tiny, their house is in desperate need of TLC, they don't buy anything they don't need, shop in charity shops, don't throw any food away etc etc.

To be fair, I'm the same. I earn a fortune but you'd never be able to tell and I like to keep it that way.
In my eyes, nothing worse than being flashy.

"Don't judge a book by its cover"

My clients finances would never enter my trail of thought to be honest. As long as they pay my fee, I'm a happy girl.