hi,

i need some help, my escort friend was raped twice, the first she reported to the police and was not treated well. she has not reported the second that happened over a year ago simply because how she was treated by the police and now this guy who raped her has emailed her (he regularly has text and emailed her since the rape) and has said about raping someone else, and now she wants to tell the police but is scared to because how she was treated by the police the last time and i was looking for some advice to give her, can she tell maybe another police force and if she can is there any sympathetic police forces as i have heard different boroughs the police treat escorts differently, some nice and some not, and what else can i tell her to go to and read or who to speak to to help her.

thanks in advance,
holly

I can't add to the excellent advice given by Amy except to say that's horrendous and I hope your
friend gets the support, help and justice she deserves. 

This scumbag needs to be caught and jailed, take Amy's advice please.

Tiffani, you don't need me to tell you that the UK is not the same as the US, and we all screen clients - we just do it in a different way. Possession of somebody's legal identity will not stop them attacking you if they are intent on doing so; all we can do is provide as many effective deterrents as possible and apply as many security measures as we can. The fault here is not with Holly and her friend and Holly came here requesting advice - if she does not want to post all the gory details on a public message board (that the offender could well be reading) she does not have to, and the behaviour of the police would be better described to and investigated by an appropriate body, not detailed here for us all to wring our hands about.

The vast majority of us do not just admit any random punter who wanders in off the street and are extremely vigilant when it comes to our safety and security - I have been robbed once in over seven years (partly my own fault for being too slack wth a repeat client) and apart from a couple of oddballs that is it - most of the ladies I know have never experienced violence of any kind. I agree that the client's details should be added to the various Warnings boards if they are not already there, and if I hear back from Holly I will suggest this for her to pass on to her friend.

"I know screening is not the norm in the UK, but I SWEAR it needs to be. This can't be the way things are, you ladies just meet any joe off the street, without more advanced notice than an hour, without regard for their intent."

Whoa there, we have a buddy scheme here in the UK which helps to keep individual SP's safe.

As Amy said, if a guy is intent on raping a lady, then he will do so, regardless of any screening processes.

In the UK, what we do is quite legal, so I personally would have no qualms about going to the authorities. Where you are it's illegal, right ?

To give you an example of the buddy system in action -

About two years ago I was buddying a new lady in Glasgow and she went to a hotel for an outcall.

We had an agreed script between us, if she called and said "I'm here and everything is fine", then I would relax.
If she said "I'm here and everything's fine, by the way he's lovely", then I would know something was wrong.

So on this occassion I called the hotel and asked to be put through to the room.

The client answered the phone and I said, " Hi, as I understand it, you have a prostitute held against her will
in your hotel room. Let her go right now, or we'll see what the hotel management have to say about it."

Funnily enough that had the desired effect. My point is, we may not have the intense screening process that
you have, but we do keep one and other safe.

Whoa there, we have a buddy scheme here in the UK which helps to keep individual SP's safe.

As Amy said, if a guy is intent on raping a lady, then he will do so, regardless of any screening processes.

In the UK, what we do is quite legal, so I personally would have no qualms about going to the authorities. Where you are it's illegal, right ?

I think the buddy system sounds nice...

And yes, in the US it's illegal ANY way you put a spin on it. LOL

But for the same reason, it's a tighter community of ladies and gentlemen. The boards and forums are so huge that there are ladies who make their living off of review forums alone . It's like a club, when you're in you're in. If one of these guys were to rob or rape a lady, they're added to two nationwide Do Not See lists. They'll never get a date anywhere else. But you are absolutely right. It doesn't stop it from happening.

My normal way of doing things doesn't consist of being available same day, or same week in most cases. I don't list my number in my ads to avoid calls. 96% of my inquiries are serious. My clients and I communicate quite a bit once his interest has been made known.  When I get to London that's going to change for me, and I have to be comfortable with the gents I meet. Please understand where I'm coming from, ladies. I mean no disrespect and as you can see I will need all the help I can get.

This is my worst case scenario, being far from home and having something happen to me like the OP's friend. And no one has been forthcoming about really being safe, or screening methods (is there a reason for that? I mean, are you worried about the gents finding out about it? Honestly I'm confused.). For the most part, "we have our ways" is all I hear. If the situation were on the other foot, I would make sure you had all the resources available to you. And I mean it, ladies. There should be no reason if you ever decide to tour the US you feel thrown to the wolves. I am an open book, and I will always try to impart as much wisdom as I can when you ladies need help.

Amy, you're one of the few ladies that states on your site that you will be checked out. And I've checked out a lot of ladies' websites. But before you, everyone's like "Call me! All I need is an hour!" And I'm sure everyone has their methods. Just that no one says it out loud. All I'm sayin'.

But if I were raped, I would feel comfortable saying so here, and telling you what I did and asking you ladies what you think I did wrong. What you would've done differently. It wouldn't bother me that the  guy could read this. At least he would know he didn't silence me. Part of that is because you can't embarrass me because I feel that we're all human. That's the worst part of being raped, feeling alienated. I have heard of instances of ladies that have had to jump out of moving cars, lucky to be alive come on certain sites and say 'I was desperate. I felt like I had no choice but to take the risk.' And I'm not saying that's the case every time something bad happens to a lady,  but it's okay to admit failure to keep someone else from making the same mistake.

Hi,

All has been said really. But please will you let us know how it all turns out for her.

H xx