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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: x-lola on 02 January 2013, 02:50:15 pm
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hiya,
hope someone can help settle my mind, I dont offer a full service, and have been really slow at the mo, but am getting a lot of requests for car meets.
I really want to except the booking, I only do out calls, and they are few and far between, how would I go about doing safety checks, I would drive to the car me, so how would I avoid the client seeing my car reg??? and also, where would we go?
sorry, if these are really dumb Qs but have been ummmming and aaaarrring for months now.
could any girls that do or have done car meets, run me through the procedures
thanks xxxx
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hiya,
hope someone can help settle my mind, I dont offer a full service, and have been really slow at the mo, but am getting a lot of requests for car meets.
I really want to except the booking, I only do out calls, and they are few and far between, how would I go about doing safety checks, I would drive to the car me, so how would I avoid the client seeing my car reg??? and also, where would we go?
sorry, if these are really dumb Qs but have been ummmming and aaaarrring for months now.
could any girls that do or have done car meets, run me through the procedures
thanks xxxx
Expect loads of time wasters, it's about the crowd car meet fun attracts. Not the service. I never do these for safety purposes. If the guy takes advantage, then lets hope you are near help. Not in an open space countryside. A few rape and physical attacks have happened to escorts, who reported to ugly mugs this way. Good luck.
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thanks for the reply, I have read loads of bad stories, I have one guy that wants a booking, he just wants HJ in his car. I have cammed for him loads, but just have a nagging in the back of my mind. xx
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thanks for the reply, I have read loads of bad stories, I have one guy that wants a booking, he just wants HJ in his car. I have cammed for him loads, but just have a nagging in the back of my mind. xx
Just be careful as you will learn that clients can turn evil suddenly especially in an isolated location. Giving them an advantage. It's about not giving clients the opportunity to take the piss.
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Thank, I think I might just stick to what i know. Xxx
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The thing with car meets is there is so many what ifs, also handing over the money before anything takes place can bring problems if the client decides to not pay. You are out in the open if things turn nasty but you aren't always safe because then you are likely to be seen if the client kicks up a stink. If something niggles you about a client don't do the job. Camming with someone and meeting them is a whole new ball game.
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Thanks jan10 I've met a few that I have cammed for in the past, bit hotel bookings when they are passing though my way, nearly all of the requests to meet from cam are tw, I don't think this one is though, its just fear of the unknown. Xxxx but thansk for taking the time to reply. I'm really tempted though, I have never been this skint befoee :( xxx
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Hi Lola
things are tight for everyone at this time of year but if you're really facing a crunch then I'd recommend trying to find ways to increase your camming income. Being under pressure makes people take risks they might not otherwise take. It's hard to think straight when you're absolutely skint so this probably isn't a good time to be looking at offering a new and potentially risky service.
Stick to what you know. If you search for 'camming' here on the site you'll find lots of girls have shared tips about what works for them so have a read and see what you can find. Getting new camming Clients, or more money from existing ones, will be easier and safer than looking at a whole new service. Once you've backed away from the breadline a little you can then think clearer about whether you really want to change what you offer.
We've all been there, so good luck babe!
R xx
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Ahhh thanks rooby.
It's a rubbish time of year for cammin, but i think I will put the effort in with it. Just need to clear some of the montain of bills I seem to have aquired xxxxxx
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PL its the same the world over unfortunately and turning to car meets with all its obvious dangers you are not going solve all your problems anyway so why put your life in danger.
Takings will probably be thin on the ground until March so best to make the most of what we can and try and improve our tactics of earnings.
The "old timers" will tell you that it is much harder to earn now due to the saturation of unemployed girls who think escorting is an easy way to earn money. This is true as our takings a few years ago were four fold at least. There is also the females who only work at christmas to be able to buy "little jonny's" christmas. They will get fed up soon when things go quieter and things will start picking up again in March, usually before that it is just getting by that is important.
Many girls have had to find a "normal" job to go along with their escorting as business has gotten that slow for some. That is just what is happening around us and we have to live with it and suck it up.
Times are hard for the world and we just got to get on with living.
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I have a "normal" job as well. But self employed so takings are slim there too...
I have been cammin about 4years Probs longer, phone lines for yonks before that, and then offering the ocasional meet for the last couple of years. Just hope it picks up for everyone soon.
(oh and sorry for the spellin and grammar, I'm on my phone) xx
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Honest don't risk it - its while your desperate for money that you will fuck up and make mistakes and people can often smell that desperation and prey on it
car meets i would imagine are dodgy at the best of time and when your desperate for money its even worse as it clouds your normally sound judgment on what good / bad
with regards to debts if its credit cards, loans ect i would get over to the Martin Lewis money saving forums they are experts on helping people with debts and have loads of good ideas on how to deal with credit card companies ect who are giving grief to people with regards to theire debts
You might be able to freeze the interest or work out smaller payments often with debts its those companies that shout the loudest get paid but they might in theory should be the last ones to get paid ( ifyswim)
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Thanks Paris, luckily I'm not in debt yet, I'm just about getting by, I have had to really tighten my belt though. Xx back to the cams it is. Xxx
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Hi Lola, just tighten that belt one more notch sweety you do not need to take unnecessary risks with car meets.
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I can't really add to what has already been said already other than to say if this guy really wants to meet you then let him book a hotel or alternatively you could see if you can find a hotel with good rates and maybe see if you can get a few bookings in? Just a thought.
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Maybe try to meet at dogging sites so you would only be in his car for the actual deed, and could have a friend nearby without them spooking the client. Obviously this would only make it a little less dangerous.
There are lots of little obvious things like what to wear and check doors and always try to keep an eye on the guy ect.
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With modern technology in cars as well as everywhere else there is central locking so checking doors is no use at all. Guys can be armed with anything (even in hotels I know but a little less insecure) and if they pulled a knife you would not stand a chance.
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Thanks jan10 I've met a few that I have cammed for in the past, bit hotel bookings when they are passing though my way, nearly all of the requests to meet from cam are tw, I don't think this one is though, its just fear of the unknown. Xxxx but thansk for taking the time to reply. I'm really tempted though, I have never been this skint befoee :( xxx
Just a little tip princess, I would never do a booking because I was skint that is when you tend to ignore the warning signs and try to see the client as genuine even though there are warning signs. I'd rather be skint than jump out of the frying pan and straight into the fire. Just listen to the alarm bells.
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Ahhh thanks ladies. Thats why I love this site. I'm.usually just a lurker using the search button, I have thought about booking a hotel for the night. xxx
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see if you can book a cheap hotel like ibis ( check that its not keycarded ect and just work offering in calls
Im not sure if you can do this or not on aw but can you not put on your camming strap line now offering in calls on xxx day
and then put it on your profile as well ect
I know on the odd occasion that i have cammed the first question i always seem to get asked is do you escort /offer in calls
so if your camming anyway make the most of it its free advertising ( if aw let you do it of course )
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If you do book a hotel take your webcam with you as well, that way if you don't get any other bookings you can still work ;)
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You would be better off finding a flatshare or serviced appartment to work from if things are tough , car meets are not worth the hassle.
Ive never done them never would . The car meet crowd are the dogging crowd and the kerb -crawling street girl clients crowd. Make your own conclusions as the sort of men you will be dealing with .
From a saftey point of view this is madness
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Just a little tip princess, I would never do a booking because I was skint that is when you tend to ignore the warning signs and try to see the client as genuine even though there are warning signs. I'd rather be skint than jump out of the frying pan and straight into the fire. Just listen to the alarm bells.
+1 I wouldnt do X "cos i was skint " now ....But........Ive have made that mistake , quite recentley too ... I let a guy come for subsequent visits because " i was skint" and he is such an awful , arrogant , selfish , boundry pushing prick that he made me feel horrid. ALso he has major erection probs , is very hard work mentally n physically , he plays a guilt trip on you ( erection probs) and wants to stay for anything between 60 and 90mins Also he wanted to come for ?30 for 30mins because "he is regular now and is very poor " >:(. Im glad he said that TBH as its given me the final push/excuse to tell him to seek services elsewhere. I could go on n on about this guy but wont here and now ( maybe in another thread)
Its not worth your sanity to see people /risk your saftey because your skint.
Best thing is to sort out incall base ASAP . Many guys are tightening there punting purse strings and they wont fork out more ??? for hotels /higher incall rates. We have the global downturn and over saturation of the marketplace to thank for that
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look into serviced appartments too .....cheaper than some nicer hotels if you book online in advance and most are 5* set-ups.
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Maybe try to meet at dogging sites so you would only be in his car for the actual deed, and could have a friend nearby without them spooking the client. Obviously this would only make it a little less dangerous.
There are lots of little obvious things like what to wear and check doors and always try to keep an eye on the guy ect.
A dogging site is the last place id want to go . It would only give the client ideas about gangbangs , bukkae and the rest , which could put you under more pressure to be talked into things your not happy with . If your into that kind of thing fine , there are some on AW who do a lot of dogging meets but they have the advantage of having their husband/partner with them in the car.
Take it from me that the car meet crowd are not the ideal clients at all. As said before a lot of them meet with street girls , go to dogging gangbangs where everything is bareback ect. id be worried where these car men have "been" . Same could be said of any client , but the majority I know stick to the indoors indi/parlour scene which carrys less risk
Sorry if this is offensive to anyone , and i know that been a dogger or a street girl dosent always equal "unsafe" but IMO car meets is leaving yourself wide open to all sorts of nasty situations
I know of a girl who used to do them and she wouldnt do them again as she had more than a few very scary exps and guys were always trying to take her to these outdoor dogging/gangbang things.
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Maybe try to meet at dogging sites so you would only be in his car for the actual deed, and could have a friend nearby without them spooking the client. Obviously this would only make it a little less dangerous.
Remember that, if you go with a client to a dogging area, there will be lots of other men
that will come up to the car and start wanking/gesturing you to wind the window down
for a wank or blowee (for free)
Dogging also has the risk of robbery and or violence. Not by the doggers, but by gangs who go there
with evil intent. This is a fact.
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Now in dogging-land if you are female you'll get lots of men come up to your car at the same time.
it's part of the scene, as are their expectant willies hanging out! ;D
But the body language of these guy said violence. I started my car and rapidly left the car park. The entrance wasn't blocked. Onto a major duel carriageway, followed at speed by three cars
all with 3 to 4 people in each. Trying to force me off the road and corral me towards a side road
which adjoins the dual carriageway. I know this area for a long time and that leads to dark country lanes,
and probably a rather nasty end to the evening...
Anyway, keeping on the main road, they all pulled off at the next junction.
I've never talked about this stuff before.
So now you know there are substantial physical risks
as well as legal risks of sex in a public place for Coin.
Your call and as always YMMV...
Scary stuff indeed ....
Glad you got out in 1 piece unharmed :).
Ive heard about this happening a lot Up North too.....bloody chavs n cars full of young lads causing havoc at dogging sites. They are also known to drive round the red light areas giving street girls abuse and hassle too. The same charecters think sex workers and their clients make easy targets , some guys were getting mugged by hoodies/chavs when coming out of a certain parlour . many a time myself and others get phone calls from someone who sounds "gangsta" asking if we have been busy and wjhats the latest booking we have today ?
obviously hoping ill accept the booking and will be alone in a house full of cash
They get told to "jog on"
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Sorry to hear your story Jodie! Terrifying! Dogging isn't what it used to be due to these stories, the internet has destroyed it as it's much easier for people to find the spots and cause havoc! My partner was dogging when it was all the fashion with people rolling up in their big flash sports cars with ladies in evening frocks and gents in DJs! Those were the days apparently! LMAO!
