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SabrinaOfYork

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Can you get it back again!??
« on: 20 November 2007, 03:14:37 pm »
Just wondering if when you loose it you can get it back again?? I have been a WG on and off for a number of years now, seem to keep on drifting back into it, mainly during the many times I decide to become a student again!
I used to almost even enjoy the job, meeting new ppl the regular plentiful cash in the hand, yeah ok it was a bit of mind over matter even back then but I was good at it, focused on the regular and not the quick get em in and out approach and did really really well.
Then I did the stupid thing -  met a guy while I was working, (not a punter) told him what I was doing, sure he was fine with that! Sure he was! meant that he could sit on his backside for 3 years and sponge off me giving me a hard time anytime he felt like it and blaming it on my work!! Anyway had to give up, now I am back into it again and cant seem to muster up the will power to do it.   Will this come back or is it time to hang up the stockings once and for all?
I'm still with the same partner, this time he has a job and says this time he is happy with me doing it and will be supportive, but I don't know I have this niggling doubt in the back of my mind it is all talk and he will go back to being the asshole he was back then!
What you guys reckon?........all input will be gratfully received.

Many thanks
Sabrina xxxxxx

MM

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Re: Can you get it back again!??
« Reply #1 on: 21 November 2007, 04:19:33 pm »
how many years have you been in and out of this industry if you don't mind me asking this?

I once wondered if there's a "time limit" so to speak during which you're so keen (to work) and then after a while you had that "keep going period" that went past, there is a time when you need to think a bit ---I cannot say specifically how many months or years before you start thinking about perhaps "leaving" this industry or stopping work or wondering why you don't feel that motivated like before---...that depends on individuals & her circumstances that may involved and the reasons may be quite complex and some deep thinking process are even happening  in a sub-conscious level even when we are asleep or are doing something else but it seems we all become more aware of "why" in an intellectual level at some point but not straight away.

some people who are in this business/industry so long (cannot say exactly how many years to be precise) might be facing with their personal emotional issues that happened in the past and servicing men (which is an act of giving emotionally) carrying that emotional issues along.  Some people may try to explore other route to make a living/interest/volunteer work/education/qualification in a civic street winding down this part of life gradually.

in a little more practical and simple note, you may find sex work just too much of repeating the same sort of things just like a dentist treats patients all day long and start to find it unrewarding and predictable particularly if you are bright...

maybe you feel you've been there and done that and you want to explore pasture new? it's good to ask questions like that :-* :-* :-* keep asking xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx





 

SJ

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Re: Can you get it back again!??
« Reply #2 on: 22 November 2007, 10:42:13 am »
Relationships and this job are usually (not always) difficult.

I wonder if I could really respect a man who stays at home doing not a lot while the partner is on her back earning for them both and possibly for the family. But then why shouldn't a modern woman be the breadwinner, plenty of women are kept by their high earning husbands? This point is further complicated by the fact that her breadwinning job is that of an WG, not a 'normal' job. Overall not sure how I feel about the entire issue but at the end of the day its what works for each individual couple.

On to the keenness time limit. I think there probably is you know. I've been at it 7 years and have had a few phases where I dont fancy it much which is when I take a break. I always come back refreshed and ready for it so I guess I have not reached that stage yet. However.....

I have had a few issues over the summer and together they made me loose my escorting mojo a tad. I have found it was a bit like going to the gym,when you are getting on with it, its great, but when you stop going, its hard to get motivated again.

My mojo returned a few weeks back and I am now back loving the job so I think the answer is; if you start  working again and enjoy it then all good but if you are finding it a drag for any length of time then yes, time to hang up those stockings and find something more satisfying.

Preserving ones sanity is the most important thing in this job me thinks.
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MM

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Re: Can you get it back again!??
« Reply #3 on: 23 November 2007, 11:42:44 am »

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b]Relationships and this job are usually (not always) difficult.[/b]

I wonder if I could really respect a man who stays at home doing not a lot while the partner is on her back earning for them both and possibly for the family. But then why shouldn't a modern woman be the breadwinner, plenty of women are kept by their high earning husbands? This point is further complicated by the fact that her breadwinning job is that of an WG, not a 'normal' job. Overall not sure how I feel about the entire issue but at the end of the day its what works for each individual couple. .... ......

Fantastic post xxxxxxxx

Agree with you totally where I highlighted in bold in particular - I find having a BF is useful (what a utilitarian way of describing LOL) in life generally since it does give some a sense of stability whenever I am in it but BF hanging round/living together can be very tricky when I have got the "urge" some times in the evenings of cold winter months when I need a little more excitement to cope with cold weather etc than a relationship "routine".

let's admit it adventurous spirit in escorting & relationship is a bit like fire & water.  it seems civic life as someone's GF seems to pull away from all the free-spirited urge to enjoy it that would be necessary element in this industry. 

being single & all the free time available would be ideal to do escorting me thinks although as SJ did mention there are married women/women in a lon-term committed relationship are managing it very well.  suppose it depends on the personality type you are and how much your relationship's taking up your mental, physical and emotional energies and if you still got juice flowing for more adventure away from the relationship. a real tough one!  :D :-* ;)





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