I have a guy I do this too but not that hard and he always wears silk boxers , he reckoned it stops the marks , might be worth wearing a silk slip .

To be honest though I'd of told him to fuck off with the hitting straight away after the first one but I would of really clarified how hard he coule go !

I have all that on my profile and won't see Dominant guys full stop !

Be very clear about what you expect from them and say too hard and I'll ask you to leave immediately .

Whatever you do don't use a garden cane. They'll crack and splinter leaving you not only bruised but with potential cuts. Also it's not easy to get splinters out of your bum cheeks unless you've got an obliging friend to help.

Thin canes sting, thicker ones thud on the skin leaving deeper tissue bruising (if used hard). I've always been the one caning never the receiver. Normally I'd ask how hard they want it, go for the first stroke and then ask them if they want it harder.

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Arnica cream is good to take the bruising away , I've never found it that effective but lots of people swear by it x

It sounds like this man is a nasty peice of work. A garden cane for fuck sake?!?! I’m a pro domme and I wouldn’t use one of those on my clients due to the fact they splinter and break and can be incredibly dangerous and for £5 he sounds like he’s really taking the mickey out of you. I do also offer switch devices but I only offer them to experienced male/female/trans doms and hard canings isn’t something I enjoy which I make that clear of. This man knows that you didn’t have any experience so took advantage of that and it sounds as though he deserves a warning on here for boundary pushing. Maybe worth writing on you don’t entertain male dominants that are interested in inflicting pain. Personally I’m thinking the possibility of what’s happened is, he’s seen something on porn, he wanted to try it and was inexperienced? Or he is an asshole and wanted to hurt you on purpose but by the sounds of it the second sounds more likely.

What they said, really.

Bamboo - what you'd have got at B&Q and what he may have had - is hollow and has a horrible tendency to split, leaving very sharp edges.

Canes for BDSM use need to be solid, typically rattan. This has a spongy-like core if you look at one end, made up of lots of small tubes. Although you can break them, they're much stronger and can be very flexible, especially when wet.

Thinner ones sting and welt more than thicker ones which are more 'thuddy' and bruisey. Individual bottoms tend to have definite preferences over which is more enjoyable.

Floppier canes typically hurt/sting more - although the top should be aiming things so that the actual end doesn't hit the bottom, the flexibility means that the far end can be going much faster when it comes into contact. (This, plus the added weight of the water absorbed again increasing the force of the impact, is why some people soak them for twenty minutes or so before use.)

Caning can leave all sorts of marks, depending on width and strength of strokes. To minimise them, a spanking and/or paddling reddening the bottom first is definitely advisable.

As ever, what you charge is up to you, but dedicated pro-subs either usually charge a lot more than £5/stroke or far more per hour and have limits on how many can happen in that time. Because of the danger of having an random stranger with a cane in his hand doing stuff to you, they can also insist on having someone else around too - chargeable to the client, obviously.

Slimmer cane will be more painful. Usually escorts or prosubs charge £10 for 1 cane. You can try asking for £20 but I am not sure if he will pay that