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So glad I decided to ask for advice her. I was so close to exceptin the booking :-\
I'm going to look in to hotels or appartments I think xxx
Thanks for all offerin your opinions. It's so difficult to get good advice when no one actually knows how I earn the majority or my income xxxx thanks again xxxx
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I met a guy about a month ago, he had a funny story about car meets
He met an escort for a 15min car meet! She said he knew a field they could go to for this! So he picked her up, went to said field, had 15mins of fun! Then when he went to drive out he was stuck in the mud! I think the escorted ended up walking home by herself and it took about 1 hour to unstick himself! When he told me this I lolled
I maybe would consider car meets but this has put me off
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hiya,
hope someone can help settle my mind, I dont offer a full service, and have been really slow at the mo, but am getting a lot of requests for car meets.
I really want to except the booking, I only do out calls, and they are few and far between, how would I go about doing safety checks, I would drive to the car me, so how would I avoid the client seeing my car reg??? and also, where would we go?
sorry, if these are really dumb Qs but have been ummmming and aaaarrring for months now.
could any girls that do or have done car meets, run me through the procedures
thanks xxxx
I use the do alot of car meets and let me tell you is danger and you can be in a situation the punter will not pay for the session.
This happen to my friend she went to a car meet and client ask her for bareback so she told him no and walk out of the car he called her telling she forgoted something and by her mistake she went back and he grabed her by the arm and went with the car she crashed in the floor and had really damaged in her legs sence that day that happen to her i did not done a single car meet
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My first few clients have asked for car meets. Is this safe and should I agree?
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No, and no.
Emma, where did these clients find you? Your other posts suggest that you hadn't got started yet?
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I posted an ad online- saying I was new to this and open to offers, so far I've received emails from three potential clients- two wanting to meet in a car. But I'm guessing if they can't afford a hotel, how do they expect to pay?
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I posted an ad online- saying I was new to this and open to offers, so far I've received emails from three potential clients- two wanting to meet in a car. But I'm guessing if they can't afford a hotel, how do they expect to pay?
It's not that they don't want to pay (although you can bet that many will try not to!) it's because you are new and are playing on the fact that you are green. You will get all sorts of weirdos and boundary pushers if you don't remove the bit about you being new.
They want car meets because they get off on it, and you could find yourself in the unlucky position of being pushed out of the car in the middle of nowhere while he drives off, leaving you penniless and lost. You might even be one of the really unlucky ones where you're raped, robbed, attacked or worse.
Please remove the "I'm new" text and set your rates to what you think you're worth - in other words, don't ask for offers!
Good luck :)
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There's another thread here (http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=12854) discussing the same topic - if you type whatever it is you're looking for information about into the Search box on the top right then there's a good chance it's been discussed before.
As Cat said, advertising that you're new is probably the worst idea possible, and you need to dump it :).
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I've been asked twice for meets outdoors by 'new' clients this week and I'm hardly new. I've found it is something some newbies naiively ask, some say they are too nervous and frightened of coming to a unknown incall place, and can't book outcall either for financial, or privacy reasons.
Well there's going to be no worries about privacy when the local plod spot you shagging in your car with the local hooker is there?
It's not safe, discrete and I know from previous experience that shagging in cars is awkward - it's one thing having a laugh with your partner, another meeting someone in a layby and I'd be concerned that legally it's not much different to kerb crawling/soliciting which are both illegal.
One of the guys who asked me for this this week, had already been pointed in the direction of my website after explaining I'm quite happy to see nervous newbies, but that I often end up not seeing many because they are simply not prepared to read, listen and trust.
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The attitude of the police will depend on where you are - there's an Association of Chief Police Officers policy on public sex environments which not everyone follows but which basically says 'if they're adults and not frightening the horses somewhere reasonable, leave them to it'.
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My first few clients have asked for car meets. Is this safe and should I agree?
It's very dangerous, all it takes is a nutter to lock you inside his car having his wicked way taking his money back kicking you out. Why give them that opportunity. You advertising as a newbie at this attracts many predators taking advantage using their head.
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Ive too had a few car meet requests over the past few days. I wouldnt even contemplate it. X
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I've done outdoor meetings with client that I knew. It was so much fun, otherwise I agree with other girls. Do not advertise yourself as new people are clearly going to take advantages on you. Good luck though! X
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I posted an ad online- saying I was new to this and open to offers, so far I've received emails from three potential clients- two wanting to meet in a car. But I'm guessing if they can't afford a hotel, how do they expect to pay?
I go by the saying you can't afford it you can't have it.
My guess is they can afford a hotel they just don't want to.
I would strongly advise you NOT to do car meets far too unsafe I think xxxx
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Wouldn't car meets cost the same as an out call? That's what they are.
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Wouldn't car meets cost the same as an out call? That's what they are.
Not if client would also need to book a room.
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Wouldn't car meets cost the same as an out call? That's what they are.
I have no idea I haven't seen a profile on AW with someone offering car meets
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are they ever a good idea? yay or nay?
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Car meets in public is a no go. Many awful mishaps happen hence ugly mugs. This is a warning in it's self. I wouldn't risk it. The only cars I get in to are taxi's or personal loves. Many bad news happen to street girls. You get in the Car lets hope he doesn't kidnap you or beat up or even worse. Don't let badness happen before making a wise choice. We need to protect ourselves. Don't give them the opportunity. It is all about prevention for our safety. In calls are much safer in my opinion. Why.... It attracts a different crowd just how cheap prices do Stay safe..
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I've never liked the idea of car meets, theirs something idk ... seedy about it? but i've heard of girls i would just never even think of doing car meets and who really dont have the need to do them, but was just hoping to hear other peoples experiences. never realized their was another thread (i'm so lazy aha) and only just realised it got merged and had all these peoples views etc already written :) xo
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I never offer car meets, even with regular clients. I get a lot of calls for them even though I put on my website that I don't do them!
I've just had a client asking if i do incalls in a hotel. I replied yes. He said i don't trust hotels. Then suggests car meet! I respond i don't trust car meets, he then suggests meeting outside my hotel and then going for a car meet!
No way he's been added to my doggy client banned list.
Anyway just a question. Why do men want car meets when they can have an incall at a comfortable hotel? Is it the excitement of having sex in the car or maybe something more sinister. A car meet they have more control and can attack a girl/ rob a girl?
Your thoughts?
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I think for some its the excitement of it. A lot of men like the risk aspect of it, what if they get caught. Also almost all men I know who are in love with their car want to fuck in it in some form or another.
However for me the risk is too high to even entertain this idea. To me it would be on par with meeting someone in the park or an alleyway except worse cos they can lock you in a drive away.
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I think many clients have their own version and opinions on what is safe, what is discrete.
I've had two potential clients say that they'd be recognised coming to an incall place, or booking a hotel room, so meeting in cars in a layby would be more discrete, and less likely to be spotted by the press::)
In my opinion it's not safe, plus you have nothing to tie the person to that spot - with a normal outcall you have proof of residency, and often have spoken to them at a landline registered at, or belonging to the address (or hotel) to be visited. A man could send you to any location, and he be sat at the other end of the country, or even worse start playing cat and mouse, or have his mates drive up. Too many things to go wrong PLUS there is an offence of having sex in a public place AND I'd not like to take a chance that the police couldn't make a soliciting offence out of it - after all you are more or less operating on the street, when attending a car meet.
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Beyond a bit of passionate necking, I don't enjoy anything sexual in cars with guys I like/date recreationally. Why on Earth would I want to do it with a punter?!
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You never know what someone's intentions wherever you meet them especially in our work but to me the worrying thing is that after you said no to the car meet as it isn't something that you do is that he still tried to push it that to me is red flag as he obviously doesn't take no for an answer! you did the right thing I would have done exactly the same.
I don't understand men who want car meets maybe it's the thrill of being caught that's a turn on to some men but personally I couldn't imagine a more embarrassing situation then the police knocking at the window! But I've too many horror stories about car meet to take that sort of risk.
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I feel safer knowing that someone is aware of my location, meeting in a car just sounds far too risky.
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I think of car meets (apart from the dangers of them) are requested by guys who are cheapskates, cos they can get them for ?15-?20.
For the ladies its just far too too dangerous from a dozen different angles. We would be as well walking the streets looking for clients if we lowered ourselves to accepting them.
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I've only ever done 2 car meets, both with a regular client and I charged him extra both times.
I wouldn't do it with a new client, way to many things could go wrong.
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I've enjoyed fooling around in a car with a partner - its got a certain sleazy, dirty appeal to it when you have been driving around a scenic route. But thats someone I know and trust... granted the idea of having the old bill knocking on my window would kill my mood. I have a slight thing about the possibility of getting caught I suppose.
I have no idea why a client would enjoy it for the same reasons - there's no trust. Maybe it is the whole thrill of possibly getting caught, maybe its just because its stereotypically cheaper than an incall, or maybe it is because its easier to attack/rob a WG. There are worse things I could think of than being stuck in a layby in a strange car with a man I barely know, but it rates pretty highly up there for me.
I used to work nights in an office next to the red light district in my city. When I'd go out on my break, I'd sometimes see the street workers going up/getting into guys cars (I've got a good memory for faces and you would recognise the same girls after a while). Used to always worry for their safety, even then.
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Yes I think it is far more risks compared to an incall. God bless them but most of the UM reports are car meet related highlighting the danger. The client will have total control then kick you out after his robbed you if he doesn't get his own way in the middle of nowhere. I like to be in control to a certain extent incalls give also a lot safer. Some clients request car meets but decline as need to jump in the shower straight away.
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Who's to say at when you get to the location that its only you and your client. It could be but it could also be half a dozens guys
I'm sure someone wrote recently about a car meet gone wrong
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I had no intention of going through with any car meets. They are far too risky, especially when I have a nice hotel room.
It's interesting to read peoples thoughts and opinions.
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I do car meets, and I've never had much trouble. Usually, it's because the guy doesn't want to pay for a motel when he's already paying for me, from what I gathered. Or they don't want me to know where they live because they think I'll tell their wives what they're up to. They might find it exciting too, I dunno.
I take precautions ? I never do a meet in an isolated area, and I never let them drive me away from my car.
I like car meets (sorta) because I can use the fact we're in public as an excuse to keep my pants on. My pepper spray is attached to my belt loop, so it's always in my reach.
I don't like car meets because I'm paranoid during the whole encounter that we're gonna get caught. I live in an area where people leave you to your business, so I don't worry too much about that anymore. Plus, some of the positions I have to get into are just ridiculous.
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So how exactly do you stop them from driving you away?
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Usually, they ask first and I just say something like "Oh, here is fine." If they just start driving, I tell them to stop. I've never had one press the issue, but if they did, I would pull my mace (I have had to pull it on a client before, just not in the car), and tell them again to stop. If they didn't, they're gonna wish they had. And like I said, I always make sure I meet where other people are around... supermarkets, bar parking lots, stuff like that. We may be in the back, but they won't be able to get out of the parking lot before getting a face-full of pepper spray :/
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Ah ok, I was just wondering if someone really wanted to hurt you how you'd stop them. Mace is illegal in the UK, it's considered a weapon and citizens aren't supposed to carry weapons - you can get into trouble if you hurt even an attacker. Of course if your safety is at risk you might do something but I'd never get in a car for the very reason that it's difficult to stop someone taking you somewhere else.
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would not do them I deem them too risky and unsafe and the type of client that wants that kind of service is not a client I want to attract I refuse and block any guy who asks for that ...
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Isn't paying for sex services in a car illegal? I wouldn't take the risk if I offered full sex (I don't, domination is my bag baby)
Tho I have been asked as a domme to car meet?! Now how does that work? Crack a whip in the back seat hehe
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but its not that sex in a car per se is illegal - its tied into public indecency offences ie the likelihood of being spotted by innocent, meandering members of the public going for a stroll and spotting you.
