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meee

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can caning cause permenant damage
« on: 20 July 2012, 03:15:06 pm »
I ask cos I had a client who used a cane on me about 5 weeks ago and it still hurts if I sit down really hard or if my boyfriend squeezes my butt-he used the cane about 30 times and I've no idea what else he used as I was blindfolded but it hurt like a bitch when he'd finished I had a bruise that covered both my butt cheeks as well as all the cane marks,the bruising went after 3 weeks or so so I don't know why it still hurts,I think I'll stop doing bdsm now I went through so much make up covering those bruises to go to work and the other clients still noticed

lady c

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #1 on: 20 July 2012, 05:02:49 pm »
sounds like torture nothing else, its all well living fantasies but when it results in severe bruising or pain then i personally think a boundary has been crossed he went too far and you should have stopped him. Permanent damage no but it should not result in weeks of pain.

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #2 on: 20 July 2012, 05:03:26 pm »
You have no Idea what else he used as you were blindfolded.          Now that is a statement that scares the hell out of me.  Why would get allow yourself to be in a situation where you do not know what a client is hitting you with???
BDSM is not good in an escort setting unless you know and trust the client. 
Yes canes etc can cause damage to the soft tissue especially if he used one similar to the Singapore stinger as it not only leaves welts and bruises but can damage the soft tissue and muscle tissue.
From what you are saying I get the feeling you do not know enough about the BDSM scene to be playing at it.  It can be extremely dangerous if someone does not know what they are doing.  I have said this in many threads if you do not live in the scene do not play at it in an escort booking.  It is dangerous and some men have no idea what they are doing but like to play at it to feel powerful. 

I would go to the doctor and get yourself checked just incase he has caused muscle, ligament or tissue damage.  A quick scan will reveal anything wrong.

Also remember the coccyx is at the base of the spine at the top of your bum and if hit it can be bruised, dislocated (which causes a little pain but not enough to make you panic but hurts when you sit or stand up) or even chipped the coccyx.  This is all worst case scenario but never the less something you should stop and think about before letting guys who have no clue what they are doing start hitting you.
Reading your posts I really think you need to change your way of working as some of the posts are so scary I am scared to death for you.  Perhaps pop along to a local project to get some advice on working safely or read the main site again and again
« Last Edit: 20 July 2012, 05:07:00 pm by Dani »
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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #3 on: 20 July 2012, 06:18:32 pm »
Agree with Dani on this.  I've been in the scene for 25 years plus and would never allow clients to use a cane (Junior Rattan) for more than a few very light strokes (no marks, let alone bruising).

Do get it checked out is the only answer.

I hope you never let a client do bastinardo (caning bottom of your feet) - tendon damage is common and can be permanent. 

With bruising, try using Arnica cream (off the shelf at Boots etc) - should reduce/heal it quicker. 

meee

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #4 on: 20 July 2012, 07:11:53 pm »
Hi-no.I've never let a client cane the bottom of my feet,I won't be in future either,thanks for the advice.I think you guys are right,I don't really have a clue what I'm doing to be honest-I never did bdsm before I started escorting,I just had rough sex with my bf that involved spanking and sometimes face slapping,handcuffs ect-I just thought bdsm would involve gags and whips and stuff,I didn't really read up first lol-is there anywhere that teaches you about different practises/different types of equipment ect?
I never should have taken that booking,the problem is I'm always arranging work at short notice,when I need money so I'm not as careful as I should be-it's hard to find work at all really cos I don't do owo and I can only do it on certain days,to be fair some of them can probably sense that I'm desparate so take the piss more and the bloke just mentioned handcuffs and spanking so I didn't think it was nessasery to have a safe-word,then of course when I was crying and saying stop he thought it was part of the act-he thought forcing me to do owo was part of the game as well lol(luckily I'm still clean),to be honest he terrified me as he went to put a gag in my mouth but I couldn't breath through my nose as I had a cold,luckily he stopped that when I started screeching at him lol-the problem is the crying and stuff seemed to get him going even more,he said afterwards he liked that I was "innocent"-I didn't know whether to put a warning up on here or not cos he has like 70 good feedbacks on aw and I suppose it was up to me to ask about a safe-word

Dani

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #5 on: 20 July 2012, 08:29:05 pm »
CUFFS :FF :FF :FF How can you let a total stranger who has already said he wants BDSM to handcuff you.  You need to stop working for a little bit.  Go onto JSA or similar while you sort yourself out.  You cannot keep working like this.  I have gone through all your threads and you have been told time and time again to not allow certain things and to read the main site.  No one person should have gone through what you have in such a short space of time.  This job is hard and it is not for everyone and I hate to say it but I really do not think it is for you.  It is one disaster after another where you seem to put your own life at risk without a second thought.
Now I know I sound harsh but I am not going to soft soap you and say it will get better blah blah blah as it wont as you do not do anything to make your practise safer.  I know this is a support forum where we should offer help and I am offering you advice.  Get out now before something very serious happens to you. 
That is the only advice I can give as everyone has said everything else in your other threads.  Every bit of advice that could be given has been yet you still end up in the same situations.
I seriously think you need a job change.  Perhaps do webcamming instead where you cannot be in danger.  As I said some take to this job like a duck to water, others take a bit longer and some just are not suited at all.  I think you fall into the latter of these.  You do not take your own safety seriously enough.  If you did you would not keep ending up in awful situations.   I am not being nasty or horrible I am being honest as I am worried sick that the next thread you post will be something really bad or someone will post for you as you will be unable to. 
I know some will not agree with what I have written but I have kept a close eye on your threads as have seen things go from bad to worse and even though I do not know you I worry myself silly over what you will do next
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lady c

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #6 on: 20 July 2012, 09:45:43 pm »
yes i agree with dani aswell this job is safety first and should not have the risks you put yourself in total control at all times if they don,t like it tough.. Take care and take the advice hunni..x 

meetingdiversity

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #7 on: 21 July 2012, 12:27:47 am »
Please be careful as a sub once still got the scars to show from a BDSM session with the Cain while tied up, but the difference was that I agreed. Yes many Sadists about who get extremely horny doing this. But now I don't do it apart from 1 year regular. All that danger BDSM is in my eyes as had a lucky escape, all it needed was a psycho. Even Bondage tied up is risky with clients taking full advantage in the wrong way. I can never trust clients, always keep your witts about them because some can switch instantly.

You don't deserve to be treated like this even in desperate times as money can't save a life. Please be careful as guys pick up on desperation and take advantage. That's just the way some of society is always going to be. What about if you set a few set days a week in a routine to work?. This way will be better feeling less pressured.

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #8 on: 21 July 2012, 08:52:31 am »
Hi,

In answer to your question "Yes, permanent damage can be done whilst caning".

I too am in the scene but i don't and never would switch.

Why on earth would you let a stranger blindfold you and do what the hell he wants to you ?

Saying that though you need to go to your doctor, be honest (They really have heard it all before) and get yourself checked out.

My cane makers wife had her coccyx permanently damaged in a session by someone who wasn't accurate when caning her and she will never "play" again....something she used to enjoy and was heavily into the scene.

I hope things work out and maybe you have learned a very valuable lesson albeit a painful one.

Roxychu

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Re: can caning cause permenant damage
« Reply #9 on: 21 July 2012, 07:10:24 pm »
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