My bells would be ringing during the phonecall tbh this sounds like a timewaster, wouldnt be suprised if he didnt ever call back.

the best way would be to be honest send a text saying you cant do it do it and add his number to the ignore pile

He was babbling that much, im really not sure he heard.....One of those awkward times, where they are obviously nervous, talk too much, you get their whole life history....

He probably is a nice guy,  but on balance i just dont want to see him as i cant take the risk that he wont listen if needs be during an appointment!.

He was babbling that much, im really not sure he heard.....One of those awkward times, where they are obviously nervous, talk too much, you get their whole life history....

He probably is a nice guy,  but on balance i just dont want to see him as i cant take the risk that he wont listen if needs be during an appointment!.

I know exactly what you mean about this "GUT SAYS NO!" feeling - I had it in a rather odder situation recently; a man emailed to very cordially say he was blind but would it be okay to make an appointment and of course I said yes (warning him about my stairs and shower, etc). However, when he called to make arrangements, he was extremely pushy on the phone - he wanted to know if I lived alone, and what my address was, and how long I'd been working. I found myself just letting him talk while my brain tried to figure out what was going on! And eventually, I just said a very polite goodbye because I swear to god, I honestly think he could have been pretending to be blind in order to get escorts' guards down so he could ask robbery-type questions. It was really weird and I still don't know if I was totally wrong - but the good thing about going with your gut is you never really get the chance to regret it, because you're too busy being alive and well and so on.

Anyway, as for this particular situation, I think A) you're completely right to go with your instincts, and B) Amy is also completely right in that he's already forfeited his appointment by not calling to confirm. You must really try not to feel guilty about this - I know that's easier said than done.

If the client calls you at his appointment time expecting you to be magically open-legged and waiting for him, you can politely explain that he forgot to do something that you instructed him to do. Or you could just not answer, because perhaps it's not your job to hold his hand and risk your own safety while he figures out the (exceedingly simple) methods of booking an escort without making her gut say "NO!" ?

I have turned down over 50% of the potential business,
because something feels wrong.

I have never had a dangerous or threatening situation with a client, ever.

I think these two facts are linked.

As Amy said it is best to recap your confirmation routine at the end of the conversation.

I always let potential clients  know that,  if I do not hear from them at a specific time I asked them to confirm I automatically assume the booking is cancelled.  simples 

You should have just said the booking was off because he didn't confirm. He'll not make the connection, I try to be straight with chaps. Well as much as I can be then you've got a chance he might realise and not mess anyone else around. Then again he might not give a toss.