The paying for it aspect I would think would be tied into solicitation.
Either way its not worth the risk to me. Even with a partner the novelty factor rapidly goes from "this is so sleazy and risky, oo-er" to "what was that noise? Is there someone in the bushes?" I would have no intentions of adding in the paid sex element to looking sheepishly at the ground whilst having a police officer next to my car.
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Ah ok, I was just wondering if someone really wanted to hurt you how you'd stop them. Mace is illegal in the UK, it's considered a weapon and citizens aren't supposed to carry weapons - you can get into trouble if you hurt even an attacker. Of course if your safety is at risk you might do something but I'd never get in a car for the very reason that it's difficult to stop someone taking you somewhere else.
Yeah and so is pepper-spray unfortunately, but carry a can of spray deodorant and/or body spray in your bag or something and if push comes to shove spray directly into their face. It'll blind, if not surprise them momentarily for you to try to get out of their grip!
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Ah ok, I was just wondering if someone really wanted to hurt you how you'd stop them. Mace is illegal in the UK, it's considered a weapon and citizens aren't supposed to carry weapons - you can get into trouble if you hurt even an attacker. Of course if your safety is at risk you might do something but I'd never get in a car for the very reason that it's difficult to stop someone taking you somewhere else.
Yeah and so is pepper-spray unfortunately, but carry a can of spray deodorant and/or body spray in your bag or something and if push comes to shove spray directly into their face. It'll blind, if not surprise them momentarily for you to try to get out of their grip!
This.
Also, men expect women to go for the groin in self defence. Don't - go for the face instead. The hard part of your palm against the nasal bridge is fucking painful and unless your attacker is jumping about on PCP or something, will force them to draw back.
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I'm intrigued about Car Meets, I get messages and text's a lot about if I do them but I've only done one, generally rather silly of me as anything could of happened but I was desperate for the money (this was a while ago now btw), don't think i'll be doing it again only if I knew the client was a regular and I trusted them.
My question is, does anybody here do them? Any good/bad experiences? If so, whats the best way to keep safe and how does it all really work?
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Many mishaps happen during car meets just sign up to ugly mugs and read about all the danger. Those who do car meets are very brave. I wouldn't entertain out of my comfort zone.
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Yes, some people do them, but there are good reasons why many people wouldn't touch them. A search here will doubtless find some, but...
anything could of happened
.. sums them up.
If you're going to do them, considering only doing them with someone whose details you and your security setup know - off their licence, for example - and have seen before is going to reduce the risks. But you're still left with no idea about their driving / car maintenance skills, and being driven around while their mind is on other things or going zzzz after coming.
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omg i assumed they parked somewhere when you do a car meet do they actually drive around how dangerous is that nit just for the passengers but for the general public and road user ..
im really shocked if that is what happens
rose
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When I first started and was very naive I done my one and only car meet. It was terrifying. We drove for what seemed like hours, we arrived at a lock up yard, he told me he lived in a caravan in the yard which I didn't know before, we went into the caravan and he locked the door behind us and put the key in his pocket. It was a filthy dirty caravantjat smelt awful.
I was there for 3 hours before I eventually managed to persuade him to let me go home.
Luckily not too much happened as I managed to keep him talking and avoiding lots of touching or contact.
At one point he did produce a set of american leather and heavy chain prison shackles, but fortunately he was just showing them to me and asking what I thought of them.
When I got home I just burst into tears and was a wreck for couple of days, I have never been so scared.
So no I never have done car meets since that one time and I never again will.
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No, while there are doubtless people who expect you to go down on them while they're driving, the sex in car meets happens while you're parked. (Amongst the safety issues are where that is, and who else is around. Even if you've negotiated the former, you can't control the latter.)
But unless you're using your car - and thus becoming easily findable by anyone prepared to lie to the DVLC - you're still being driven around by someone else. And they may be a really crap driver / have no brakes / be taking something / looking at your body rather than the road etc etc.
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When I first started and was very naive I done my one and only car meet. It was terrifying. We drove for what seemed like hours, we arrived at a lock up yard, he told me he lived in a caravan in the yard which I didn't know before, we went into the caravan and he locked the door behind us and put the key in his pocket. It was a filthy dirty caravantjat smelt awful.
I was there for 3 hours before I eventually managed to persuade him to let me go home.
Luckily not too much happened as I managed to keep him talking and avoiding lots of touching or contact.
At one point he did produce a set of american leather and heavy chain prison shackles, but fortunately he was just showing them to me and asking what I thought of them.
When I got home I just burst into tears and was a wreck for couple of days, I have never been so scared.
So no I never have done car meets since that one time and I never again will.
Sounds like the beginning of a horror story glad you got out of that one ok!
I don't understand why some men are so interested in Car Meets, it seriously can't be as relaxing and fun as an incall :s
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He seemed to get off more on the terrifying me more than anything.
Incalls are so much more relaxed and stress free.
So much can go wrong with a car meet.
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I don't understand why some men are so interested in Car Meets, it seriously can't be as relaxing and fun as an incall :s
If they ask for a car meet specifically, that does sound slightly strange but it might be the thrill of a different location.
I do car meets myself precisely because I do not have an incall. It's relatively safe around here, though, because getting personal info of a customer is very easy - there is no such thing as anonymous simcards here, so anyone who gives you their phone number is automatically easy to track down even if they remove their personal info from being visible on the net (most does not).
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only the other week I got a call off a reg at 11pm asking to see me, couldn't have him round at my place at that time so I drove to a lane round the corner from my house, he drove and met me and we when into the field......I wouldn't have done that if I hadn't of met him a few times previous but I suppose its still risky
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Just something to think about if you really want to do them... I do car meets sometimes but I organise them differently to how most guys are used to who ask for them, I meet them at the dogging or discreet spot requested have my driver/bf/safety drive me there and stay, keys on the boot of the car before I'll get in no keys, no me. Saying that I also do group dogging meets along the same line but on a ticket basis so I'm used to it and confident enough out doors... If you want to do them I'd suggest you take someone and arrive separately, if the guy isn't happy with this then he probably isn't safe to see!
They can be good fun if done safely. (Also usually very quick jobs for a lot of money)
:)
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I don't offer car meets but I have with two regular clients who iv been seeing for 4 years a few times due to them wanting late night bookings when iv had people staying with me. I deffo wouldn't feel safe doing them with anyone though..
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When i first started out i did offer car meets in the countryside. I couldn't take incalls and was young, very naive and in my own admission didn't pay much thought to my own safety. I definitely wouldn't do them now, and if i hadn't been so inexperienced then and had been armed with the knowledge and experience i have today then i wouldn't have done it then either. Looking back, i was very fortunate not to have ended up stranded or even worse if the bloke happened to be a psycho on the sly.
One funny experience though, a good while ago when i was still a newbie, me and an ex regular got caught by a cyclist during a car meet in the summer. We thought we'd found the perfect discrete spot even though it was broad daylight, the cyclists face was a picture and he muttered "oh my" as he was peddling past ha ha, so being seen is always an all-too-realistic risk too :P
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what would happen if the police caught people dogging or car meets?. is it illegal? . ive not done it.
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usually very quick jobs for a lot of money
I started off with car meets. Usually we went in pairs with one doing the business and the other sat in the back and could look out etc. It works well with guys who you can get off quickly, but not so good if they take longer. I did some on my own when I'd learned the routine and never had any trouble, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who hasn't done it before. I have heard bad stories and stopped as soon as I was able to get my own place.
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I did car meets years ago, a lot of clipping also! But I was a bit of a hustler in those days, I think they are dangerous and not worth the risk even with regs, I know girls that do them as they don't have an incall place but a couple have been in scary situations as another girl mentioned here x
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I did car meets years ago, a lot of clipping also! But I was a bit of a hustler in those days, I think they are dangerous and not worth the risk even with regs, I know girls that do them as they don't have an incall place but a couple have been in scary situations as another girl mentioned here x
What's clipping?
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What's clipping?
Taking the payment and then doing a runner.
One of the problems with car meets is that sometimes you get a very suspicious punter, or one that has been clipped and wants to get his own back on someone. Apart from car meets it usually happens with outcalls, but I've heard of incalls too in flats that have been set up for the purpose.
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Isn't that also known as stealing, or at least not providing services promised.
Certainly not on in my book. >:( :( and one of the reasons some clients are wary. I've heard stories of guys being ripped off and it's unacceptable - just as theft or deception in any other activity is.
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Yes, along with other advanced fee frauds, it's an offence. Typically clipping is done in connection with things where the victim is unlikely to go to the police ('I was kerb-crawling / buying drugs, and...')
I think we can take it as read that it is not a good thing to do - even if you ignore the legality and the morality, some victims will come looking for violent revenge - but a look at 'would not recommend' reviews will indeed find some samples of people doing it one way or another.
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It's a stupid thing to do, I'm talking 20 years ago, I got beaten up once for it, young and stupid x
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car meets are ok if you are with a mate . and/or you pick the location .... when i have done them i take my ipod with find my phone on it and i get the car reg in advance and check it when i am there
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When I first started and was very naive I done my one and only car meet. It was terrifying. We drove for what seemed like hours, we arrived at a lock up yard, he told me he lived in a caravan in the yard which I didn't know before, we went into the caravan and he locked the door behind us and put the key in his pocket. It was a filthy dirty caravantjat smelt awful.
I was there for 3 hours before I eventually managed to persuade him to let me go home.
Luckily not too much happened as I managed to keep him talking and avoiding lots of touching or contact.
At one point he did produce a set of american leather and heavy chain prison shackles, but fortunately he was just showing them to me and asking what I thought of them.
When I got home I just burst into tears and was a wreck for couple of days, I have never been so scared.
So no I never have done car meets since that one time and I never again will.
Oh.My.God Saucepot....I'd have been terrified.
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I get asked for them a lot too....but I wouldn't do them. Simply because too much can go wrong, and I'm scared anyone would see what was going on and call the police.....
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lol ive only once been busted but it was by the army i got the guy to pull in to somewhere and we got on with it ... i could hear this noise all the time but couldn't work out what it was , finished up and got in the car to turn my lights on and see that the army were on exercise . half expected someone to run out and Hi5me lol
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I don't see the need for carmeets these days ???
I used to work the streets years ago before internet and mobile phones made things a lot safer, and even then
I felt uneasy going into cars, as a couple of girls got murdered,
things happened to myself and other WG's I knew..
I've never done clipping (it's called dipping up here), but friends of mine did, and guys weren't picky who they'd
take their frustration out on if they'd been robbed..
So I took a beating once because they couldn't find the girl who'd actually dipped them (she was long gone in a taxi)
and ended up in hospital for a week..
Carmeets these days, no thank you.... !!
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I guess it can be safe if you follow some guide lines like
Ask him to come upstairs and give you the money first, if your building has CCTV his face will be recorded
Leave the money at home and on your way to the car take a look at the car plate and text it to a friend, go to a place of your choice, that you know the way and the place just in case you have to escape, I'd wear high boots and leave my mobile inside the boot.
If things gets crazy you can use this against him, he's easily trackable because he called you and his number is on your telephone record, a friend knows where you are and know you are with him, she has his mobile and plate number, if he's reasonable it should scare him off.
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Hi girls, if you choose to do car meets, what details do you take for security checks? Xx
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Hi girls, if you choose to do car meets, what details do you take for security checks? Xx
I've merged this with one of the other threads on the subject so you can have a read through, but the above is one of the main reasons why lots of people wouldn't do them :).
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After reading this thread again, and also my own post, I actually did do another car-meet.. ::)
It was with a guy I'd met before, I set the rules and boundaries before, and made sure we didn't go anymore than a mile away from my
flat.
