I did get a little carried away writing this , it was supposed to be just a short question ... Sorry
I know it's hard to predict but like , there is no one else I can talk to about this who will understand all the factors involved. I worry that one day my luck will run out or I will be stalked or followed and maybe killed. Im pretty good at judging clients over the phone I believe , so I lose a lot of creeps and time wasters that way. After the first incident I save their number as something so I kno and then never answer again. Sometimes they call from different numbers so I do the same thing. And some of them KEEEP calling. What do you think are the chances one of them will get mad at me for ignoring them or something and hunt me? I just want to know how likely these things are based on experience so i am more mentally prepared, though I think I would just tell someone nicely to please leave before arguing with them about anything. Only one guy raised his voice at
Me and I politely said you can leave now then and handed him is money (if they're mad I wanna calm them down and getting money back is good) and then calmly walked over to the door and opened it wide open and silently waiting there and he got intimidated by the and the door and got out quicker and calmed down. Also , i only do incalls because they are most safe but I'm so suspicious around people , especially in public! now thinking someone is gonna try to follow me or take me or find out my real name or something. Mostly I just don't wanna be hurt physically, hitting, rape, or be threatened in a room by someone who looks like they're about to hit me
I'm a verrrryyy petite and young looking girl and come off as very comfortable and confident around them so a lot of them just assume I have some big bad pimp close by. When they ask if I'm independent or if I have a pimp I said "I don't answer that question" looking into their eyes with my sweet little smile
Have any of you independent escorts been hurt doing an incall ? What could have been done to prevent it? Any tips would be appreciated. How likely would you say it is for me to get hurt? I look young, some people (a lot) say I look 15 and have a very small cute voice and I'm 4'11 and 98 pounds. People may find that easy To overpower or take advantage of cause it kinda is. But I do have a pretty but very VERY intense stare (I'm a scorpio) that people tend to like but also feel significantly uncomfortable in it or intimidated in some way. So I think I come off as strong and having will power and a brain and like I would have security and maybe like they'd be crazy, but still I don't have security and someone may CATCh onto this and try to take advantage. Idk now I'm just going through every possibility so I'll stop how. Do you think it's likely that I'll work for 20+ years and have nothing happen to me ? What kind of things might happen?


I know I sound paranoid and I know it's part of the job, but I just want some input from people who actually understand so I can be more at peace of mind. I love the job and Ive been broken into it so now I wanna get out my maybe fairy tale land (I say maybe because I don't know if that's true or not) where in call escorts with real pictures who deliver as promised and are very sweet to clients don't get hurt in motels and where people are scared of their pimp even tho I don't answer the question and eventually they might catch on that I show up and leave my by myself. (I don't say that but something like , "when I got here this morning I sang cuz I love singing alone" and then it's like ohhh... So she's alone ....)  Any advice would be appreciated

The thing is do not live in fear as any thing could happen in life. Enjoy every day life escorting. Personally if I was in that frame of mind escorting drove me this way of thinking. It isn't worth it as being happy is the most important.

Zoey,

Don't live life in fear of what could happen, if you do that you will make yourself depressed. I have been escorting since I was 19, I am 28 now, I have never had any real problems, certainly nothing like you've mentioned, never been raped or robbed, stalked or "outted".
There's a few things I do to keep myself safe, and a few thing I say.

I wear a ring on my wedding finger, to them I obviously have a partner, where is he? they don't need to know.
My front room/living room, is my private area, I don't let clients in there. I keep the TV on so to them, there could be someone watching telly in there.
When asked are we alone I always say "no, but you wont see anyone else as long as your intentions are hot and kinky" something stupid like that.

I haven't put them up yet, as I have just moved but I have CCTV on the front door and a sticker in the window so if anyone wants to cause trouble they know they will be on camera so they will just do a runner.

My advise to you is, relax, I know what a Scorpio is like, one of my friends is one and she is one tough cookie, I call her the muscly wife! You have a lot of inner strength you just need to find that power inside you, be confident, keep your head held high and your eyes on theres, never let them do anything you are un-happy with never let them take advantage.

Also, maybe find a self defence class that will make you feel more confident about being able to handle a situation. I done one a few years ago and it really helped me in such a huge way. I am going on another one in 2 weeks as its been a few years since I did the last one, if give you the confidence you need to protect yourself.

People aren't all bad, I expect all of your customers will be lovely, but it doesn't hurt to prepare yourself incase one isn't.

I have found the instructions on a well known video clip website very useful when it comes to defending yourself, for example there are instructions on how to make your own self defence spray. In all the time I have been doing this (over 3 years) I've only needed it once but it certainly did the job. Mostly though I just like the feeling of security knowing it's within easy reach.
Obviously the best way to stay safe is to trust your gut instincts and never meet anyone that sets off your "spider senses" however it's never a bad idea to have back up.
Try to relax, after all people come to see us with love not war in mind for the most part.
Maybe a buddy to check in with might be helpful and make you feel more secure, also a check in text in front of the client let's them know you're not alone.
Xx
Ps please feel free to pm me if you would like me to direct you towards the video clips.

I only ever take incalls and always once they are inside say that I have to send my security text and I do it in front of them and I also just mention to them that I also send a text the minute they leave just so they know that someone is waiting to hear from me.
I have never (touch wood) had any issues, even when I ended a booking and told him to leave there were no issues. I'm a dominatrix and have a very strict not allowed to touch me rule. Someone did not once but twice after I'd warned him so he was out the door, it's my home so it's my way or no way.

I actually called my local police and asked exactly what my rights are in this situation. They were extremely  helpful.

Basically, I can hit them over the head with a bedside ornament but I can't keep something heavy under the bed to hit people with. This is pretty much impractical - they're likely to just take it off me and hit me with it.

If I can get out of the room, I have the choice to run stark naked into the hall screaming for help, running into the bathroom and locking the door, or running into my kitchen/living room. That may be the room where the knives are kept, but if I grab a knife and use it, they're going to want to know why I didn't run to the hall or bathroom. Perhaps he dragged me into the kitchen and I grabbed it off the cutting board... but really, I'm expected to run to safety, not stand my ground and fight. Also, again there's the possibility that he is just going to take the knife off me and use it.

Frankly, we're not really empowered to defend ourselves beyond using martial arts or bedside lamps. And we're not even allowed to share a flat, although that is tolerated in most areas.

I have a theory that if believe badness will happen regardless what it is. Then wonder why an earth this is happening. The best thing to do is try not to worry about circumstances that are not happening at present. You know that saying be carful for what is wished for.

I'm wondering if having a spray bottle of chili water would still be illegal? Something that would cause enough discomfort and surprise to allow you to get away but won't do any real damage

Yes it would, assuming it was intended only to spray at somebody else in order to cause them discomfort (and I can't think of any plausible excuse to have one just lying around). Home made sprays are covered under the Act - somebody not on a phone may be able to find a quote for it, or doing a search for Firearms Act ought to pop up one of the previous occasions where it's been discussed.

You can't shoot anyone with an unloaded gun either, but it's still illegal to point one at them. It's the premeditated aspect that's the issue, not the degree of damage you can do. Plus the above made points about weapons being turned on you still apply - it's plausible to have a can on hairspray or anti-perspirant in a bedroom, but I wouldn't want to be sprayed at/hit with one.