I think he was more nervous than me, and because I used to work the streets I'm pretty experienced with the whole thing,
but that's as far as I'd go, and it was a one-off (I couldn't use my flat as I had somebody staying), after that he started
asking about driving out into the countryside and "the woods".. Aye right...
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Hi ladies at the moment I have a relative that's staying at my place and is currently out of work :FF so now I'm unable to do any incall work.I was browsing AW and noticed a girl that does car meets.I'm thinking of giving it a go for the time being but just want some advice and if anyone else does them?Thanks xx
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Surely it's safer to do outcalls?
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It is but this would be a car meet so unsure yet x
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Well in a car they can drive you off anywhere whereas for an outcall presumably someone knows where you are. I wouldn't recommend this.
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Yeah I've thought it's risky but it's the only thing I can think of doing atm.. :-(
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Why can't you offer outcalls?
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I have but don't get as many and I'm losing incall bookings sue to my relative not working :|
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I see, yeah they are quite inconsistent, but honestly I can't see car meets being any more popular. Okay well definitely weigh it up in your head and if you're comfortable with it, I imagine the screening here would be a phone conversation and going on gut instinct entirely. I've never done them myself but someone who has will hopefully be along to better advise. :)
One thing I can think of is that if you bring a smartphone with you (and hide it discreetly obvs) there are various apps you can use that send a friend your location, so if you haven't texted them back or whatever at the end of your booking they can look up where you phone is and proceed from there. Might be worth looking into?
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Thanks I'm going to think about it carefully but just can't get anywhere with my relative being round at the moment :'(
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I get asked for car meets alot actually, I never do them though. I have thought about it when outcall business has been quiet (I generally only do outcalls) but I've never gone through with it.
If you are going to do it, just be very, very, very, very, very careful. Text a photo of the registration plate of the car to a friend, make sure they know the minute you are due back and to phone the police if they don't hear from you.
It's up to you, and plenty of girls do car meets and must be happy enough with it....but just remember, you won't literally die if you don't get that ?50 (or whatever). A car meet has a lot more potential to go wrong than an outcall. To me it's a whole different ball game.
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I've done a lot of car meets myself, but I suspect the reality of those is very different here than it is for you guys.
I don't think there are a lot of ways to make them 100% secure, especially in places where punter anonymity is high, like it seems to be the case in the UK. If you have someone to assist you with them (though I guess not?), go to the car with your 'support person', take the money and pass them onto the friend. Kind of removes the incentive to ditch you in the middle of nowhere, since there is no money to be taken back from you forcibly. Also, goes without saying, do not take any valuables with you.
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Hmm true I'm just skint with the relative being around I'm starting to resent as I'm turning away bookings grrr lol
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Carly, this is VERY risky.
What about hotel incalls or renting a room from another wg.?
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Do you offer outcalls?
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Carly, this is VERY risky.
What about hotel incalls or renting a room from another wg.?
Totally, you are always hearing stories of girls being left behind miles away from their towns, or being taken into dangerous situations. Think carefully before considering it.
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Hi all we wouldn't go very far...yes I'm advertising Outcalls but it's not the same and not getting enough emails :-(
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I'm going to see if anyone has a room they can rent me!
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I do a lot of car meats and they work for me. The service offered are limited and will usually wear the clothes I am wearing which is usually a shortish skirt and heels, I won t travel further then the large industrial estate near by, one of the local hotels or the lay-by on the main road, non of which are more the three miles away
PS originally posted in response to the thread quickies but moved by admin for some reason!
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Got a text today asking if I do car bookings. Yes I replied, says so in all my ads. Back came a text, do you have a car we could use as I haven't got one. I told him I would. Charge him extra for using my car; he declined :)
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What a plonker.
:FF
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Are car meetings not dangerous? I get asked for these too. X
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I have a car but would never accept a car meet. It's too dangerous, how do you check the client is where he says he is going to meet you (loads of scope to be messed around), don't fancy explaining to a police officer that I'm a prossie with client but haven't been working the street(I also understand that sex in a public place is illegal?) and I also know that having a client in my car, even just giving him a lift invalidates my insurance - checked with insurer.
This is all aside from the fact car sex is uncomfortable and cramped.
Some women do it, I do not.
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I do a lot of car meats and they work for me. The service offered are limited and will usually wear the clothes I am wearing which is usually a shortish skirt and heels, I won t travel further then the large industrial estate near by, one of the local hotels or the lay-by on the main road, non of which are more the three miles away
PS originally posted in response to the thread quickies but moved by admin for some reason!
The reason was that it's a post about car 'meets' and not really anything to do with quickies. Glad that's sorted.
Ditto the above posts, so as we don't need multiple threads I've merged this one too :).
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No I have never had a car meet but once did a mini bus meet :) I knew the man well though and had no problem with that one.
I just could not meet an unknown man in his car and drive off to a secluded place. Too many things could go wrong and I have never been asked by men I knew to do a car meet either in his or my own car.
I am asked now and then but always say no.
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Car meets with strangers is more risky because many who do car meets use street workers. My point is that you know how unsafe it has been for them. Unless you can be sure he is safe don't risk it. I never do car meets. More of the stranger ones with least respect do. A high percentage on ugly mugs about the danger. Doubt business men do car meets.
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I do a lot of car meats .
This made my day.
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Car meets with strangers is more risky because many who do car meets use street workers. My point is that you know how unsafe it has been for them. Unless you can be sure he is safe don't risk it. I never do car meets. More of the stranger ones with least respect do. A high percentage on ugly mugs about the danger. Doubt business men do car meets.
So called 'business men", whatever they are are no better or worse than any other client.
And I happen to have a good idea that men who buy sex on the street are from a wide cross section of society.
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It never crossed my mind to post my latest post here, sorry
I do a lot of car meats and they work for me. The service offered are limited and will usually wear the clothes I am wearing which is usually a shortish skirt and heels, I won t travel further then the large industrial estate near by, one of the local hotels or the lay-by on the main road, non of which are more the three miles away
PS originally posted in response to the thread quickies but moved by admin for some reason!
The reason was that it's a post about car 'meets' and not really anything to do with quickies. Glad that's sorted.
Ditto the above posts, so as we don't need multiple threads I've merged this one too :).
Hi Amy, I was responding to a post in Quickies were someone said it might be worth it for incalls but not for out calls, I was responding that if you work locally then it is possible to make them work and pointing out they can be less hassle. So I disagree with you but it is no big deal.
I also know that having a client in my car, even just giving him a lift invalidates my insurance - checked with insurer.
This is all aside from the fact car sex is uncomfortable and cramped.
Some women do it, I do not.
I never thought about the insurance aspect, but then I suspect these that are working out of their houses are also invalidating their insurance, but guess that is a different discussion and Amy will be moving this bit of the thread :)
As for being uncomfortable, it can be especially if you get a MX5 or similar, but most back seats are fine and things like lorry cabs are OK, being small helps
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I do a lot of car meats .
This made my day.
:) I thank who every invented spell checker every day as my posts are just about readable as a resault, otherwise my posts would totally not make sense.
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Definitely don't do car meets. Especially considering my car is leased through my 9-5 job (imagine having to explain that!?P :o
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Correct re insurance, however a house tends to be less likely to have someone crash into it, or be stolen or in an RTA. You also can't be on the road without insurance(if declined in future or quoted ridiculous amount). To me it's higher risk.
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Correct re insurance, however a house tends to be less likely to have someone crash into it, or be stolen or in an RTA. You also can't be on the road without insurance(if declined in future or quoted ridiculous amount). To me it's higher risk.
I guess your right, but 99.99 of the time your not using your own vehicle. In fact to date that was the only time I was asked to use my own car, that is why I found it amusing and posted it here, I thought most people would know this.
RE car insurance. I did ask on here once what people declared their occupation as, because there was no option for prostitute in the selection of occupancy. In the end I put dancer but still wonder if something happens the whether the insurers could be awkward???
I did phone a couple of companies up and they never returned my calls. Went into a well known high street insurence company, they refused to quote.
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Correct re insurance, however a house tends to be less likely to have someone crash into it, or be stolen or in an RTA. You also can't be on the road without insurance(if declined in future or quoted ridiculous amount). To me it's higher risk.
I guess your right, but 99.99 of the time your not using your own vehicle. In fact to date that was the only time I was asked to use my own car, that is why I found it amusing and posted it here, I thought most people would know this.
RE car insurance. I did ask on here once what people declared their occupation as, because there was no option for prostitute in the selection of occupancy. In the end I put dancer but still wonder if something happens the whether the insurers could be awkward???
I did phone a couple of companies up and they never returned my calls. Went into a well known high street insurence company, they refused to quote.
I tell the insurer - I actually currently use it for several things such as commuting to voluntary work, college etc and they want to know all of that.
Some will not provide cover, many will and many find their own best fit category for the 'Escort' work.
After initially finding cover for home contents, I was refused at renewal as a result of the underwriter changing their policy in addition to a particularly bad combination of my personal situations. I no longer work incall, and the household insurance is in my husband's name, plus I now own the property.
Renting + sex work + personal circumstances = massive whammy risk wise. In hindsight I would invest the premiums in improved security, however that's not an option with a motor vehicle.
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I know this is veering a little off subject but am now curious. While I really should read policies more closely before signing (eeeek I had not realised the implications if accidents happen while we have a client in our car but thankfully it is not likely to happen to me) BUT what about the men who take escorts for car meets? Am wondering do they realise how disastrous it could be if they had a bump or worse in their vehicle and there is a pro in beside them. Do they just play innocent and say they are giving a friend a lift? ???
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I know this is veering a little off subject but am now curious. While I really should read policies more closely before signing (eeeek I had not realised the implications if accidents happen while we have a client in our car but thankfully it is not likely to happen to me) BUT what about the men who take escorts for car meets? Am wondering do they realise how disastrous it could be if they had a bump or worse in their vehicle and there is a pro in beside them. Do they just play innocent and say they are giving a friend a lift? ???
Some vans and a lot of trucks have signs in the cab's saying that any passenger is not insured, however I am told that all vehicle must have third party insurance,whether the passenger is authorised or not. Some guys worry about being fired though and ask me to duck down or stay out of sight, can be quite comical sometimes.
As for business men, I am just as likely to be picked up by someone in a new Range Rover or Mercedes as I am by a van or a Ford Focus
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My husband's car insurance (we have use of each other's cars) has my occupation listed as 'Escort', as well as the volunteer profession. He was just priming it off thus afternoon for his records.
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My husband's car insurance (we have use of each other's cars) has my occupation listed as 'Escort', as well as the volunteer profession. He was just priming it off thus afternoon for his records.
Sure that is not the model of the car :)
Sorry slow and boring Saturday, so you getting bad jokes.
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It must be dangerous and I bet it attracts weirdos.
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It must be dangerous and I bet it attracts weirdos.
I do not really get how it is much more dangerous then inviting total strangers to your house or doing an outcall to someones house?
People go on about doing checks, but most guys don't want o go through checks and I really do not get how most girls get many bookings who insist on checks. Secondly a lot of documents such as drivers licences, utility bills and so on can be Photoshoped. Phone numbers can be unregistered phones or public numbers.
I have only ever had one incident when the guy ordered me out of the car and drove off with my clothes and money. I once had someone pull a knife on me in a hotel.
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It must be dangerous and I bet it attracts weirdos.
I do not really get how it is much more dangerous then inviting total strangers to your house or doing an outcall to someones house?
People go on about doing checks, but most guys don't want o go through checks and I really do not get how most girls get many bookings who insist on checks. Secondly a lot of documents such as drivers licences, utility bills and so on can be Photoshoped. Phone numbers can be unregistered phones or public numbers.
I have only ever had one incident when the guy ordered me out of the car and drove off with my clothes and money. I once had someone pull a knife on me in a hotel.
Sorry about your bad experience. I carry out strict checks, and take deposits from new clients - if they don't want to or cannot provide info to prove they are at the address or hotel they pay a higher deposit and many do. One regular paysthe entire fee by bank transfer upfront (which I check myself has been received before getting ready).
Yes many do not wish to go through this, but many will. If I use a phone number as residency proof it must be in the phone directory, and we must speak on it.
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Car meets has it's dangers, as does escorting in general. You just have to weight out the positives and the negatives and decide for yourself if the risk is worth it to you.
I personally do not offer car meets just because the seclusion of it scares me. I much prefer working from apartments/hotels where I am closer to other people.
xoxo
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I've offered the odd car meet and done loads of truckers but that was through agencies and my driver would park about 100 yards away and wait for me to finish, independent car meets where no one knows where you are is no different to street walking and is just as stupid.
Car meets working independently is unnecessary especially nowadays when incalls/outcalls are so popular.
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I've offered the odd car meet and done loads of truckers but that was through agencies and my driver would park about 100 yards away and wait for me to finish, independent car meets where no one knows where you are is no different to street walking and is just as stupid.
Car meets working independently is unnecessary especially nowadays when incalls/outcalls are so popular.
Not everybody who offers in-car bookings does so with 'no-one knowing where they are'.
Plenty of people offer incalls do so without anybody knowing what's happening and a fair few even do the same with outcalls. Street sex work is just another way to operate and since I've already removed one pig-ignorant post, I'll remind everybody that snobbery towards other sex workers when we all do the same thing is the part that's stupid.
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I do car meets. I have done them for about five years.
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Whatever floats your boat... ;)
All the checks you have to do, having a driver parked nearby, you might as well tell them to come to your place.
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Does anyone do them? If so, how do they work? I need more income so im gonna do outcalls and car meets.
So is it in my car or his? And do they pick me up from somewhere? Or my house? Im totally naiive to this x
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Does anyone do them? If so, how do they work? I need more income so im gonna do outcalls and car meets.
So is it in my car or his? And do they pick me up from somewhere? Or my house? Im totally naiive to this x
Well, have you read this thread?
I believe it can go either way but I think it is generally in the punters car. You drive somewhere secluded where you won't get caught.
I'm too big for playing around in a car, anyway, but I am not comfortable getting in someone else's car.
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Around here, doing it in your own car is pretty common. That's also how our local street-based girls operate.
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I did it once for a reg....well out of the car in some woods, would I do it again...no! Its just not discreet enough for me and I really didn't care for it
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I wouldn't dare getting into punter's car for a booking in some woods...Or any stranger
I'm paranoid enough about my safety while doing incalls....
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I did a few in the early days, even went to my local woods. I know, I sound crazy, well yes I did get up to some risky things even when not escorting. Nothing dodgy ever happened except one time with a guy I met in a non escort capacity. I guess I've been lucky considering.
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I used to offer car meets years ago when I first started i was young and thought i was invincible ::) I would never do it now. Thinking back I was so lucky as I put myself in some really dangerous situations.
I wouldn't recommend anyone do it to be honest.
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In the end the problem I had was not having anywhere to actually go as everywhere was just not secluded enough. Even in the woods people were about. In London it's virtually impossible to find a place without folk about.
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If I ever did a car meet, I would make it clear i would only go if i sent a registration to a friend and post the money at the nearest letter box back to me lol. I don't know how realistic that is though.
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I was offered a booking late last night on a tour bus by the driver at a service station! In theory it sounded quite fun and he seemed a nice enough guy, but I refused because of the risks of being alone with him in a potentially empty car park or worse the rest of the crew showing up!
Would anyone else have done this and what safety precautions would you have taken?
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Too much hassle than it's worth it.
If I wanted to meet clients in their car etc. I would have deleted my profile on AW and become a streetwalker.
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I must admit, I am curious about car meets but it would deffo need more screening than normal
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I've done one one with a regular so there was trust there, set the scene that I was a street walker and he picked me up before going to a very desecrate spot in the middle of no where.
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I had a call the other day and today asking to do a car meet. The other day I had to ask three times what he was saying - thought he was saying karmeats or khameets. I thought, what's this all about - and then I said, Ohhhh car meets. Because I'm not working from my home any more, it did cross my mind, but I'd be too nervous incase we got caught out (that's just my paranoia). I did a thing with my best regular last year and we parked up in a farmers field. A jogger ran past and made a big thing about looking the other way - and that was it for me. I said no, take me back. Then we drove out of the field and there was a car by the gate and we thought it might be the farmer blocking us in. But it was a random couple stopping off and she was giving him a blow job. They must have thought WE were the farmers coming to tell them to naff off. It made us laugh so much because they couldn't even look at us and they just had panic all over their faces. Aww. I wanted to give them the thumbs up.
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i do a lot of car meets but i got a driver and he keeps a look out
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I also do alot of car meets, I live in a fairly nice area and do a full screening obviously. Its annoying coz i cant do incalls so I do need to do them but I have my moments where I just think ' what the F am i doing, this is crazy, possibly the most risky think a WG can do' I have security but I still think sometimes even all the precautions i take, it might not be worth it if anything happened. I do get most of my income from them and I would do hotels but I can only do them in London as there are none where I live
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Hi Lola, I used to do car meets a few years ago. Id ask the punters to meet me on an industrial estate, and then follow me in his car to a secluded lane which was ideal. Then afterwards,id drive him back to his car. I gave up doing them when one guy id never seen before, was in the back seat with me and he pulls out a pair of surgical gloves from his pocket...I absolutely shit myself,i thought he was going to strangle me. It turned out he had OCD and didnt want to touch me without the gloves.....I gave up the carmeets after that as it made me realise how vulnerable I was. I had a friend who I used to text wen i was going on a meet,and then i would text her when i got back home. She also knew where the meeting place was, just in case something happened to me. Whatever you decide to do, stay as safe as u can xxx
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Just an idea to those offering car meets, get his reg and make of his vehicle over the phone then go to Askmid type in info and you can check that it all matches up, it will also tell you if he is taxed and insured (Used to use this when I worked in car insurance)
Also leave a note of his name, tel number and car details at home just in case something happens.
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I did it once purely because we were both heading for the same destination and he was going to miss his meeting ...but if met him at a country pub ( big secluded car park) and I just said do you mind if I photo your reg and send it to my other devices ...he was so cool with it ..and went off in five mins ...so that's 100 thanks , he was happy and so was I but I wouldn't recommend , oh and it was mid morning .
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Isn't it difficult to do a car meet though if you're having full sex? I will be doing one next week with a regular but have told him I wont do full sex.
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Isn't it difficult to do a car meet though if you're having full sex? I will be doing one next week with a regular but have told him I wont do full sex.
This is what I always wonder, unless they're driving a limo!! I had enough of clambering over seats and shagging with one foot out the window when I was a teenager ;D
I guess if the car is roomy enough you could get him in the passenger seat and straddle him. Wouldn't work in my Smart car :D
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Lol! I like the idea of them sat up like a meercat on lookout and then I can just bob my head up looking innocent. Otherwise it's a skirt and knickers to one side haha...
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Full-on sex can be pretty logistically annoying in average-sized cars, and I'm a tiny 1.54 cm "tall" person. So yeah, in a nutshell, it's mostly blowjobs/hand relief.
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Isn't it difficult to do a car meet though if you're having full sex? I will be doing one next week with a regular but have told him I wont do full sex.
I've done it a few times with boyfriends , in fact a lot ( ha) just sit on them or get in the back ....although I have left toe/ footprints on someone's roof interior ( I only know because they were a bugger to get off )
One of my boyfriends was 6'5" and no lightweight by any means ( surprise myself sometimes always thought I should be charging)
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One of my regulars asked me to do one and I agreed as I trust him. Both of us have never done one before.
Didn't realise you could get arrested though. If it's in the woods I doubt police would be there plus if they did catch us surely they would just give us a warning. I could just say he is my boyfriend.
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From my experience as a teenager shagging bfs in cars, yes they'd just tell you to move on if by any chance they actually happened to show up.
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I saw something on the TV a few months ago. If you are in a car or somewhere secluded not in a car. Having a blanket to cover yourself up (if the local brownie pack walk by) can make all the difference in the eyes of the police as to what happens if you're caught.
Something about your intentions with regards giving a public show.
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From my experience as a teenager shagging bfs in cars, yes they'd just tell you to move on if by any chance they actually happened to show up.
They bloody shone a torch in when me and mr GP were at it years ago , to make things worse I'd thrown my wedding ring at him just prior and lost it lol in the dark anyway we explained we were making up and what had happened and they shone their torches around for about 20 mins and found it for me ;D
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Hello,
I have just had a request for a car meet for two hours on Adult Work.(Although they did add'while they would enjoy an In call). I would be very worried about the safety,security, etc of doing this. Has anyone else ever had such a request and gone ahead?
Also, this user has zero ratings?
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No, do not do it. If you get caught doing anything in a car I?m prettt sure you can get done for it:
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Yes, that thought had occurred to me as well. Can't you be arrested for indecent exposure in a public place? :FF Asides from the safety issues.
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You got to keep yourself safe , dogging is too risky I believe .
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Hello,
I have just had a request for a car meet for two hours on Adult Work.(Although they did add'while they would enjoy an In call). I would be very worried about the safety,security, etc of doing this. Has anyone else ever had such a request and gone ahead?
Also, this user has zero ratings?
Personally I wouldn't do it as too risky. I'm being nosy here but I have in the past done car meets so I'm curious what a 2 hour car meet would be? Seems a very long time for a car meet especially from someone with 0 feedback.
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I remember years ago doing car meets when I was living at home with my mum and my na. I was 21ish. I get into swanky cars in my deprived area.I hated the thought of my mum would find out. I remember having a few scary meets And driving around for ages looking a quiet spot. I Thankfully nothing ever happened to me. I would never do car meets now. Bad in the day it was one of few ways.
For my safety I would never do them now. Its too risky and way to much hassle.
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Hello All,
So glad I found this thread..I posted a similar question somewhere but I can't find it. I had a request for a booking on AW saying that while they like the idea of an incall, a car meet is thrilling. Or words to that effect. I would be concerned about the safety and security. From what I've read on this thread, that seem to be the general consensus.
Also, can't you get arrested for 'indecent exposure' in a public place, if caught?
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The very fact that you could get caught misbehaving would infer that the best way to do a car meet is in a discreet, secluded location with nobody around. How many of us would feel comfortable in that situation? Safety and security is key and if you haven't met someone before you have none of that and in fact you are going out of your way to seriously compromise your safety.
You use that rape alarm and the only thing that will hear you are the birds. Not only that, you have no CCTV like you have in a hotel and if you needed to leg it you have no transport and you may not even know where you are. Fuck. That.
Car meets are quite common on swinging sites and although I've done them before, I would never do one again.
Men are twats and although we profit from them thinking with their dicks, this is not the best way to take advantage of that!
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Personally I wouldn't do it as too risky. I'm being nosy here but I have in the past done car meets so I'm curious what a 2 hour car meet would be? Seems a very long time for a car meet especially from someone with 0 feedback.
Exactly some of my thoughts. Asides from all the safety issues, possibility of being discovered and arrested, I can't see how this would be remotely comfortable fore that length of time. Plus, no bathroom facilities. Yuk! Anyway, I sent a message saying I do not do this for safety reasons but I can offer an incall. I also asked for a mobile number and no reply .
The very fact that you could get caught misbehaving would infer that the best way to do a car meet is in a discreet, secluded location with nobody around. How many of us would feel comfortable in that situation? Safety and security is key and if you haven't met someone before you have none of that and in fact you are going out of your way to seriously compromise your safety.
Again, this crossed my mind. Surely, the only way to not get discovered is to go somewhere remote, which to my mind just adds to the safety issues.
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I have never done can meets due to safety and security concerns. I am sometimes asked for them but decline
The chances are a genuine client asking for a 2 hour, appointment is virtually nil, 15 minutes or 30 minutes maybe max!
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Hello All,
I am just curious as to anyone would consider this with someone a client they have met before at least once? Or a regular?
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Hello All,
I am just curious as to anyone would consider this with someone a client they have met before at least once? Or a regular?
Regular as in met at least 10 times before and know their full name and where they live, yes.
Otherwise, hell no.
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No i would not consider it for reasons of most customer that have contacted me suggest it to get it cheaper, no where to wash after, too uncomfortable, could be dangerous and it is not legal to engage in sex in public in a car. So not it is not for me.
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On of the reasons I stopped agency work was all the driving around , sometimes sitting in cars for hours with no toilet or washing facilities. Having to rely on using clients facilities. All yukky.
When I see the word car meet, I get images of locked doors, being trapped, woods etc etc. Personally, I think this business is risky enough as it is without to that unnecessarily.
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It's a big fat 'no' from me. Personally I wouldn't be able to relax in that situation. I'd be too worried about potentially being locked in or driven to Mongolia. (Maybe I'll go to Mongolia one day, but under my own steam thanks!)
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I am assuming the danger aspect of car meets is tenfold the danger of in-calls, going off the alerts I get from ugly mugs, virtually every sex worker assaulted is a street walker. And the demographic of client they have are all on foot or in cars, mostly cars.
So no, I wouldn't put myself in harms way like that or risk being arrested.
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My first ever meet when I was 18 involved a car meet in a supermarket carpark (I was extremely naive).
He locked the doors, he talked me into owo and he refused to give me a tissue or open a window to let me spit. So I emptied into my hand and asked to leave.
He went red with fury and wouldn't let me out until I gave him back half the money to clean up the car. It was horrible and I'd never ever do car meets again. Far too dangerous.
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I too started off with car meets, i didn't own a car and had just turned 18 and only offered outcalls (outcalls were me travelling by bus or train or said client collecting me in his car taking me to his place then driving me back home, a surprisingly popular option), and being so naive received loads of messages asking for car meets, near where i live is a famous dogging site and before i knew that i would often meet guys in pub car parks and tell them to drive there, i did this for a couple of weeks until i could afford to buy my first car, then i started offering outcalls where i would drive to their house. looking back is absolutely terrifying that nothing bad happened to me. i met dodgy old blokes in vans, some man high up in the Army, and lots of not very nice 'cheapskate' people. the occasional rich guy looking for young teen girls but after i had my car i told them i would only see them if they booked a hotel, which often worked. i would get in these guys cars and tell them where to drive ( about 10 mins away) into the countryside, very dark and quiet with no cameras. thankfully nothing bad happened but it certainly would have done had i continued. i was VERY lucky. had no vetting system and just listed my mobile number, they would ring me and i would go and meet them at the pub car park, that was it. a few guys would try and overstay their time or try and underpay but i managed to get the correct money each time and get out pretty soonish, but as i had to get them to drive me back to the car park there was a worry they would disobey and just drive off somewhere. my saviour was i was local and knew the countryside better than they did. if you are going to do this ( i don't reccomend car meets at all) then have a strong vetting process, speak to them on the phone and maybe even take a small deposit through online banking, get them to make an aw booking and check they have feedback from other escorts, agree your services up front and by text so if you have to get the police involved you have evidence of some form. personally, and speaking from experience, camming is so much safer, and i wouldn't reccomend to another woman to try car meets. all one has to do is look at all the ugly mugs warnings of car meets gone wrong to see that, stay safe! xxx
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I used to do nothing but "car meets" in my younger days, when the option of internet , AW, etc just wasn't there and we froze our tits off on street corners.. ;D
Since I started working from home I did ONE car-meet, it was slightly ridiculous (I knew the guy quite well, he was a regular), he wanted me to dress up in my school uniform , not a proper one, but one of those so-called sexy ones with hardly any material, so here I am trying to run to his car, trying not to be seen by neighbours and/or other people I knew, while at the same time trying to hold my stockings up and eventually got in the car, where I thought the whole time, WHY, WHY, WHY, its poky in here, I've got a nice pretty spacious bedroom we can use, but noooo, some people...
His argument was he felt more comfortable coz he wasn't "on my territory", but after that one time I just thought, this is way too much hassle, and never done one again.
Thankgod I have a choice today though, coz no matter how many cars I got in to a night, every single one could've been my last, as the "security system" we had in those days was utterly useless.. ::)
(Guy writes down number plate of car in which you disappear, in return for x-amount of cash a night, but half the time they were too wasted to write the number plate down right or notice if you'd actually came back or not.. )
I must say I don't miss those days!!! ;)
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I have done a few car meets with regulars that I liked and fancied. Best thing about them is that the actual work is minimal- they guys are often on edge and just want to finsh quick. So usually the action was done and dusted in under 2 minutes. I have never done it in a super secluded place, only hotel/supermarket car parks, late in the evening. As i am slim but tall, small cars are not suilable for my height. It's got to be a 4x4 and a nice one too. Haha, i ain't risking a police caution in a poor man's car.
I must say, I am normally a 'classy' lady ;D but a quickie in a car once in a blue moon it exciting!
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never, its not safe enough..
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If anyone is doing them a good tip is to ask if they mind you photographing the registration plate , then tell them your sending it to your home PC .
Most guys don't mind at all and understand , if they're cagey turn it down.
I used to do this when regular dating and also on the one car meet I've done in the daytime ( only because we were both heading to the same place and knew we weren't going to make due to time constraints .
I'd never met him before , I know this is absolutely not foolproof but it may save somebody :)
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How reliable are car meets?
They aren't my style but I'd have thought arranging to meet outside would be fraught with wild goose chases.
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How reliable are car meets?
They aren't my style but I'd have thought arranging to meet outside would be fraught with wild goose chases.
I've no idea , i just met up to go out on regular dates but got a lift a few times so that's what I did .
Car meets in sex work capacity are not my style either but I'd be more concerned about fly pasts if your waiting , I mean a group of guys could all drive past and take a look for a laugh ???
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This is a really interesting topic because I get lots of requests for this but I always turn them down. I need to be in control of my environment and car meets seem so risky. Also, I work a day job too and would probably lose it if I got prosecuted for indecent exposure :FF
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A client wants to do a car meet but I have never done one before.
I just wanted advice on where is safe to do one and what security precautions I should take.
One concern would be if he takes in the middle of nowhere where nobody is around if something went wrong.
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14 page thread above ^^^^^ :)
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Doing car meets alone could be very risky.
I do them, but I only meet clients with my husband present, so they have to be happy to shag me in front of my husband; as I'm not alone, I've never had any problems, but I would be too afraid to do it alone.
Perhaps hire a man to drive you, and tell the client he can have fun with you in the back with the driver taking no part in it?
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The Sexual Offences Act 2003 says a person commits an offence if they intentionally exposes their genitals and intends that someone will see them and be caused alarm or distress.
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Someone asked me for a car meet thus weekend, after they told me they had been taking cocaine and could I find them some more.
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Think of amount of look & go twats when you work from the apartment. What if they will say no on a car meet?
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I used to love car meets, this is the way I started escorting a year ago! I never had any issues, but I realise it’s very dangerous! I had my car and we met with a client somewhere “public” like a busy Sainsbury’s parking from there I take them to “ a spot” which I knew, after doing car meets for a few months I knew at least 10 good spots around my house, it was fun, I got a real kink out of it. When I got an incall sorted, my car meet clients started seeing me there hehe, it was the “good times” before the lost of AW, and the threats, I miss this time, and my clients :angel:
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I used to love car meets, this is the way I started escorting a year ago! I never had any issues, but I realise it’s very dangerous! I had my car and we met with a client somewhere “public” like a busy Sainsbury’s parking from there I take them to “ a spot” which I knew, after doing car meets for a few months I knew at least 10 good spots around my house, it was fun, I got a real kink out of it. When I got an incall sorted, my car meet clients started seeing me there hehe, it was the “good times” before the lost of AW, and the threats, I miss this time, and my clients :angel:
Did you take them in your car from the supermarket?
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Did you take them in your car from the supermarket?
Yes sometimes in my car and sometimes in theirs ;) was best in my car, I was very paranoid of any condom left. Once, my car got broken and never realised I had a box full of condom on the back seat, so embarassing as people who fixed the car saw it
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Yes sometimes in my car and sometimes in theirs ;) was best in my car, I was very paranoid of any condom left. Once, my car got broken and never realised I had a box full of condom on the back seat, so embarassing as people who fixed the car saw it
I'm sure mechanics find all sorts in cars!
This probably won't matter for many people because you'd not tell them anyway, but I was once told by my car insurer that transporting clients would invalidate my insurance.
Might be worth knowing for someone here, and of course if there's an incident, accident or reason to claim insurers can sometimes become very nosy.
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, but I was once told by my car insurer that transporting clients would invalidate my insurance.
Might be worth knowing for someone here, and of course if there's an incident, accident or reason to claim insurers can sometimes become very nosy.
Woo never thought of that! Insane thanks for the info
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Woo never thought of that! Insane thanks for the info
Yeah two aspects are involved firstly you are effectively trading from/in your car.
Also re giving a client a lift I know of instances in non sex work professions such as care work for example, in which workers aren't able to transport clients because standard car insurance will not cover them.
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I understand your pain!
I used to be outcall only.
Great tip- start incalls, check [redacted], booking.com for apartments, preferably self check in.
You'll get super busy, give road named only and house number when they arrive.
Its done me amazing!xx
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I've done car meets when desparate-I took a pic of their number plate and pretended to text it to someone, I also set the fake call function on my phone to go off near the end of the time . extremely dodgy though-unless you've got life or death money problems I wouldn't recommend it
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Hollyrose5, I wouldn't be saying on here that you use [a booking site] for sex work as some of those properties are people's homes.
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Hollyrose5, I wouldn't be saying on here that you use [a booking site] for sex work as some of those properties are people's homes.
I've edited both posts - can we please remember to report these so they can be redacted or removed (for the reason given above, obviously) :)
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I've edited both posts - can we please remember to report these so they can be redacted or removed (for the reason given above, obviously) :)
Didnt know sorry!
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I done one a few weeks ago but just a straightforward bj/hj with a long term client.
When I was younger I done them all the time. But then the world of escorting was a much simpler place before the internet and the dogging revolution took off.
Where I am there’s loads of places in theory but from experience whatever time of day or night somebody you can guarantee will disturb you whether it by dog walkers, families, mountain bikers etc. I’ve lost count amount of times I’ve been half undressed and been disturbed. Not fair on the client or the people who stumble across you; especially families.
Now every previous spot seems to be tagged as a dogging spot that ruins it too. Even non dogging spots you’re always wary of idiots driving around trying to get lucky. Nothing worse you’re suddenly jumped by a group of voyeurs suddenly all peering and leering at you! Very unsettling and frankly dangerous!
I avoid now except with my most regular, trusted clients. And even then I try to avoid full sex. Besides I am cold blooded! I hate winter. Fucking in a car semi dressed now winter is on the way doesn’t float my boat!
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I do car meets almost exclusively. I have never been in a threatening situation as yet, but it is very important to find a suitable location to meet i.e. somewhere quiet but not in the middle of nowhere, and I always make a point of taking the punters reg number. Just before I get in his car, I let him see me text my friend, so he knows I would be missed should something wrong.
As others have said, it's not ideal due to lack of privacy and possible safety issues, but with the right precautions taken I feel it's as safe as any other way of working, and car meets do tend to be over with quickly.
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I won't even get in a car with a client, nevermind be intimate in one. It's really about what you need to feel safe.
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When I originally set out to be an escort there was so many things I was adamant I would not do, but after a few weeks in the business I have realised I will need to in order to get more clients.
I have one potential client who prefers car meets. I have spoke to him quite a bit, both via text and telephone and he seems like a genuine, nice, 'normal' guy.
Are car meets safe? What are your experiences with car meets?
Thanks, Mia x
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Personally, I wouldn't get into a car with a new client. Maybe ask him to do an incall first and see how you feel?
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i had only one car meeting but i accepted that because i saw the guy first in a hotel plus he was a regular to the agency that i was working back then and he accepted to give me the keys to his car during our meeting for safety reasons.
In my opinion i would not feel that safe when he's having the keys to the car and you don't know him... he might seem "normal" but you don't know him at all... just be careful xx
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The more desperate you are, the easier it is to exploit you and ideally you will have better reasons than 'it might get me more clients' for shifting a boundary so dramatically.
It's a 'what's the worst that could happen?' thing, and here the answer is 'quite a lot of bad things'.
A search here will reveal a number of issues with car meets. There's the lack of control - you have no idea where you're going to end up and who will be around. The latter shows the privacy issue - do you want to provide a free show for person or persons unknown / have someone (a police patrol?) banging on the window? If shit hit the fan, you don't know you can get out - even if you're not moving, some car doors can't be unlocked by passengers. On top of all that and more, they're less comfortable than even Travelodge floors...
If you're determined to try, then at the very least you want full ID off him, and someone knowing what the car registration is and when to expect to hear from you again. (They don't need to know that cash for sex is involved, this is basic dating / work safety.) He needs to be in no doubt that someone knows who he is and will call the police if you don't get back in touch by the agreed time.
Having said all that, if your marketing says 'no car meets' then someone who asks about them should go into the 'block and ignore' list just for asking. What's his stated reason for preferring them?
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When I first started years ago, jumping in the car was the norm because I was a street worker. Never, ever again. One of the worse night of my life was being in a car with a guy who drove me around for a couple of hours. Even though we used to keep an eye out on each other, that was all well and good when you didn't return that night.
That experience has put me off for life. Even meeting them has no guarantees as someone else pointed out, even parked the passenger door can be locked.
I get regular requests for this and I find asking them where they think this is going to happen deters them. They assume because you are a hooker you will know of locations. Occasionally one will say of such and such carpark, usually with loads of cctv or miles from where I am. You point out the cctv and they say oh it will be fine. Yea mate, do you really want a criminal record for having sex in public.
And tbh, sex in cars is shit unless the car is big like a 4wd or the luxury bmw etc. Tried it in civvy life with a regular hook up and he has a couple of cars.
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Mia I would really heed the good advice given by all the posters in regards to safety. You are new so give it time and hopefully you will build up an incall or outcall clientele. If you make desperate choices it may put you in a dangerous situation. You have hardly any experience as it is. This man is taking your time without even meeting you also bear in mind that it easier to record you in close proximity in a car.
The cons outweigh the pros and this man could be out to con you x
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I have been doing a couple of car meets a week lately, and have been ok. It is a risk, but then so is meeting a stranger in a hotel room. There are ways to make it safer and to have as much control over the situation as possible. Always get the punters reg number before you agree to meet - if they don't want to give it to you, don't meet them. When I get in their car, or if they get in mine, I say something like ''I just need to text my mate to let her know I'm ok, she's waiting for me round the corner'' or something to that effect. Anything that makes them think you're not out alone (even if you are) and that someone is concerned for your safety.
Don't ever isolate yourself, find somewhere to go that you are comfortable and familiar with. If you drive, you could have a drive around where you live to look for good meeting places - never let the punter decide where to take you, even if they say they know a really good place where you won't be disturbed. You have the upper hand at all times in this situation. If anything seems 'off' about the guy, get out immediately. The normal rules like getting cash upfront and keeping to a time limit apply, also keep your phone on and within easy reach.
I hope this is of some use to you. Good luck and take care :)
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I had one sprung on me when I was new and vulnerable, the punter was supposed to have booked a meal and room for dinner date. When I arrived we had a drink at the bar, then he revealed the booking hadn't been made for meal/room can we just go to his car.... Which I did and just hated it.
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What is the reason he's given for why he won't just come for an incall?
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I did one years ago when I was desperately needing the cash and it was awful. He was someone I had seen at mine once before and he seemed fine then. But during the car meet he drove me to some deserted car park in the middle of nowhere (not where we had agreed to go) and he was massively pushing boundaries trying to have unprotected sex etc. I felt so vulnerable that no one knew where I was. If you’re going to do it then take the other’s advice and make sure you feel as safe as possible
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Having a license plate doesn't mean a thing. When I was driven around that night, the other girls had his plates and a description of the guy. This was all passed onto vice who were always around. It didn't prevent what happened. Even if police did have the resources to try and locate a car, by the time they would have caught up with us, stuff would have already happened. Just look at some of the alerts for cars and vans on ugly mugs and of course here. At least with a hotel room, you can scream for help, you can lock yourself in the bathroom, you can leave the room. It's hard to do those things in a car and attacks don't just happen when the car is parked, the attack on me started whilst we were still on the main roads.
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What is the reason he's given for why he won't just come for an incall?
Just what I was going to ask. I'd never get into a client's car.
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Just what I was going to ask. I'd never get into a client's car.
Apart from the thrown in the deep-end above, others requesting car meets have said they either can't afford a hotel, can't travel all the way to incall, or are notable famous types so cannot be seen going into a property - the risk of recognition by passersby or neighbours is too high.
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I’ve never done a car meet and never would. I had a bad experience on an outcall once and have always preferred working in my own environment.
Had a guy a few months ago asking if I did outcalls nd I said no but I was happy to see him at my incall location. He then asked where I was based I said so and he then suggested me meeting him in his car outside my place! It was very odd really as if he was to go to the trouble of coming to my place in the first place why not come inside where it’s warm and safe!
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I’ve never done a car meet and never would. I had a bad experience on an outcall once and have always preferred working in my own environment.
Had a guy a few months ago asking if I did outcalls nd I said no but I was happy to see him at my incall location. He then asked where I was based I said so and he then suggested me meeting him in his car outside my place! It was very odd really as if he was to go to the trouble of coming to my place in the first place why not come inside where it’s warm and safe!
Some punters are concerned that our premises are not warm and safe, that we or others might attack or rob them.
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Car meets are so fucking dodgy-you have to ask yourself if you're really that broke-if you have food in your fridge and no bailiffs about to break into your house I wouldn't bother
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I find it irritating that they even ask >:(
They have all the benefits of seeing our photos, reading all about us, checking out our services beforehand ( though 50% of my services would be impossible in the confines of a cab - unless they have a dressing room back there? :-\ )..
Yet supply none of the safety aspects of a hotel or proof of residency etc.
I tell them to jog along to the nearest red light district and take a lucky dip ;)
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I think what annoys me most about these requests is they are asking an indoor worker to basically provide a service which is happily provided by lots of outdoor workers. It's like they think they're too good for a streetwalker.
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I did one once, was horrible..
NEVER AGAIN.
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No chance.
I've twice been given a lift to the train station by very long standing regs and that's about the extent that I would go to. I only allowed the lift because I trusted them completely and knew their full names, places of work etc.
Safety is paramount. No amount of money is worth my safety being jeopardised.
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Yeah having said that I've been in cars with one of my regulars but I know his real details and we've known each other for years
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I have noticed a sudden increase in offers of lifts from the station to wherever. They then get all offended when I decline their offer. Used to be a rare occurrence and often followed by a lot of mansplaining how to navigate London underground or driving directions.
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Yes, I've noticed that too-if someone gets funny about me turning down a lift I just cancel them, too dodgy
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I have noticed a sudden increase in offers of lifts from the station to wherever. They then get all offended when I decline their offer. Used to be a rare occurrence and often followed by a lot of mansplaining how to navigate London underground or driving directions.
Very occasionally some punters ask me to pick them up, not sure if they want to include that time in their booking or not and I've also been advised by car insurers that doing so would in validate my insurance.
Sure we can all claim he's a friend, but I'm not risking thousands on someone forgetting themselves in the aftermath of an accident - plus it's fraud.
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Very occasionally some punters ask me to pick them up, not sure if they want to include that time in their booking or not
I had a request for this from a disabled man who can not drive.
He wanted to meet me along my drive to his, he was going to get a bus to meet me.
The journey would have been over an hour.
The chat about the overnight booking was going on too long getting changed too often and was very messy.
I refused to discuss that part and it didn't happen.
What did happen was he got his hand slapped as after the booking I gave him a lift and he immediately dug his hand hard between my thighs as high as he could as I was driving.
What an idiot I couldn't believe he had done that.
Had he got in my car along the journey he would have been put back on the bus to go home alone.
The olny time I got into a clients car was I had a long drive to his for an outcall arrived and he claimed his daughter had unexpectedly visited so he had to meet me away form his house.
I hated it but was one of my first escort experiences and I was short of money and had to get petrol to go home it was awful.
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I had a request for this from a disabled man who can not drive.
He wanted to meet me along my drive to his, he was going to get a bus to meet me.
The journey would have been over an hour.
The chat about the overnight booking was going on too long getting changed too often and was very messy.
I refused to discuss that part and it didn't happen.
What did happen was he got his hand slapped as after the booking I gave him a lift and he immediately dug his hand hard between my thighs as high as he could as I was driving.
What an idiot I couldn't believe he had done that.
Had he got in my car along the journey he would have been put back on the bus to go home alone.
The olny time I got into a clients car was I had a long drive to his for an outcall arrived and he claimed his daughter had unexpectedly visited so he had to meet me away form his house.
I hated it but was one of my first escort experiences and I was short of money and had to get petrol to go home it was awful.
I accepted offers of lifts when I was new and didn't drive, was so lucky I did a lot of other things which put me at great risk.
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Breaking my usual rules I done a 15 minute quickie for a regular last week. Quick handjob.
While it was easy, quick, no dressing up required etc I done it as the client is a loyal regular.
However his urge was that urgent that I wank him off in a multi storey car park whilst he waited for his wife to finish her Christmas shopping was politely declined!
Like I said on my previous posts; too cramped, too risky, too cold. And being a girl from the pre Internet generation before the dogging craze took off and ruined car meets, give me four walls and a bed every time!
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Ages since I posted, been meaning to.
I have done car meets since I started and at one point the majority of my income came from car meets and still do quite a few. I have a couple of interesting encounters but I don't see how different car meets are to going to someones house for example. If I were a taxi driver for instance the dangers are the same.
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Ages since I posted, been meaning to.
I have done car meets since I started and at one point the majority of my income came from car meets and still do quite a few. I have a couple of interesting encounters but I don't see how different car meets are to going to someones house for example. If I were a taxi driver for instance the dangers are the same.
Where do you wash after, where do they wash before.
Are you sure hes not going to drive off with you.
Are his mates around hiding ready to open the door.
Will someone see?
I have been asked to meet in forest laybys.
A man who can not drive said his friend would drive him to the meeting spot and wait for him.
They have no idea of our safety only what they want now.
Thats my idea of it you having done it may have the answers?
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Where do you wash after, where do they wash before.
Are you sure hes not going to drive off with you.
Are his mates around hiding ready to open the door.
Will someone see?
I have been asked to meet in forest laybys.
A man who can not drive said his friend would drive him to the meeting spot and wait for him.
They have no idea of our safety only what they want now.
Thats my idea of it you having done it may have the answers?
Well obviously there is no washing facilities, wet wipes are your only source if needed.
You can't be sure he won't drive off or his mates are hiding, but you can't be sure what will happen if you go to an address or even hotel room.
Being seen, well you go to a quiet location
I arrange a pick up in a public location were I know there are cameras
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I can not believe the amount of requests i am getting for car meets.
Much too scary for me wish it wasn't I would be in a fortune if it went well but knowing my luck Id be pushed out of the car just not brave enough t risk it.
Good luck to everyone whatever your way of working is.
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Just wanting to know others thoughts and feelings on this subject.
I’m considering offering car meets as presumably hotels will be closed until December.
Please don’t think bad of me for saying this, especially those who do offer car meets, but it almost feels too close to street working and feels a bit seedy.
Again just curious on others thoughts?
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I have done them but only if it was a trusted regular.
We often went to a car park and i gave oral. At the time I did cim and would spit outside the car. Sorry if that sounds gross.
He would be on the lookout in case anyone walks past.
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I did one years ago when I offered outcalls only.
From a safety perspective I just wouldn't.
If it's out of necessity I would ask for a deposit and have a security buddy.
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Just wanting to know others thoughts and feelings on this subject.
I’m considering offering car meets as presumably hotels will be closed until December.
Please don’t think bad of me for saying this, especially those who do offer car meets, but it almost feels too close to street working and feels a bit seedy.
Again just curious on others thoughts?
I might offer it to a regular I trusted, but otherwise, no way.
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I personally wouldn't do it for safety reasons. He could drive off with you inside and take you anywhere.
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I personally wouldn't do it for safety reasons. He could drive off with you inside and take you anywhere.
I certainly wouldn't do them, very risky as per your personal safety and uncomfortable too.
I've had a few regulars ask for them I think just because it's a bit risky. Even if it was possible to find somewhere secluded enough when I quote them an outcall price for the service they seem to go off the idea lol.
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Too many downsides, more danger, illegal so could get in trouble via police, where can you wash straight after the deed? No where. Just too seedy for me but some women do offer them so personal choice at the end of the day.
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I certainly wouldn't do them, very risky as per your personal safety and uncomfortable too.
I've had a few regulars ask for them I think just because it's a bit risky. Even if it was possible to find somewhere secluded enough when I quote them an outcall price for the service they seem to go off the idea lol.
Yeah they do not want to pay an outcall normal fee, these types of men usually want it dirt cheap. I think some of the men that do a lot of car meets kerb crawl too in the red light areas.
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A school acquaintance beat and raped six SW he invited into his car. He invited me when I was a civvy but I had a bad feeling about him. He insisted, I refused. No I wouldn't do car meets.
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Too many downsides, more danger, illegal so could get in trouble via police, where can you wash straight after the deed? No where. Just too seedy for me but some women do offer them so personal choice at the end of the day.
agree it’s the seediness that bothers me, obviously the safety aspect too. I think I’ll knock the idea on the head
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A school acquaintance beat and raped six SW he invited into his car. He invited me when I was a civvy but I had a bad feeling about him. He insisted, I refused. No I wouldn't do car meets.
jesus christ :o
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I have done car meets a couple of times with trusted regulars, who I know only ever want a BJ to completion and are over and done with in 5 minutes. But I don't like them either, and worry about the safety aspect. But I have done them, and would do them again if I was in a situation where I really needed the money. For me being in serious financial difficulty is more frightening than doing car meets. So no judgement here.
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I did a car meet once but i had bad vibes and I felt v vulnerable and not in control of the situation. I would not do them again.
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Only when I am desperate for dough. I know a secluded car park in the countryside. But yes not too safe is it ....
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Over the years I’ve had maybe 3-4 requests to go to someone’s big rig (18 wheeler, long hauler, lorry?) for an outcall & I’ve refused. Every time, they’ve tried to persuade me, saying how their trucks are set up like little apartments & how nice they are ... nope.
I know how nice they can be, my ex owned 3 of’em, FFS. It’s too much like walking the blade (street walking); & here stateside there’s girls at truck stops that do this, they’re called “lot lizards🦎.” Believe me, *not* a compliment.
But yeah, car dates seem really scary to me & at least here, all the guys are simply trying to avoid paying more. There’s basically no bells🔔& whistles with a car date, so the perception is they shouldn’t have to pay💰you, oh, ANYTHING🤬🪓.
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Over the years I’ve had maybe 3-4 requests to go to someone’s big rig (18 wheeler, long hauler, lorry?) for an outcall & I’ve refused. Every time, they’ve tried to persuade me, saying how their trucks are set up like little apartments & how nice they are ... nope.
I know how nice they can be, my ex owned 3 of’em, FFS. It’s too much like walking the blade (street walking); & here stateside there’s girls at truck stops that do this, they’re called “lot lizards🦎.” Believe me, *not* a compliment.
But yeah, car dates seem really scary to me & at least here, all the guys are simply trying to avoid paying more. There’s basically no bells🔔& whistles with a car date, so the perception is they shouldn’t have to pay💰you, oh, ANYTHING🤬🪓.
I can see why you'd avoid the big rig clients. I watch too many real crime shows and have seen how that can work out.
Never understand why they think car meets should be cheap when it involves me dragging my ass out of my warm comfy home/bed to an uncomfortable and potentially unsafe situation... should be charged double at least! Not that even that would tempt me.
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Not something I would normally entertain. Having said that I have got an occasional regular, the sort you see when they are visiting your area for work, who I have met twice in his car when he has contacted to say he is passing through and would I be able to meet. It's just been kissing, groping and oral and parked up somewhere really discreet. No way would I consider getting in a car with a client I didn't know.
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I got a guy last week texting to meet in his van for a 15 minute, I don't even do 30 minutes at the moment. For me it's too risky and I wouldn't feel safe as someone else said you just don't know if a group could be waiting. I watched the film Joy the other day and this made me think even more how lucky I am to choose to escort and not have to work RLD. Also as a kid I was always told not to get into cars with strangers and I didn't follow my mums advice when I was 16. I met a older guy and he was charming and I agreed to go on a date. Ended letting him pick me up for a date, Went to a country pub and on the way back to drop me home he pulled into a wooded area. Well I was beyond panicking, I let him kiss me but because I felt scared I gave him a BJ and my gut was screaming with panic and when he parked up I already knew he'd want more than a kiss. I was a virgin and luckily stayed one, I got him to drop me home. But that was so stupid of me and made me realise he had all the power. So I'd never do a car meet or let a client pick me up or drop me home and plenty have offered to.
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I am really new to prostitution, so forgive any blunders or dumb questions
I got a few requests for car meets and I did my first one yesterday, got picked up in a car park, we went to a farm track just behind a B&Q,I felt nervous, it was wierd as it was nine in the evening and still quite light, people were walking their dogs and riding past on horses and cycles just a few feet away, it was exciting too.
The guy was really nice and booked me again. I live with my parents so can only do out calls so I will be doing more of them.
Any thoughts?
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Merged - plenty of 'thoughts' above :).
Mine would be that I would rather lose the money ten times over than get in some random's car, but it's easy for me to say when I have a nice incall flat.
Please at least tell us you have a sensible security buddy to check in with so that somebody knows where you are, not that it'll make much difference if he decides to drive off somewhere completely unfamiliar and take your phone from you.
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My thoughts are
Not a chance in hell.
It's mostly cheapskates that want a outcall but won't let you come to there house or pay for a hotel.
The danger is higher risk then doing incalls or outcalls to there home or hotel in my opinion.
No where to wash
Plus legal side is your not allowed to fuck in cars or fields etc so could get reported or police come across you so that is another problem.
From your posts on " part girl" too it looks like you might like the idea of a bit of a risk.
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I wouldn't purely for the reasons of safety. Also, if you get caught, it's just going to be a pain (and awkward) to explain the situation.
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I have done many car meets over the past two nearly three years I have been working.
I don't really see them as any more dangerous than going to a house. I had my moments while on a car meet, Been left naked as the guy drove off, but I have had difficult clients in hotel rooms too.
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That's quite bad pepper :o how the hell did you get home wearing no clothes? x.
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I don't really see them as any more dangerous than going to a house. I had my moments while on a car meet, Been left naked as the guy drove off, but I have had difficult clients in hotel rooms too.
Well if you're at a house then in theory your security buddy knows exactly where you are and where to send help if anything goes wrong and they don't hear from you, or at the very least you know exactly where you are if you have to exit in a hurry.
If some bloke decides to drive off to God knows where, nick your phone and ditch you at the side of the road you won't have a clue, and that's still a better outcome than being taken to some field or car park where his mates are all waiting, and in a car you can't stop or get out of. And there should be no need to be naked; if you have to do it wear a short skirt or dress which you can pull up and then down again.
I don't go to private residences either, that said :)
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That's quite bad pepper :o how the hell did you get home wearing no clothes? x.
There was a pub a few hundred yards away, but before I got to it someone had called the police and they arrived with flashing blue lights.
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Well if you're at a house then in theory your security buddy knows exactly where you are and where to send help if anything goes wrong and they don't hear from you, or at the very least you know exactly where you are if you have to exit in a hurry.
If some bloke decides to drive off to God knows where, nick your phone and ditch you at the side of the road you won't have a clue, and that's still a better outcome than being taken to some field or car park where his mates are all waiting, and in a car you can't stop or get out of. And there should be no need to be naked; if you have to do it wear a short skirt or dress which you can pull up and then down again.
I don't go to private residences either, that said :)
But you don't know how many people are in a house or apartment or even a hotel room and you can easily be taken from a house to some place else.
As for just pulling up the skirt, that what usually happens but he asked me to undress and do it on lip of the boot, happens occasionally. As soon I had taken off my clothing he jumped in his car, locked the doors and drove off.
Got a police caution for what he did.
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But you don't know how many people are in a house or apartment or even a hotel room and you can easily be taken from a house to some place else.
No but as has been said your security buddy knows where to send the police and if you were taken from a house they would have an initial point to begin their enquiries from
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But the police probably won't take a missing person report for 24 hours if your lucky and unless their is evidence of a crime they won't do any serious investigating even then, so I am told. People go missing from addresses too.
There are registration numbers of cars, you do a check that a car and registration number matches, you get picked up where there is CCTV and you chat with the driver before you get in to see what he is like. Cars leave trails too
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I did do some in my younger days. I did some in Wembley and other places. Some went ok, others didn't. I stopped fairly early on though. Far too risky.
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Hi all. Hope you don't mind a newbie male escort posting on here. I've recently started advertising for outcalls and car meets. I was a little reluctant to offer car meets at first but thought it might enhance my appeal. I took a booking for a car meet but then cancelled at the last minute. I just felt a little nervous about the potential dangers. I'm just wondering whether you think it's safe for male escorts to do car meets or are the dangers the same (apologies for any implied sexism here) or can car meets be safe? Thank you for any advice.
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Hi all. Hope you don't mind a newbie male escort posting on here. I've recently started advertising for outcalls and car meets. I was a little reluctant to offer car meets at first but thought it might enhance my appeal. I took a booking for a car meet but then cancelled at the last minute. I just felt a little nervous about the potential dangers. I'm just wondering whether you think it's safe for male escorts to do car meets or are the dangers the same (apologies for any implied sexism here) or can car meets be safe? Thank you for any advice.
Being trapped inside a moving metal box with a stranger in the middle of god-knows-where with no address is dangerous for anyone, man, woman or unicorn. If you have the body complexion of Dwayne Jonhson and the martial skills of Jason statham you're fine, however if you're small slim frame type of guy you're facing the same issues as the ladies. Unfortunately for everyone psycopaths come in all colours and sexual orientations.